Anonymous
Post 07/09/2018 14:32     Subject: Dealing with resentment while on vacation

Get up in the morning and do your own thing. One day of this and his attitude will change dramatically.
Anonymous
Post 07/09/2018 13:31     Subject: Dealing with resentment while on vacation

Hubby sounds like a prick.
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2018 23:01     Subject: Dealing with resentment while on vacation

Anonymous wrote:I always tell couples who are dating to travel together, preferably to a country where neither speaks the language. You really don't know someone until you travel with them and see how they function out of their comfort zone or under stress. That behavior translates to all kinds of situations back home. OP your DH sounds like a dick. Can you just do your own thing on this trip and let him stew in the hotel.


18:28 here with the husband who has difficulty with transitions, particularly on vacation. See, I did what you wrote. He was lovely then. Sometimes there are NO red flags in a relationship until you're years into it. It must have something to do with aging gracefully, or not! And that's before stress from greater responsibility (kids, work, etc) comes into it.
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2018 22:53     Subject: Dealing with resentment while on vacation

Sounds like an a-hole I once dated. Do you have kids?
grace4ever
Post 07/08/2018 22:50     Subject: Re:Dealing with resentment while on vacation

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and concerns with us. I am so sorry you are dealing with such a difficult situation. These forums are great for sharing burdens, and venting. There is always hope even in the most difficult moments. Have you ever heard of the phrase:” When the person gets married bring their own luggage”? That does mean that we bring wounds from our own families. Have you considered to dialogue in asking him why he behaves in that way? I encourage you to open your heart to dialogue with him and both can talk about your feelings. Therapy or counseling works through things like this. You and your husband are valuable and worth of fighting for. Therapy will help you both overcome what is causing this confrontation.. Have you considered to forgive him? Forgiveness does not mean that he is doing right but means that you let the problem go. Forgiveness is the first step of change and healing. There’s no perfect persons, so there’s no perfect marriage. However there’s brave couples who are able to fight for their relationship and together seek for help outside through therapy or marriage counseling. I encourage you both to take this an opportunity to be aware that marriage always has its ups and downs. Sending you hugs. I will keep you in my prayers, my friend – Keep us posted, Ok?