Anonymous wrote:I mean, so much sh*t is unnecessary. You probably started all this stuff when your kid was a baby because you wanted to be the best, most fun mommy ever, and now it’s a drag and you see how silly it is.

Growing up we had Christmas and our birthday for any kind of gift that cost more than $5. Our Easter baskets were candy and that’s it and the holiday was more about church. We did not do any of this stupid leprechaun nonsense or Pi Day or Halloween gifts or God knows what else. Just stop with it. Don’t even start, as a lesson to the new or soon to be parents out there.

Marry me!

Anonymous wrote:When I turned 65 (I know you’re younger) I decided I was going to adapt the mental picture of the granny in the rocking chair sipping some wine and watching the kiddies enjoy the day. I stopped inviting people for holidays (which took some time for them to adjust - they all just assumed they were coming over). I have quieter holidays now, but I’m fine with that. I spent decades exhausted and stressed jugging everything and everybody. Works for me, I figure I get some time in my life to do what I want; raised the kids, buried the parents.

I love an older lady who doesn’t rule holidays with an iron fist, and “help” too much! You are a rare, golden bird, PP.

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Buy stuff you don’t want to make
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Anonymous wrote:DD is great, no problems there. But DH.....

He complained that coloring eggs was “extravagant” (eggstravagant?) so I went out to Walmart last night to get plastic eggs and pick through what candy was left.

He complained about the candy I got.

He complained that he didn’t want to go outside to hide eggs and I was a bitch for not immediately praising him for coming up with the brilliant idea of hiding eggs inside.

He complained about where I was hiding the eggs.

He complained that I was selfish because I wanted to shower and get dressed before doing the egg hunt. So he went ahead and did the egg hunt with DD while I was in the shower.

He complained that I’m a horrible person for wanting to incorporate any of my own family traditions into Easter.

Tonight he will probably complain that I don’t want to give him “Easter sex”. Gross.

And he wonders why I stopped doing Christmas, Thanksgiving, and his birthday. Guess I can now add Easter to the list.

wow, this is some passive aggressive BS right here. I would be livid.

DD is great, no problems there. But DH.....

He complained that coloring eggs was “extravagant” (eggstravagant?) so I went out to Walmart last night to get plastic eggs and pick through what candy was left.

He complained about the candy I got.

He complained that he didn’t want to go outside to hide eggs and I was a bitch for not immediately praising him for coming up with the brilliant idea of hiding eggs inside.

He complained about where I was hiding the eggs.

He complained that I was selfish because I wanted to shower and get dressed before doing the egg hunt. So he went ahead and did the egg hunt with DD while I was in the shower.

He complained that I’m a horrible person for wanting to incorporate any of my own family traditions into Easter.

Tonight he will probably complain that I don’t want to give him “Easter sex”. Gross.

And he wonders why I stopped doing Christmas, Thanksgiving, and his birthday. Guess I can now add Easter to the list.

So stop doing all that crap. Are you incapable of controlling your own actions?

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Anonymous wrote:My kids take over the holidays as they learn the truth about them. Tonight they hid Easter eggs in each others' rooms to find tomorrow morning. On Christmas Eve, the older ones take care of stuffing the stockings from Santa.

It actually makes the transition of learning the truth about these things much easier for them. "The best thing about knowing the truth of Santa is that now you get to BE Santa - and that is so much more fun! You make the magic for other people." But your kids are probably younger than that. And no, I just kept doing the holidays anyway.

Now, don't get me started on hosting Thanksgiving for 16 years straight for my extended family, who never, ever lift a finger to help out. Ready to throw the damn turkey at them.

Um... those aren’t “truths.”

The truth about Christmas and Easter revolves entirely around Jesus.

Thanksgiving truth would mean no turkey.

No. There are two christmases: religious Jesus Christmas and secular Santa Christmas.

Uh, no. The second is something, but it’s not Christmas. Christmas is by definition a religious holiday observing the birth of Christ. And spare me the lecture about blending traditions with pagan celebrations etc.

If you go look it up, it is now denoted as a religious AND cultural holiday. Many, many people celebrate the cultural holiday with no care given to the religious aspect and it's equally valid.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids take over the holidays as they learn the truth about them. Tonight they hid Easter eggs in each others' rooms to find tomorrow morning. On Christmas Eve, the older ones take care of stuffing the stockings from Santa.

It actually makes the transition of learning the truth about these things much easier for them. "The best thing about knowing the truth of Santa is that now you get to BE Santa - and that is so much more fun! You make the magic for other people." But your kids are probably younger than that. And no, I just kept doing the holidays anyway.

Now, don't get me started on hosting Thanksgiving for 16 years straight for my extended family, who never, ever lift a finger to help out. Ready to throw the damn turkey at them.

Um... those aren’t “truths.”

The truth about Christmas and Easter revolves entirely around Jesus.

Thanksgiving truth would mean no turkey.

No. There are two christmases: religious Jesus Christmas and secular Santa Christmas.

Uh, no. The second is something, but it’s not Christmas. Christmas is by definition a religious holiday observing the birth of Christ. And spare me the lecture about blending traditions with pagan celebrations etc.

Anonymous wrote:I mean, so much sh*t is unnecessary. You probably started all this stuff when your kid was a baby because you wanted to be the best, most fun mommy ever, and now it’s a drag and you see how silly it is.

Growing up we had Christmas and our birthday for any kind of gift that cost more than $5. Our Easter baskets were candy and that’s it and the holiday was more about church. We did not do any of this stupid leprechaun nonsense or Pi Day or Halloween gifts or God knows what else. Just stop with it. Don’t even start, as a lesson to the new or soon to be parents out there.

Thank you. Why make up more reasons to buy candy, gifts and decorations? SMH.

Anonymous wrote:Yup. We always take people up on their offers to host, even if we don't know them well. Today we're going to a neighbor's for Easter. I'll bring a side dish, help clean up a few plates, and that's all I'm doing!

Wonder if your neighbor posted on this thread.

Yup. We always take people up on their offers to host, even if we don't know them well. Today we're going to a neighbor's for Easter. I'll bring a side dish, help clean up a few plates, and that's all I'm doing!

I too thought holidays would be more fun with kids. I feel bad that I never appreciated everything my mom did now that no one appreciates me. The circle of life.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids take over the holidays as they learn the truth about them. Tonight they hid Easter eggs in each others' rooms to find tomorrow morning. On Christmas Eve, the older ones take care of stuffing the stockings from Santa.

It actually makes the transition of learning the truth about these things much easier for them. "The best thing about knowing the truth of Santa is that now you get to BE Santa - and that is so much more fun! You make the magic for other people." But your kids are probably younger than that. And no, I just kept doing the holidays anyway.

Now, don't get me started on hosting Thanksgiving for 16 years straight for my extended family, who never, ever lift a finger to help out. Ready to throw the damn turkey at them.

Um... those aren’t “truths.”

The truth about Christmas and Easter revolves entirely around Jesus.

Thanksgiving truth would mean no turkey.

No. There are two christmases: religious Jesus Christmas and secular Santa Christmas.

Yes. I pulled WAY back. This year, no egg hunts, no stupid family farm trips, no Easter bunny visit, no dyeing eggs. I spent $20 at Dollar Tree to build two baskets. All is well. Same deal at Christmas - no cards, no Santa visits, no endless cookie parties for friends. Just don't do it. It's amazing how little anyone cares about all that extra crap which you realize when you don't do it and it's never even missed.

I stopped doing Easter baskets when my three were about 5-9. Replaced one year with goodie bags...then one year we were traveling and it wasn't practical. Stopped altogether and they've never commented, asked, cared. Donated the baskets and eggs.