Anonymous wrote:This will probably be attacked, but as a recently divorced, fit, sane, attractive, realistic 49 year old man, the idea of starting a serious relationship with a woman over the age of, say, 41 is simply laughable. It's a nonstarter.

As for OP-don't buy the hype that you're relegated to 54 year old cat ladies. Every single one of my buddies that have been divorced ended up with a younger, prettier woman. Without exception.

The whole 'creepy old man looking for teenage girl' crap is just that. Crap.

Oh, and my ex is 40.

Good for you -- but you obviously prefer younger women. And you end up single again. Big woo.

A few men will be able to attract and retain desirable younger women.

The majority who want to are still online and single.

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Anonymous wrote:OP. Great advice. Very helpful suggestions on the photos. For the profile. What are you looking for? It seems listing interest is over done. How much detail? Kids? Ages? What makes you swipe right? The photos? The profile?

And a comment on the age topic. I think 40 is my very low end and top is 53. The one thing that is making me hesitant approaching women is my apparent horrible judge of age. I have talked to some 50 year olds that look 40 or younger and 40 year olds that appear closer to 50. Any advice on that?

My advice on that, as a 50 year old divorced woman who is constantly pegged as approx. 10 years younger .... ask yourself why you care at all whether the woman is 40, 44, or 51. I'm serious. What difference do those ages make to you (assuming her appearance, demeanor and basic demographic details meet your threshold.)? Do you want to have more babies? Are you hoping to retire simultaneously with your next partner? Etc.

How do women not understand this? It's about sex. 35 year old sex is better than 55 year old sex

Why would a 35 year old woman in her sexual prime want to roll the dice with a 50 year old?

This will probably be attacked, but as a recently divorced, fit, sane, attractive, realistic 49 year old man, the idea of starting a serious relationship with a woman over the age of, say, 41 is simply laughable. It's a nonstarter.

As for OP-don't buy the hype that you're relegated to 54 year old cat ladies. Every single one of my buddies that have been divorced ended up with a younger, prettier woman. Without exception.

The whole 'creepy old man looking for teenage girl' crap is just that. Crap.

Oh, and my ex is 40.

Anonymous wrote:OP again. Love the advice and humor that has entered the thread. At least I thought the advice about chest hair, jewelry, boats, cars, tight pants, was humorous. At the very least it would attract the exact opposite of the woman I am interested.

To clarify my comment on age - the age doesn’t matter to me, but rather that I don’t want to approach that 40 or younger because I feel that they are young for me. I have had conversations with women that I had thought were in their mid to late 40s, but were 40 or younger going very well until they find out my age. I want to avoid coming across as that old guy looking for young women.

Man here, your age, OP. If she's really into you, she won't ask how old you are until you've consummated the relationship, trust me. The only woman who gets a vote on who you date is the woman you ask for a date, not the peanut gallery. Ignore it and good luck.

Anonymous wrote:OP again. Love the advice and humor that has entered the thread. At least I thought the advice about chest hair, jewelry, boats, cars, tight pants, was humorous. At the very least it would attract the exact opposite of the woman I am interested.

To clarify my comment on age - the age doesn’t matter to me, but rather that I don’t want to approach that 40 or younger because I feel that they are young for me. I have had conversations with women that I had thought were in their mid to late 40s, but were 40 or younger going very well until they find out my age. I want to avoid coming across as that old guy looking for young women.

Can you still get hard. PP wants to know

OP again. Love the advice and humor that has entered the thread. At least I thought the advice about chest hair, jewelry, boats, cars, tight pants, was humorous. At the very least it would attract the exact opposite of the woman I am interested.

To clarify my comment on age - the age doesn’t matter to me, but rather that I don’t want to approach that 40 or younger because I feel that they are young for me. I have had conversations with women that I had thought were in their mid to late 40s, but were 40 or younger going very well until they find out my age. I want to avoid coming across as that old guy looking for young women.

Anonymous wrote:“How do women not understand this? It's about sex. 35 year old sex is better than 55 year old sex.”

How do you not understand that a 35 y.o. women who is heading towards her sexual peak in her 40’s is a terrible match sexually with a 55 y.o. guy who can’t get and stay hard? They may be a good match in terms of him wanting someone to be his caretaker and her wanting someone to support her (though few men can afford that if they have a family from their first marriage). But if it’s “about sex,” then a guy looking at young women doesn’t really know anything about women and sex.

A guy who can't get an stay hard at any age is a disaster. OP asked for help and everyone dives in, predictably, clutching pearls over the very idea of a middle aged man dating a woman somewhat younger. It happens all of the time and besides, he's no one's husband any more so let go the pearls.

“How do women not understand this? It's about sex. 35 year old sex is better than 55 year old sex.”

How do you not understand that a 35 y.o. women who is heading towards her sexual peak in her 40’s is a terrible match sexually with a 55 y.o. guy who can’t get and stay hard? They may be a good match in terms of him wanting someone to be his caretaker and her wanting someone to support her (though few men can afford that if they have a family from their first marriage). But if it’s “about sex,” then a guy looking at young women doesn’t really know anything about women and sex.

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Anonymous wrote:Despite what you read here, women expect a man of your age to have his finances in order. Take a picture wearing your most expensive outfit and be sure to include and fancy jewelry you might own. If you are well endowed, wear tight pants to show that off. Leaving your shirt unbuttoned so we can see if you have nice chest hair is also a plus. If you own a nice car or especially a boat then we need to know that too.
Basically seel yourself on why I should pick you over the 100s of options out there

You might as well just post a pic of your 401K and your last 3 months of bank statements. Good grief!

Tight pants and chest hair= ewwwww.

I see that I think you are a player and I want nothing to do with you.

The 401K thing came up a few months back. Basically, older women can’t be bothered unless the guy can provide a major lifestyle change.

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Anonymous wrote:Despite what you read here, women expect a man of your age to have his finances in order. Take a picture wearing your most expensive outfit and be sure to include and fancy jewelry you might own. If you are well endowed, wear tight pants to show that off. Leaving your shirt unbuttoned so we can see if you have nice chest hair is also a plus. If you own a nice car or especially a boat then we need to know that too.
Basically seel yourself on why I should pick you over the 100s of options out there

You might as well just post a pic of your 401K and your last 3 months of bank statements. Good grief!

Tight pants and chest hair= ewwwww.

I see that I think you are a player and I want nothing to do with you.

You know, I'm kind of curious what would happen if someone actually did this on a dating website. Anyone wanna try it?

Get nose hair trimmers. Use them at least once a week. If your kids give you any fashion advice, TAKE IT.

Have someone who loves you and yet is brutally honest (but not anyone more than three years older than you are) take a picture of you. No selfies.

Anonymous wrote:Despite what you read here, women expect a man of your age to have his finances in order. Take a picture wearing your most expensive outfit and be sure to include and fancy jewelry you might own. If you are well endowed, wear tight pants to show that off. Leaving your shirt unbuttoned so we can see if you have nice chest hair is also a plus. If you own a nice car or especially a boat then we need to know that too.
Basically seel yourself on why I should pick you over the 100s of options out there

You might as well just post a pic of your 401K and your last 3 months of bank statements. Good grief!

Tight pants and chest hair= ewwwww.

I see that I think you are a player and I want nothing to do with you.

Despite what you read here, women expect a man of your age to have his finances in order. Take a picture wearing your most expensive outfit and be sure to include and fancy jewelry you might own. If you are well endowed, wear tight pants to show that off. Leaving your shirt unbuttoned so we can see if you have nice chest hair is also a plus. If you own a nice car or especially a boat then we need to know that too.
Basically seel yourself on why I should pick you over the 100s of options out there

Wow. You sound like a gem!!!! My follow up questions are: 1) I have a car and a boat. Should I take a photo of me getting out of my car heading to the boat? I think a photo of each would be, well, too much. 2) I will take a photo in tight pants with my shirt unbuttoned to the top of these (hot) pants. That way, you can see it all (or as much as i can get on on-line). You likely have much more than 100s of options. I bet its 2X100s.

PS - Does jewelry include my pinky ring?

To the OP - I am 54 and have really enjoyed dating. I found that had the most in common with (and enjoyed) dating women who were over 50 and had kids (since I had kids as well.) Match.com was a good place to start. Best of luck.

Anonymous wrote:Despite what you read here, women expect a man of your age to have his finances in order. Take a picture wearing your most expensive outfit and be sure to include and fancy jewelry you might own. If you are well endowed, wear tight pants to show that off. Leaving your shirt unbuttoned so we can see if you have nice chest hair is also a plus. If you own a nice car or especially a boat then we need to know that too.
Basically seel yourself on why I should pick you over the 100s of options out there

holy cr@p. a boat!