My college BFF is like your friend but naturally beautiful without makeup (light hair, dark eyelashes and blue eyes). She is petite and always looked young for her age. She would need to swat men away from her. The funny thing is that kids always swarmed to her. She just had a knack. She is the quintessential aunt as she married later in life. Some people just had the look. I never questioned why her and not me (was easy for me to figure out- lol)

Everything you've said about her indicates that she's low-maintenance and a natural beauty. A lot of men don't want high-maintenance women and someone who isn't all lacquered and highlighted is really refreshing. No doubt a chunk of your "high-earnings" is spent on clothes, hair, and makeup, amiright?

Anonymous wrote:My guess is she's not actually plain - she probably has some kind of features or overall impact that is very striking, but you don't see.

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Plain women don't garner that type of attention from men.

They think they have a chance with her. It's not rocket science.

Well, clearly she's atttactive, and not in the "plain" way you see her, either.

She is a nice person and it shows. Nothing else is needed. The real question you are asking is, why are you not as attractive to men. You know this answer, we don't.

I'm like your friend: I think plain looking, wear no makeup, flat chested, dress in laid back, comfortable clothes (I have a nice butt), etc. Plenty of men are attracted to me.

It's kind of crazy, actually. I have always felt like the ugly duckling, to the point of being too self conscious to wear shorts. And yet, I have offers from so many good men: open invitation from former roommate to live on a boat and travel together, ex declared love years after breakup, another ex/child's father wants to get back together eventually, then there are the few men who would be glad if I called, some who likely just want sex but some could be friends too. And I'm seeing an amazing guy who is a warm light in my life.


My guess is the men like me because I smile, am friendly and sweet, but have an unexpected wild side and am smart and can be easy to talk with about many things. And if we really connect and I deeply care for the guy, I'll do a lot to make his life easier or bring pleasant surprises, whether a last minute blow job, thoughtful gifts or just trying to be understanding.

Anonymous wrote:Yep, she is a nanny. Certain men need to feel superior to their mate. Hence the concept of men marrying down. She needs to be saved. Its not how she looks, certain men will not marry on their level or above.

They do not care about your salary.

--A woman

Why don't you just ask her what she says online to the guys? Does she make them laugh? Men secretly want babies and her being a nanny means she likes kids.

Anonymous wrote:Yep, she is a nanny. Certain men need to feel superior to their mate. Hence the concept of men marrying down. She needs to be saved. Its not how she looks, certain men will not marry on their level or above.

They do not care about your salary.

--A woman

Except men check her out before knowing her job. It’s the OPs focus on her own salary that is troubling.

Yep, she is a nanny. Certain men need to feel superior to their mate. Hence the concept of men marrying down. She needs to be saved. Its not how she looks, certain men will not marry on their level or above.

They do not care about your salary.

--A woman

Few men care how much you make.

So she's cute, sweet, fit and in her early 20s? Every guy wants that. It's not rocket science.

What is attractive to men may not seem to be attractive to women. For example most men find Kate Upton amazing. Women usually disparage her body and face, men however go gaga over her sexiness and attractiveness.

Funny.. the first adjective you use on yourself is high earning

Looks like the women who told you that earning a high income in attractive to men were wrong!

Imagine that.. women knowing less about what's attractive to men than men.. !!


Did you think your masters degree was going to turn men on?