Anonymous wrote:No but they have our garage code. They live 20 mins away but dont come over unannounced.

+1.

Absolutely. Both sets of parents and three sets of siblings also have keys to the house as well as their own security codes. Both sets of parents and one sibling also have the safe combination and are signers on the safe deposit box. If anything happens to us we want easy continuity. And honestly there is nothing going on in our house that we care about people finding out.

If my MIL did, she would've lost it within a few days.

They live many states away and we give them a spare key when they visit, and probably would give them one if they lived nearby for emergencies.

Anonymous wrote:They get a key when they're visiting us (they live a thousand miles away).

The key is on a giant, neon green, carabiner so it is bulky, tough to lose, and intentionally difficult to pocket.

Very similar here. Only, thankfully the distance is 3000 miles and we on,y give them a key if they actually need it because they’ll be here while we are at work and will need to come and go on their own.

No, but I have a key to MIL’s.

My dad, yes. In laws, never!

HELL no. No concept of boundaries.

Yes.

Anonymous wrote:Yes - but they’re all the kind of people who wouldn’t lose it/misuse it. Totally understand not sharing keys when there are boundary issues.

Same. My inlaws have keys and I'm fine with it.

Yes - but they’re all the kind of people who wouldn’t lose it/misuse it. Totally understand not sharing keys when there are boundary issues.

Both sets of our parents have the garage code. They use it for when/if they travel to us and arrive before we get home from work. Or for emergencies. They are all trustworthy and would never use it without our knowledge. If they are running early, they let us know.

My local aunt and cousin also have the code for emergencies or to check on our house during vacations.

yep, and so do my parents, and sister, and next door neighbors. We're not super private people and want people to be able to pick up the kids/walk the dog without hiding a key, etc.

My IL's nearby and they have the garage code and maybe a key. I have the same for their home plus their alarm code. We know them a lot better than any of our neighbors so if we are away and we need someone to gain access who better than them?

Heck no.