I see a child who is struggling with issues and it is not your child in the situations that you have shared. If the teacher or school is not doing anything, I wonder about talking with the other child's parents. Parent to parent.
There is more going on then just reaching out to get your child in trouble.

+3 Going through the same thing. Kids can be very cruel.

Anonymous wrote:No great advice here but wanted to let you know i can commiserate with you. Its uncanny how manipulative some kids are even at a young age.

+2. In addition to being surprised at how canny some kids are at pushing others' buttons, it's distressing (and depressing) how often my DS falls for it. I describe it like they think he's more fun to watch than the teacher, because he just goes right into the "red zone" and erupts like a volcano...

We are trying a social skills class. I talk to him about different strategies. Ignore. Move into sight line of an adult. Ask an adult for help. Deep breathing. So far we are not seeing any implementation, but I'm sure it's a process of awareness first.

No great advice here but wanted to let you know i can commiserate with you. Its uncanny how manipulative some kids are even at a young age.