Anonymous
Post 03/30/2018 12:21     Subject: Re:I’ve become so bitter
I used to think that men would be attracted to my personality and career prospects but they are not.


To a fun personality, sure. To your resume: who the hell told you men cared? We don’t.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2018 12:20     Subject: I’ve become so bitter
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am a high-earning, attractive, tall, fit, and active woman. I used to think that men would be attracted to my personality and career prospects but they are not. They see the outer shell first, so i make sure that it is the best that it can be.

Its even more so important now as i age and other women are heavier, have poor attitudes, and low libidos. This sucks, i know but it is what attracts them.

I fought against this mentality for so long. I even broke up with a few guys who have turned out to be high earners because of their "superficial" nature. Well, hell. Here i am, 20 years later dating the same guys who are attracted to my outer shell.

Its up to me to weed through the fools. Dating is a serious activity and you need to put your best foot forward.


If you've been dating for 20 years without finding a life partner then I'm not sure you're someone to take advice from.


Yes, it is. And we don't all lead the same lives, you realize this, don't you? Death, divorce, being widowed, taking care of medically ill relatives can all be a part of our lives. I won't tell you the ones I have experienced but thanks for your snarky useless comments.


I'm not sure I can cede you the moral high ground when you're talking about how all the women around you are fat sexless b's. There are guys out there who can see past the outer shell (and who can see and appreciate your outer shell of course). I hope you find one.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2018 12:19     Subject: I’ve become so bitter
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For men, it seems they are mostly attracted to looks.
Not much else really matters & if it does, it all falls under good looks.

Women, on the other hand prioritize someone that can take care of them.
And usually guys w/empty billfolds do not have this ability.
Women are also attracted to clout + power too.

And if Prince Harry wasn’t born into royalty and worked at a factory, he wouldn’t stand a chance in the world for scoring a woman as beautiful as Meghan.

Sad, but true.


If Harry was average Joe Meghan wouldn’t even have gone on a date with him.


Meghan was a successful TV star. She dated people that you meet as a TV star. Her last two relationships were a canadian celebrity chef and a not-very-well-known film producer. Prince Harry was a huge leap. And neither of the last two guys were stunners. So back off Meghan Markle.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2018 12:18     Subject: I’ve become so bitter
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am a high-earning, attractive, tall, fit, and active woman. I used to think that men would be attracted to my personality and career prospects but they are not. They see the outer shell first, so i make sure that it is the best that it can be.

Its even more so important now as i age and other women are heavier, have poor attitudes, and low libidos. This sucks, i know but it is what attracts them.

I fought against this mentality for so long. I even broke up with a few guys who have turned out to be high earners because of their "superficial" nature. Well, hell. Here i am, 20 years later dating the same guys who are attracted to my outer shell.

Its up to me to weed through the fools. Dating is a serious activity and you need to put your best foot forward.


If you've been dating for 20 years without finding a life partner then I'm not sure you're someone to take advice from.


Yes, it is. And we don't all lead the same lives, you realize this, don't you? Death, divorce, being widowed, taking care of medically ill relatives can all be a part of our lives. I won't tell you the ones I have experienced but thanks for your snarky useless comments.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2018 12:14     Subject: I’ve become so bitter
Just like the PP said, men and women that work in the retail industry at low-paying job past their mid-twenties, are there for a reason.

A family member married a woman who worked in retail in her late twenties, she quit her job after she got married to become a SAHW. Before that, he was on social media blasting the career-focused women because they didn't know how to "please their men." He is eating those words now. They have are no kids, and she refuses to work. He thought she would change when she got to DC. Nope, she didn't and they are having fertility struggles. The extra income would really help out with the exorbitant costs of fertility treatment. I told him this, she still refuses to work.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2018 12:13     Subject: I’ve become so bitter
Anonymous wrote:For men, it seems they are mostly attracted to looks.
Not much else really matters & if it does, it all falls under good looks.

Women, on the other hand prioritize someone that can take care of them.
And usually guys w/empty billfolds do not have this ability.
Women are also attracted to clout + power too.

And if Prince Harry wasn’t born into royalty and worked at a factory, he wouldn’t stand a chance in the world for scoring a woman as beautiful as Meghan.

Sad, but true.


If Harry was average Joe Meghan wouldn’t even have gone on a date with him.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2018 12:12     Subject: I’ve become so bitter
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:God you guys are out in force this week.



It's insane, really.



OP - You can't possibly think you know all that goes into why someone loves another person based on some superficial CONVERSATION. God, most people don't jump into all the intimate and emotional details of their relationship while making social conversation.

This. You'd be well served not to take to heart the things people say when making conversation, it's never the full story (not should it be).


These conversations are more a reflection on what women think other women value. "I love him because it makes me feel good that he adores the freckle behind my ear" isn't going to make the other ladies jealous.


I have a friend who brags that the reason she and her husband can’t make friends is because he is so successful and thus intimidate most people who aren’t at their level.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2018 12:12     Subject: I’ve become so bitter
Anonymous wrote:I am a high-earning, attractive, tall, fit, and active woman. I used to think that men would be attracted to my personality and career prospects but they are not. They see the outer shell first, so i make sure that it is the best that it can be.

Its even more so important now as i age and other women are heavier, have poor attitudes, and low libidos. This sucks, i know but it is what attracts them.

I fought against this mentality for so long. I even broke up with a few guys who have turned out to be high earners because of their "superficial" nature. Well, hell. Here i am, 20 years later dating the same guys who are attracted to my outer shell.

Its up to me to weed through the fools. Dating is a serious activity and you need to put your best foot forward.


If you've been dating for 20 years without finding a life partner then I'm not sure you're someone to take advice from.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2018 12:09     Subject: I’ve become so bitter
For men, it seems they are mostly attracted to looks.
Not much else really matters & if it does, it all falls under good looks.

Women, on the other hand prioritize someone that can take care of them.
And usually guys w/empty billfolds do not have this ability.
Women are also attracted to clout + power too.

And if Prince Harry wasn’t born into royalty and worked at a factory, he wouldn’t stand a chance in the world for scoring a woman as beautiful as Meghan.

Sad, but true.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2018 12:09     Subject: I’ve become so bitter
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:God you guys are out in force this week.



It's insane, really.



OP - You can't possibly think you know all that goes into why someone loves another person based on some superficial CONVERSATION. God, most people don't jump into all the intimate and emotional details of their relationship while making social conversation.

This. You'd be well served not to take to heart the things people say when making conversation, it's never the full story (not should it be).


These conversations are more a reflection on what women think other women value. "I love him because it makes me feel good that he adores the freckle behind my ear" isn't going to make the other ladies jealous.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2018 12:00     Subject: I’ve become so bitter
Anonymous wrote:I am a high-earning, attractive, tall, fit, and active woman. I used to think that men would be attracted to my personality and career prospects but they are not. They see the outer shell first, so i make sure that it is the best that it can be.

Its even more so important now as i age and other women are heavier, have poor attitudes, and low libidos. This sucks, i know but it is what attracts them.

I fought against this mentality for so long. I even broke up with a few guys who have turned out to be high earners because of their "superficial" nature. Well, hell. Here i am, 20 years later dating the same guys who are attracted to my outer shell.

Its up to me to weed through the fools. Dating is a serious activity and you need to put your best foot forward.


And i will add . . . I changed my dating strategy significantly as i aged. I know who is attracted to me.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2018 11:58     Subject: I’ve become so bitter
Anonymous wrote:I find the guys who complain women don't want them because they aren't rich are really complaining that BEAUTIFUL women don't want them. Most are perfectly capable of finding women who are interested, it's just that those women aren't 8s/9s/10s.

Maybe take some of your own advice and stop choosing women based on looks.


You
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2018 11:56     Subject: I’ve become so bitter
I find the guys who complain women don't want them because they aren't rich are really complaining that BEAUTIFUL women don't want them. Most are perfectly capable of finding women who are interested, it's just that those women aren't 8s/9s/10s.

Maybe take some of your own advice and stop choosing women based on looks.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2018 11:56     Subject: I’ve become so bitter
I am a high-earning, attractive, tall, fit, and active woman. I used to think that men would be attracted to my personality and career prospects but they are not. They see the outer shell first, so i make sure that it is the best that it can be.

Its even more so important now as i age and other women are heavier, have poor attitudes, and low libidos. This sucks, i know but it is what attracts them.

I fought against this mentality for so long. I even broke up with a few guys who have turned out to be high earners because of their "superficial" nature. Well, hell. Here i am, 20 years later dating the same guys who are attracted to my outer shell.

Its up to me to weed through the fools. Dating is a serious activity and you need to put your best foot forward.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2018 11:55     Subject: I’ve become so bitter
Anonymous wrote:I think it’s DC culture. I’m not actually from the DC area, just found these boards and like the wide range of topics. I’m from a small town in coal country. My DH is a blue collar worker. He’s not perfect, he had a DUI years ago, but learned his lesson. We aren’t rolling in money. But he’s a wonderful, caring, thoughtful, and downright sexy guy. I love him like crazy. People where I live don’t really seem to care too much about someone’s pedigree or salary as long as they can pay the bills. That’s how I feel, and our relationship is fantastic. Move somewhere else where wealth and material things don’t run so many people’s lives. It’s not all women and you don’t have to live life being bitter.

It's really the exact same thing, the only difference is the expectation of the standard of living. The bottom line is no person would wax poetic about another person who couldn't pay the bills or contribute to the partnership in another way that is meaningful to them.