After 40, most initiated by the wife

I don’t know - our friends and families haven’t had divorces. People seem pretty strongly together, though you never know what’s going on in someone else’s marriage.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. We've predicted nearly every divorce. It starts when the oldest is in upper elementary school/middle school. And it's contagious. Seriously. A ton of couples split over a two-year period.

All but one was prompted by adultery.

That's really sad. Must suck to know your parents split up because of cheating.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. We've predicted nearly every divorce. It starts when the oldest is in upper elementary school/middle school. And it's contagious. Seriously. A ton of couples split over a two-year period.

All but one was prompted by adultery.

This sounds about right. [/b]Suburban norm.[b]

So, you think this is more likely to happen to a couple in Bethesda/McLean compared to folks who live in UNW? I'd love to hear the rationale for that.

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Anonymous wrote:
We have a very small circle of good friends, and I know that none will. We are 40s to 50s and have each gone through very difficult challenges, so the marriages are strong, otherwise they would have cracked a long time ago.

Just wait. Lol

That makes you laugh? Moron.

Nope. I’m laughing at the poster (you?) who seems convinced her small social circle is divorce-proof.

She would be the moron.

My DH and I are getting divorced after 27 years and people are shocked as they thought we had a great marriage. What we had was a good relationship connected by our children. But once we became empty nesters our relationship became empty. I haven't had an affair nor do I believe my husband has but we both just want more.

Late 40s now this is what we observed. After 2nd kid, 2nd would be 5 or younger. Usually the most social couples (??) so least expected. Most amicable, one or two spouses (ex) could not even be in same room. Friendships split over who sided with wife, who sided with hub in the nonamicable situations.

Something like half of marriages will end in divorce so the odds are good you will see it coming. While few of our friends have gotten divorced, both my siblings have been divorced and I know a ton of divorced people.

I'm 50 and getting divorced. One of my closest friends knows. We have been separated for 2 years and nobody knows.

I don't want to deal with the awkwardness of people thinking they can invite us to stuff, like they have to choose sides.

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Anonymous wrote:
We have a very small circle of good friends, and I know that none will. We are 40s to 50s and have each gone through very difficult challenges, so the marriages are strong, otherwise they would have cracked a long time ago.

Just wait. Lol

That makes you laugh? Moron.

Anonymous wrote:In my group of friends, were early 30s, it seems the wheels have been falling off for some right as the second kid is born...

I sometimes wonder if our marriage would have survived a second kid but it's good now.

Our close social circle has experienced very few divorces. But once I get a few degrees out of that circle I am amazed by how many people are divorced. My DH says the same thing. Just last week were invited to a charity dinner and there were 7 couples at our table. We were the only ones who had never been divorced.

Friend is currently going through a divorce. Didn't see it coming, but in retrospect maybe I should have. Her STBX rarely socialized with the rest of the group. He was always nice and pleasant when he did, but they have basically been living two separate lives for almost 5 years. The only thing they seem to do together is take vacations...which is nice, but not sufficient for a marriage.

Anonymous wrote:
We have a very small circle of good friends, and I know that none will. We are 40s to 50s and have each gone through very difficult challenges, so the marriages are strong, otherwise they would have cracked a long time ago.

Just wait. Lol

We have a very small circle of good friends, and I know that none will. We are 40s to 50s and have each gone through very difficult challenges, so the marriages are strong, otherwise they would have cracked a long time ago.