Anonymous
05/22/2018 19:59
Subject: Re:Grandma keeps comparing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Larla, you really shouldn't compare the children. They are unique individuals and this hurts their feelings. I don't understand why you can't be more like my mother. The children like her because she doesn't make them feel bad about themselves.
See if she gets the picture.
Love it!!
And we have a winner!
Every time she does it just say you wish she could be kinder like the girls’ other grandmother. She will get the message very quickly.
And If she forgets? Then you also forget to stop comparing grandmas.
Anonymous
05/22/2018 19:30
Subject: Re:Grandma keeps comparing
Anonymous wrote:Larla, you really shouldn't compare the children. They are unique individuals and this hurts their feelings. I don't understand why you can't be more like my mother. The children like her because she doesn't make them feel bad about themselves.
See if she gets the picture.
Love it!!
Anonymous
05/21/2018 22:24
Subject: Re:Grandma keeps comparing
Larla, you really shouldn't compare the children. They are unique individuals and this hurts their feelings. I don't understand why you can't be more like my mother. The children like her because she doesn't make them feel bad about themselves.
See if she gets the picture.
See if she gets the picture.
Anonymous
05/21/2018 22:13
Subject: Grandma keeps comparing
Anonymous wrote:My MIL keeps comparing my two kids with each other in front of their face.
My older one has a spunky personality, makes friends easily and does really well naturally in whatever she tries (school, sports, music).
My younger one (2 years younger) is much more shy, less excited to try new things, and has a tendency to get moody and wants to cling to me or her dad. She's also particular about various things (foods, clothing textures). But she also does well in various subjects, and has several very close friends. In fact, she's probably more hard-working and focused.
MIL is constantly making negative comments to younger kid, about how she is "stubborn and inflexible" and "why can't you be more like big sister?" now frequently and makes her cry. She makes these comments when my DH is not around.
Advice on what to say to her ? She clearly doesn't understand kids. I've told her comparing does do anything good and just hurts feelings and she listens but then does it again a few days later.
"Do you need any help packing your bags, or getting to the airport?"
Anonymous
05/21/2018 21:58
Subject: Grandma keeps comparing
Anonymous wrote:I'd tell her once more that she needs to stop comparing the kids in front of them, and you will not tolerate it. The next time she does it, either she leaves or you leave with the kids. Every single time. What she is doing is so incredibly hurtful, and can damage her relationship with both of your children. And if she only makes the comments when your husband isn't around, she knows damn well it's wrong.
+1000. She needs to STOP. Whenever she does this you say "we have discussed this and those comments are unnecessary and unacceptable." Your house, your rules.
Anonymous
05/21/2018 15:50
Subject: Re:Grandma keeps comparing
It's your house and you establish the rules. If she can't abide by them then she needs to leave. But first, you and your husband need to be in agreement because she will try to go past you.