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Anonymous wrote:Abusive ex has sent DD over with a handmade card the last two years. A**hole. He couldn't be bothered to do anything when we were married, and this is just a purppseful mindf***. I hung it up. She tried to write happy mother's day. I love that she wrote it.

He will mever get anything for father's day from me unless school sends it home.

Why do you have to (choose to) read a handmade card as a purposeful mind$&@k? Maybe your daughter wants to make one!

I'm widowed and my Dad took my younger DC shopping and offered to give her money to increase her $3 budget. She was not having it. She must make the card herself and knows the perfect gift for me is a marzipan ritter sport at $2.49.

Why not view your handmade card as a way bigger expression of love than a hallmark canned greeting, made with care and thought into what you will like, and pride in trying to write it out herself?

I think Op is bitter because when they were married her ex never did a thing for her for Mother's Day. Now that they are divorced he is suddenly doing something thoughtful for Op which also gives her daughter the impression that Daddy has always been a nice and thoughtful guy to Op. In reality, he's "nice" to Op to make HIMSELF look good in the eyes of his daughter. Op knows this and it truly grates on her.

Op needs to let go of the bitterness. I see nothing wrong with the card

Op should focus on the fact that her DAUGHTER is doing something sweet for her on Mother's Day. That's the important thing. Forget the ex.

I totally understand how Op does not want to be put in the position of doing something equally thoughtful for her ex on Father's Day. But I think that Op should provide her daughter with construction paper, markers, etc and give her daughter the opportunity to do something thoughtful for her dad on Father's Day.

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Anonymous wrote:Husband was out of town visiting a relative who had just had surgery. I figured I'd make reservations to treat my mom, my kids and myself to a nice Mother's Day brunch at a lovely and usually wonderful scenic little restaurant.

Arrived at the restaurant 15 minutes before our reservation and it was jam packed chaos. Hostess told us to wait and she would seat us. We stepped aside as she requested and she never acknowledged us again. We waited for over an hour, standing the entire, no place for my 80+ year old mother to sit down . It became apparent to us that the people who had been seated were waiting forever for their food to arrive....the staff completely unapologetic...

We left to go somewhere, anywhere else. By that point McDonald's sounded good.

You actually just waited for an hour? Why didn’t you complain/ask to speak to a manager?

Anonymous wrote:Husband was out of town visiting a relative who had just had surgery. I figured I'd make reservations to treat my mom, my kids and myself to a nice Mother's Day brunch at a lovely and usually wonderful scenic little restaurant.

Arrived at the restaurant 15 minutes before our reservation and it was jam packed chaos. Hostess told us to wait and she would seat us. We stepped aside as she requested and she never acknowledged us again. We waited for over an hour, standing the entire, no place for my 80+ year old mother to sit down . It became apparent to us that the people who had been seated were waiting forever for their food to arrive....the staff completely unapologetic...

We left to go somewhere, anywhere else. By that point McDonald's sounded good.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Abusive ex has sent DD over with a handmade card the last two years. A**hole. He couldn't be bothered to do anything when we were married, and this is just a purppseful mindf***. I hung it up. She tried to write happy mother's day. I love that she wrote it.

He will mever get anything for father's day from me unless school sends it home.

Why do you have to (choose to) read a handmade card as a purposeful mind$&@k? Maybe your daughter wants to make one!

I'm widowed and my Dad took my younger DC shopping and offered to give her money to increase her $3 budget. She was not having it. She must make the card herself and knows the perfect gift for me is a marzipan ritter sport at $2.49.

Why not view your handmade card as a way bigger expression of love than a hallmark canned greeting, made with care and thought into what you will like, and pride in trying to write it out herself?

I think Op is bitter because when they were married her ex never did a thing for her for Mother's Day. Now that they are divorced he is suddenly doing something thoughtful for Op which also gives her daughter the impression that Daddy has always been a nice and thoughtful guy to Op. In reality, he's "nice" to Op to make HIMSELF look good in the eyes of his daughter. Op knows this and it truly grates on her.

Op needs to let go of the bitterness. I see nothing wrong with the card

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Abusive ex has sent DD over with a handmade card the last two years. A**hole. He couldn't be bothered to do anything when we were married, and this is just a purppseful mindf***. I hung it up. She tried to write happy mother's day. I love that she wrote it.

He will mever get anything for father's day from me unless school sends it home.

Why do you have to (choose to) read a handmade card as a purposeful mind$&@k? Maybe your daughter wants to make one!

I'm widowed and my Dad took my younger DC shopping and offered to give her money to increase her $3 budget. She was not having it. She must make the card herself and knows the perfect gift for me is a marzipan ritter sport at $2.49.

Why not view your handmade card as a way bigger expression of love than a hallmark canned greeting, made with care and thought into what you will like, and pride in trying to write it out herself?

I think Op is bitter because when they were married her ex never did a thing for her for Mother's Day. Now that they are divorced he is suddenly doing something thoughtful for Op which also gives her daughter the impression that Daddy has always been a nice and thoughtful guy to Op. In reality, he's "nice" to Op to make HIMSELF look good in the eyes of his daughter. Op knows this and it truly grates on her.

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Anonymous wrote:Abusive ex has sent DD over with a handmade card the last two years. A**hole. He couldn't be bothered to do anything when we were married, and this is just a purppseful mindf***. I hung it up. She tried to write happy mother's day. I love that she wrote it.

He will mever get anything for father's day from me unless school sends it home.

Why do you have to (choose to) read a handmade card as a purposeful mind$&@k? Maybe your daughter wants to make one!

I'm widowed and my Dad took my younger DC shopping and offered to give her money to increase her $3 budget. She was not having it. She must make the card herself and knows the perfect gift for me is a marzipan ritter sport at $2.49.

Why not view your handmade card as a way bigger expression of love than a hallmark canned greeting, made with care and thought into what you will like, and pride in trying to write it out herself?

Anonymous wrote:Abusive ex has sent DD over with a handmade card the last two years. A**hole. He couldn't be bothered to do anything when we were married, and this is just a purppseful mindf***. I hung it up. She tried to write happy mother's day. I love that she wrote it.

He will mever get anything for father's day from me unless school sends it home.

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Anonymous wrote:Abusive ex has sent DD over with a handmade card the last two years. A**hole. He couldn't be bothered to do anything when we were married, and this is just a purppseful mindf***. I hung it up. She tried to write happy mother's day. I love that she wrote it.

He will mever get anything for father's day from me unless school sends it home.

Pretty sure you would be on here complaining every year if your ex didn't have your DC make or buy a card.

Anonymous wrote:Three years ago I was enjoying a lovely Mother’s Day working on our teeny tiny front “yard” of our rowhouse with teen ds. I was weeding under the Japanese maple oak, went to stand up and cut my head on a stub on a branch.

“Mom, I think something’s wrong. You have blood dripping down your face.”

I guess freaking your kid out and getting stitches in your head on Mother’s Day makes it the worst for me.

Anonymous wrote:Abusive ex has sent DD over with a handmade card the last two years. A**hole. He couldn't be bothered to do anything when we were married, and this is just a purppseful mindf***. I hung it up. She tried to write happy mother's day. I love that she wrote it.

He will mever get anything for father's day from me unless school sends it home.