Kids don't call other kids a bully without them being a bully, OP.

Your responses seem to acknowledge that your son was a bully at his last school but you're claiming that since you told him to be more gentle and not fight at this school then nobody should call him a bully here.

That's not really how it works, unfortunately. There's a lot more to being a bully than just hitting other kids.

I'd be willing to bet money that he's acting like a bully at this new school. And based on all your refusals to see reality about the situation and your kid, I can certainly imagine why and how that happened. Bullies aren't born, they're made.

OP, is he big for his age?

I've seen the biggest kid in the class picked on because kids have heard the term "big bully" and then they somehow think that the biggest kid in the class must therefore be a bully. I know it sounds silly to us as adults, but kids can be very literal sometimes and can take things the wrong way.

OP, you need to make an appointment to speak to your child's teacher. This is a problem that you need to find out more about from the teacher and then both of you together come up with a plan to fix this situation going forward.

Best wishes to you and your son!

OP, you are not giving the full story and/or you are not making sense. If there is a problem, talk to the teacher, guidance counselor, principal, etc

Talk to the teacher. You don't trust a 6 year old with a known history of bullying others when he comes home claiming everyone is calling him a bully for no reason. You need an adult perspective.

OP, I get that you think your child “did”things with his hands that he’s somehow unlearned, but that doesn’t seem to be the case.

That being said, if this is a new school, and they’re still calling him a bully, there’s deeper questions. Did he tell other kid he was a bully? Does he continue to bully? (Or as you say “use his hands”)

If he, and you feel, he is being bullied (pinching, etc.), then you need to bring it up with the school. Life is not a vacuum. How is he “defending” himself?

I’ll be honest, I think a kid with a history which is repeating itself is a kid with a history that is repeating itself. You want to believe that changing schools changed him, but that’s rarely the case (as you told him to defend himself).

It’s no wonder your kid is having trouble at school and being accused of being a bully when his mother is telling him to fight kids INSTEAD OF TALKING TO THE TEACHER when he has problems.

In fact, if you haven’t even TALKED TO THE TEACHER you can’t even be sure that big Larlo is telling you the truth.

kids can and do gang up on others unfortunately but if they are doing it while saying he's a bully then there is likely something that happened or happening to cause that response. kids don't typically use that label and single out kids randomly

speak to teachers. even if they haven't noticed it yet they can be on watch to see what is happening. they likely already know and can share more details with you and talk about a plan to address it. as PP said 6 yr old are never good at telling the whole truth in situations like this so you have to approach the ordeal with a dose of fact-finding before you assume your son has no blame

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a rough and tumble kid who gets in trouble and oh well gets rough with his hands is not the classic definition of a bully then what is?

THIS WAS AT ANOTHER SCHOOL IN A DIFFERENT AREA.
The problem is we have told him not to fight. But, now kids are calling him a bully and beating him up. _OP

I want to tell him to fight back. But, if he does fight back then they can say see he is a bully.

How do the new kids know about his past?

OMG. They don't know about his past. He is going of his past guidance to not fight. Sheesh. -op

You need to talk to the teacher but go in with an open mind. You clearly have already decided that your son is a total victim and the kids have somehow magically latched onto the term bully for no reason. Op, 6 year olds are very unreliable story tellers. Something else is going on. Go talk to the teacher and talk to some other parents. What do thier kids say is happening? Find some kids who are in his class but are not involved.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a rough and tumble kid who gets in trouble and oh well gets rough with his hands is not the classic definition of a bully then what is?

THIS WAS AT ANOTHER SCHOOL IN A DIFFERENT AREA.
The problem is we have told him not to fight. But, now kids are calling him a bully and beating him up. _OP

I want to tell him to fight back. But, if he does fight back then they can say see he is a bully.

How do the new kids know about his past?

OMG. They don't know about his past. He is going of his past guidance to not fight. Sheesh. -op

They are calling your son a bully for some reason. What is your understanding of the reason?

Anonymous wrote:Is this at school?

Yes he can hit back in self defense ... he may get in trouble but it is well worth it.

Sorry see it is at school.

1. Talk to teacher.
2. Escalate to principal
3. Defend self

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a rough and tumble kid who gets in trouble and oh well gets rough with his hands is not the classic definition of a bully then what is?

THIS WAS AT ANOTHER SCHOOL IN A DIFFERENT AREA.
The problem is we have told him not to fight. But, now kids are calling him a bully and beating him up. _OP

I want to tell him to fight back. But, if he does fight back then they can say see he is a bully.

How do the new kids know about his past?

OMG. They don't know about his past. He is going of his past guidance to not fight. Sheesh. -op

Is this at school?

Yes he can hit back in self defense ... he may get in trouble but it is well worth it.

This doesn't make sense. If your kid has been in trouble for being rough with kids the other kids may be trying to gets some licks back on him. If they are calling him a bully that's why they hate him, he hurt someone.

Maybe he needs a new start somewhere else.

Anonymous wrote:My son is a rough and tumble strong kid. He has been admonished for being to rough with his hands. This year at our new school boys have taken to calling him "bully" . They have also taken to hitting, kicking, punching , and pinching him. He is not defending himself because he has been told not to fight.
I explained to him that calling somebody a Bully is calling them a name which is a form of bullying. Especially if the person is not bullying. I've also told him to defend himself.
Any better suggestions?

Talk to the teacher and director of the school today! It doesn’t matter what name they are calling him, OP, the issue is that he is being hit and kicked by other kids!!! Geez, where are the teachers?!

Your son is right not to fight. Praise him for that. And you get involved with the grown ups and demand this be stopped today.