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Anonymous wrote:Why? He's 40, that's why.

If you don't like it, you'll have to do some manual labor, get some meds, or trade-in for a new model.

Wait, I thought men lasted longer as they got older? You’re telling me that they’re quick on the draw in their 20s *and* their 40s? I only got ten decent years in the middle?

A man should take longer as he gets older. It's one of the wonderful things about getting older. Getting to a point where you have nearly total control and can hold off until she's had hers, maybe even a few times, before you pop.

I can't fathom why PE has started in your H but the bigger problem is you are not being satisfied, and I'm sure this is no fun for him either. Perhaps a change in how you two approach sex is in order where he makes it all about you first. Start with a nice message for you, fingers and oral with you getting off before anything else happens. Sorry if too explicit for this forum, but that's where you posted the question.

He is selfish and not trying to hold back, but is it because he thinks you aren't that into sex and prefer he hurry up and finish? I would talk to him. He can do other things for you as well

So, ideally, how long should a guy last? Do you want 30 minutes? More?

Trojan extended pleasure = extra thick condom with a mild numbing cream (internal... affects him but not you)

Chastity cage = sex toy to literally "lock him up" while he takes care of your needs, his motivation being you hold the key

Strap on = another sex toy that he can use even after he's gone soft

while you figure this out, he can get you off first, no? that's how it usually works in my house. DH prefers it because he feels a lot less pressure to perform and I"m cool either way.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's faking orgasm .

He wants out before he loses an erection and has to explain that he's not excited by sex with you anymore.

Hmmm, then what am I cleaning up?

If he's doing it from behind he may be spitting in his hand and putting it down there when he pulls out.

DP. I'm pretty sure it's easy to tell the difference between spit and semen.

Anonymous wrote:Just ask him to empty the chamber earlier in the day on the days that you’re going to do it.

+1

He needs edging training. Look it up.
You can do it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's faking orgasm .

He wants out before he loses an erection and has to explain that he's not excited by sex with you anymore.

Hmmm, then what am I cleaning up?

If he's doing it from behind he may be spitting in his hand and putting it down there when he pulls out.

Anonymous wrote:He's faking orgasm .

He wants out before he loses an erection and has to explain that he's not excited by sex with you anymore.

Hmmm, then what am I cleaning up?

He's faking orgasm .

He wants out before he loses an erection and has to explain that he's not excited by sex with you anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe his stamina is decreasing as he gets older, so he just "let's go"? Does he workout? Is he in pretty good shape?

He’s heavier than he should be, but very strong (sort of a former football player type of build).

but how is his cardio? I think that's more important, not muscle mass.

He runs 5 miles a few times a week, so I think he’s doing ok. He does have (medically treated) asthma if that matters.

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Have him work one out earlier in the day, or go 2 rounds. How often are you doing it per week?

I try for every other day but sometimes it’s only 3 times a week. I will admit that it’s a turnoff to know that it’s going to be over before I even warm up. I can’t think of a time that he was “up” for a second round although I’d love that. Sigh. Thanks for the tips - I’ll give the first one a try.

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Anonymous wrote:When a man and a woman love each other very much, there is this thing they do.

No the other thing. It’s called speaking to each other.

Sure, but I’m afraid of hurting or insulting him.

Kerrrist.

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Have him work one out earlier in the day, or go 2 rounds. How often are you doing it per week?

Not OP.. my DH said something like this. The less frequently he does it, the quicker it happens. I guess it makes sense.