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Anonymous wrote:I might be the minortity, but I agree with him. You’re 29 and just now getting your life together? You don’t seem like a suitable match for anyone who wants to get married and start a family. You will always be busy, and you’re unlikely to be financially stable. I picked a woman who had her sh*t together, because I didn’t want to support anyone.

+1. I think it's much harder to date when you're out of college or well beyond just out of college. When 2 Jrs in college meet, they come to the relationship with student loan debt. They find housing together and eat ramen while screwing like rabbits and getting drunk every weekend. Then they graduate and find jobs. They have no real responsibilities other than to service their student loan debt and pay the rent. The meet up with friends, go to happy hour, and go away for weekends. Over the next 10 years, they build a life together. When she says she wants to be a SAHM, he agrees and they muddle on with life.

In contrast, the 29 yr old guy in this picture has a job, has a financial plan, and is ready to establish his family life. He has money in the bank already and has started his retirement account. He's been in his a career for a few years and has already gotten a promotion. He's not so willing to easily share what he's worked for already with someone else. He'd like the other person to bring to the table as much as he is doing. OP is just starting out. She's not in the same place as this guy.

Good thing he let her know on the 2nd date she wasn't what he was looking for. I give him credit for not stringing her along until he found what he was really looking for.

Anonymous wrote:I might be the minortity, but I agree with him. You’re 29 and just now getting your life together? You don’t seem like a suitable match for anyone who wants to get married and start a family. You will always be busy, and you’re unlikely to be financially stable. I picked a woman who had her sh*t together, because I didn’t want to support anyone.

Anonymous wrote:I might be the minortity, but I agree with him. You’re 29 and just now getting your life together? You don’t seem like a suitable match for anyone who wants to get married and start a family. You will always be busy, and you’re unlikely to be financially stable. I picked a woman who had her sh*t together, because I didn’t want to support anyone.

Anonymous wrote:I think you've posted about this before?
Try not to take it personally, he just wasn't the guy for you. There will be other guys who feel like he does, but they really don't matter. Focus on the guys who would never dream of seeing your school situation as a negative.

Anonymous wrote:You're 29 and just started a 4 yr program. That means you'll be 33 when you're done. For the next 4 years, you're primary focus will be school and I'll assume you also have a job. That doesn't leave a lot of time for dating. Depending upon how you are paying for your education, there maybe debt at the end.

By 33, you're going to want to start a family. What time does that leave for just the 2 of you? Maybe he is not looking for someone that comes into a marriage with potential debt, lack of time for the relationship, and a desire to start a family before the biological clock starts clanging.

I wouldn't say that you are out of his league, just that the two of you are at
different places in life right now. FWIW--I'm female and I can see his perspective.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who speaks in those terms, OP, is really, truly not someone you want to date. Just keep doing you and dating.

+1000

OP this guy is emotionally and socially stunted. Don't let his rudeness convince you that 1) you're not a catch, or 2) other guys will feel the same way. Call it a dodged bullet and keep it moving.

Anonymous wrote:You're 29 and just started a 4 yr program. That means you'll be 33 when you're done. For the next 4 years, you're primary focus will be school and I'll assume you also have a job. That doesn't leave a lot of time for dating. Depending upon how you are paying for your education, there maybe debt at the end.

By 33, you're going to want to start a family. What time does that leave for just the 2 of you? Maybe he is not looking for someone that comes into a marriage with potential debt, lack of time for the relationship, and a desire to start a family before the biological clock starts clanging.

I wouldn't say that you are out of his league, just that the two of you are at different places in life right now. FWIW--I'm female and I can see his perspective.