Anonymous wrote:This wouldn’t be appealing to most divorced dads.

Most want to remarry if they have youngish kids or they want a child free younger woman.

Even if you found one who wanted this, you’d have to get in the same custody schedule to make it work. I’d be leery of any man willing to change kids’ weekly schedules just so he can have sex with you twice a week.

WTF are you talking about? This is extremely appealing. NSA sex? Where do I sign up?

OP, what area are you in? This is my ideal setup. Divorced dad here in MD/DC.

Outdoor meetups. Camping. But online is more direct.

You've got to go online.

This is exactly the arrangement I have, and it's going well. We've been together for about 8 months so far. Sex is great, love spending time with him, but no plans to introduce him to the kids and neither of us has any intention of getting married, possibly ever. Maybe once kids are gone, but that's at least 10 years away.

You'll find it, OP. They are on all the dating sites. Don't go for the never marrieds. And early on, like at the second or third date, throw out what you are looking for. A companion to see regularly, go out with, do adult things, but with the understanding that your priority is your kids. No expectations for anything more serious. Exclusive, if sex is involved.

I do think most people want to either just hook up or get married. It's harder to find people where we are, but they used to call this "dating."

Anonymous wrote:I'm a divorced mom and I'm looking for something very specific. A relationship in which:

1) we get together one or two nights a week for dinner (either I cook or we go out) and sex
2) stay the night or not
3) committed and monogamous, but no marriage until kids are grown, if ever

Where do I find nice divorced dads who are looking for safe fun?

Divorced guy with young kids. this is what I’m looking for. Just look online or elsewhere.
Single never marrieds don’t get it. I’m bored with the hookup option

I can see tolerating the other person dating others or hanging out with others, but if they are also having sex with others you are really at risk for STDs which trust me is totally not cool.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a divorced mom with a situation like this-although we aren't monogamous by mutual agreement, and we do go out with friends sometimes, so some people would think of us as a couple. We've been dating over a year, and are at the point now where we might do something together with our kids once a month or so (no sleepovers). We met at a family event at a bar with our kids and were introduced by a mutual friend. You could definitely ask around for friends to set you up, or sometimes there are local meetups for single parents.

I’m the male poster upthread with this now. Why wouldn’t you be monogous? I would be very hurt if my girlfriend went out with someone else.

For him, he hasn't been good at monogamy and doesn't want to set himself up to fail. For me, I was monogamous because that's what my spouse needed, but I got cheated on anyway. I feel better know that we are both living by the same rules and I can do what I want to do. I had a traditional marriage, it wasn't great for me, so I'm ready to try something new.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a divorced mom and I'm looking for something very specific. A relationship in which:

1) we get together one or two nights a week for dinner (either I cook or we go out) and sex
2) stay the night or not
3) committed and monogamous, but no marriage until kids are grown, if ever

Where do I find nice divorced dads who are looking for safe fun?

Damn. Safe fun means we can’t throw stuff into the backyard firepit, right?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a divorced mom with a situation like this-although we aren't monogamous by mutual agreement, and we do go out with friends sometimes, so some people would think of us as a couple. We've been dating over a year, and are at the point now where we might do something together with our kids once a month or so (no sleepovers). We met at a family event at a bar with our kids and were introduced by a mutual friend. You could definitely ask around for friends to set you up, or sometimes there are local meetups for single parents.

I’m the male poster upthread with this now. Why wouldn’t you be monogous? I would be very hurt if my girlfriend went out with someone else.

Monogamy is harder to impose if you only have 1-2 nights a week you can be together. It’s not the limited sex so much as the limited companionship. Things worked out with the divorced dad I married because his son lived out of state. We only had to work around my child’s schedule for the most part.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a divorced mom with a situation like this-although we aren't monogamous by mutual agreement, and we do go out with friends sometimes, so some people would think of us as a couple. We've been dating over a year, and are at the point now where we might do something together with our kids once a month or so (no sleepovers). We met at a family event at a bar with our kids and were introduced by a mutual friend. You could definitely ask around for friends to set you up, or sometimes there are local meetups for single parents.

I’m the male poster upthread with this now. Why wouldn’t you be monogous? I would be very hurt if my girlfriend went out with someone else.

I’m a divorced mom and this is something you’ll easily find online. The trick is the schedule but it shouldn’t be too hard to find. In fact, it’s all I’ve been able to find.

I'm a divorced mom with a situation like this-although we aren't monogamous by mutual agreement, and we do go out with friends sometimes, so some people would think of us as a couple. We've been dating over a year, and are at the point now where we might do something together with our kids once a month or so (no sleepovers). We met at a family event at a bar with our kids and were introduced by a mutual friend. You could definitely ask around for friends to set you up, or sometimes there are local meetups for single parents.

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Anonymous wrote:This wouldn’t be appealing to most divorced dads.

Most want to remarry if they have youngish kids or they want a child free younger woman.

Even if you found one who wanted this, you’d have to get in the same custody schedule to make it work. I’d be leery of any man willing to change kids’ weekly schedules just so he can have sex with you twice a week.

Right! Men hate sex and home cooked meals with no commitments.

A much older single guy with no kids who wants to stay single might like this. OP should go for a never married man in his mid-50s. A decently attractive and engaged father isn’t.

I'm a 40 yr old divorced mom, and would it be that the man only spends the night when the kids are not home? I'm just divorced and trying to figure out the logistics of dating. I can almost imagine but being being alone until college.

If her only non-kid night doesn’t sync with yours, would you be willing to ask your coparent to switch your children’s schedule so you can get some? Or are you comfortable with being with a woman who would switch her visitation schedule so she can cook you dinner and have sex? What happens when one person is ready to move on? Do you ask to switch the schedule again if a new partner requires it?

Are you a lawyer?

No, she's right. Dating married men is easier, you don't have the schedule complications since they can always just say they're working late.

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Anonymous wrote:This wouldn’t be appealing to most divorced dads.

Most want to remarry if they have youngish kids or they want a child free younger woman.

Even if you found one who wanted this, you’d have to get in the same custody schedule to make it work. I’d be leery of any man willing to change kids’ weekly schedules just so he can have sex with you twice a week.

Right! Men hate sex and home cooked meals with no commitments.

A much older single guy with no kids who wants to stay single might like this. OP should go for a never married man in his mid-50s. A decently attractive and engaged father isn’t.

I'm a 40 yr old divorced mom, and would it be that the man only spends the night when the kids are not home? I'm just divorced and trying to figure out the logistics of dating. I can almost imagine but being being alone until college.

If her only non-kid night doesn’t sync with yours, would you be willing to ask your coparent to switch your children’s schedule so you can get some? Or are you comfortable with being with a woman who would switch her visitation schedule so she can cook you dinner and have sex? What happens when one person is ready to move on? Do you ask to switch the schedule again if a new partner requires it?

Are you a lawyer?