Anonymous
Post 05/28/2018 07:04     Subject: Boyfriend’s mom
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would be concerned. You could one day marry and have children with this man. What if your child was gay? How would you handle family gatherings when his family might speak openly about said beliefs?


Newflash -- MIL would treat the gay grandchild with all the love in the world. Full stop. Probably better than the liberal uncle who secretly despises "homos."


Maybe. There are some people who don’t realize homosexuals are people deserving of love and rights until they know one, but there are also conservatives who will disown and shame children who are “sinning” by being homosexual. There can also be a lot of damage done before a child comes out if Grandma is making constant nasty comments.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2018 06:06     Subject: Boyfriend’s mom
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That's the future MIL! Break up now!


My MIL is like this. I just don’t engage. I take comfort in knowing that if I did break and she was successful in baiting me into an argument; I would use FACTual information not hypocritical, paranoid, fear monger, bible thumping BS to win said argument.


Whoever wrote this post, please tell me you live in the Northern Va area and we can be friends in real life?! There is such a lack of people with FACTUAL info out there. And please don't ever get me started on the hypocritical religious folks.


I am a 38 yo male living in MD.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2018 05:34     Subject: Boyfriend’s mom
Anonymous wrote:I would be concerned. You could one day marry and have children with this man. What if your child was gay? How would you handle family gatherings when his family might speak openly about said beliefs?


Newflash -- MIL would treat the gay grandchild with all the love in the world. Full stop. Probably better than the liberal uncle who secretly despises "homos."
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2018 00:20     Subject: Boyfriend’s mom
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That's the future MIL! Break up now!


My MIL is like this. I just don’t engage. I take comfort in knowing that if I did break and she was successful in baiting me into an argument; I would use FACTual information not hypocritical, paranoid, fear monger, bible thumping BS to win said argument.


Whoever wrote this post, please tell me you live in the Northern Va area and we can be friends in real life?! There is such a lack of people with FACTUAL info out there. And please don't ever get me started on the hypocritical religious folks.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2018 00:03     Subject: Boyfriend’s mom
I would be concerned. You could one day marry and have children with this man. What if your child was gay? How would you handle family gatherings when his family might speak openly about said beliefs?
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2018 23:52     Subject: Re:Boyfriend’s mom
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you would actually consider murdering one of her grandchildren in the womb, then you'll be doing her a favor by moving on. I cannot imagine a son of mine marrying a woman who supports abortion.


I know a lot of people who support abortion rights. Not many of those are championing the act of aborting. I don’t think you,or any one else for that matter, has the right to dictate without spending time walking in their shoes and living in their mind.

When you and other anti abortion people adopt and CARE for everyone of “Gods Children” orphaned and living in complete and unparalleled misery, I don’t think you have a leg to stand on in this argument.


And unless you yourself were aborted (how do you think that actually feels?), then your legs are even less sturdy than mine.


You can’t be serious. If you are dead you have no feeling.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2018 22:07     Subject: Re:Boyfriend’s mom
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would be okay with it as long as my boyfriend did not share her views and he didn’t pretend otherwise to his family to keep the peace.

This is my concern. With me, he has no problem at all repudiating his mother's beliefs but when he is with family not so much. He won't verbally agree with them when they're together, per se, but he sure as hell isn't saying he disagrees.


I know it's commonly recommended on DCUM but this is really one of those things that a good relationship counselor can help you both work through. You really need to know where he stands on these issues if you're not on the same bandwagon as his mother. While I don't see an issue with him defying his family (except in certain circumstances), you two need to be on the same page if/when it comes time to have your own nuclear family.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2018 18:02     Subject: Boyfriend’s mom
Anonymous wrote:Boyfriend's mom doesn't have freedom of speech? or association?


Neither OP nor anyone else is suggesting that the government censor the MIL, so the first amendment is totally irrelevant.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2018 18:02     Subject: Re:Boyfriend’s mom
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you would actually consider murdering one of her grandchildren in the womb, then you'll be doing her a favor by moving on. I cannot imagine a son of mine marrying a woman who supports abortion.


I know a lot of people who support abortion rights. Not many of those are championing the act of aborting. I don’t think you,or any one else for that matter, has the right to dictate without spending time walking in their shoes and living in their mind.

When you and other anti abortion people adopt and CARE for everyone of “Gods Children” orphaned and living in complete and unparalleled misery, I don’t think you have a leg to stand on in this argument.


And unless you yourself were aborted (how do you think that actually feels?), then your legs are even less sturdy than mine.


I wouldn't give a crap because there wouldn't be a me to have feelings. I guess if I were going to ruin someone's life, be raised in misery, or had some sever genetic abnormality, *I* would feel spared.


Lest this devolve into another abortion thread, I will sign out, leaving with your key phrase in bold. Ciao.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2018 17:59     Subject: Boyfriend’s mom
Would not remain in a relationship with him, unless he has literally zero relationship with his mother.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2018 17:59     Subject: Boyfriend’s mom
Boyfriend's mom doesn't have freedom of speech? or association?
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2018 17:55     Subject: Re:Boyfriend’s mom
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you would actually consider murdering one of her grandchildren in the womb, then you'll be doing her a favor by moving on. I cannot imagine a son of mine marrying a woman who supports abortion.


I know a lot of people who support abortion rights. Not many of those are championing the act of aborting. I don’t think you,or any one else for that matter, has the right to dictate without spending time walking in their shoes and living in their mind.

When you and other anti abortion people adopt and CARE for everyone of “Gods Children” orphaned and living in complete and unparalleled misery, I don’t think you have a leg to stand on in this argument.


And unless you yourself were aborted (how do you think that actually feels?), then your legs are even less sturdy than mine.


I wouldn't give a crap because there wouldn't be a me to have feelings. I guess if I were going to ruin someone's life, be raised in misery, or had some sever genetic abnormality, *I* would feel spared.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2018 17:44     Subject: Re:Boyfriend’s mom
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you would actually consider murdering one of her grandchildren in the womb, then you'll be doing her a favor by moving on. I cannot imagine a son of mine marrying a woman who supports abortion.


I know a lot of people who support abortion rights. Not many of those are championing the act of aborting. I don’t think you,or any one else for that matter, has the right to dictate without spending time walking in their shoes and living in their mind.

When you and other anti abortion people adopt and CARE for everyone of “Gods Children” orphaned and living in complete and unparalleled misery, I don’t think you have a leg to stand on in this argument.


And unless you yourself were aborted (how do you think that actually feels?), then your legs are even less sturdy than mine.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2018 17:30     Subject: Re:Boyfriend’s mom
Anonymous wrote:If you would actually consider murdering one of her grandchildren in the womb, then you'll be doing her a favor by moving on. I cannot imagine a son of mine marrying a woman who supports abortion.


I know a lot of people who support abortion rights. Not many of those are championing the act of aborting. I don’t think you,or any one else for that matter, has the right to dictate without spending time walking in their shoes and living in their mind.

When you and other anti abortion people adopt and CARE for everyone of “Gods Children” orphaned and living in complete and unparalleled misery, I don’t think you have a leg to stand on in this argument.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2018 17:28     Subject: Re:Boyfriend’s mom
Anonymous wrote:If you would actually consider murdering one of her grandchildren in the womb, then you'll be doing her a favor by moving on. I cannot imagine a son of mine marrying a woman who supports abortion.


+1. Abortion is murder.