Anonymous
03/19/2018 22:08
Subject: Re:How often do you visit with out-of-town grandparents?
My parents live a 9.5 hour drive away and flying there is difficult (no direct flights, really expensive). They drive to our house to visit usually 4x a year and stay for about a week each time. We drive to their house 1 or 2x a year and stay for about a week each time. Then we usually go on vacation to another destination with them 1 or 2x a year also.
My in-laws live a 3.5 hour drive away. They drive to our house often, about once every month-6 weeks or so, but only stay for a day or 2 at a time. We drive to their house 2 or 3x year usually for a 3 day weekend.
So we see my in-laws much more often than we see my parents but over the course of a year, we actually spend more time with my parents than with my in-laws.
How often to visit depends on: your relationship with the grandparents and how much you all enjoy the visits; how you feel about the traveling portion (I like road trips so I don't mind the long drive to see family); how much vacation time you get and whether or not you enjoy spending it to see family or would rather go elsewhere (I love to travel but right now since our kids are small I much prefer using vacation time to visit family); how comfortable it is for you to stay at their house and how hospitable they are when you visit; why they are unwilling to visit you (if it's because they have health issues or need to be close to home for some legitimate reason or have an allergy to your dog or something like that, I'd be much more understanding than if it's just because they don't like traveling).
My in-laws live a 3.5 hour drive away. They drive to our house often, about once every month-6 weeks or so, but only stay for a day or 2 at a time. We drive to their house 2 or 3x year usually for a 3 day weekend.
So we see my in-laws much more often than we see my parents but over the course of a year, we actually spend more time with my parents than with my in-laws.
How often to visit depends on: your relationship with the grandparents and how much you all enjoy the visits; how you feel about the traveling portion (I like road trips so I don't mind the long drive to see family); how much vacation time you get and whether or not you enjoy spending it to see family or would rather go elsewhere (I love to travel but right now since our kids are small I much prefer using vacation time to visit family); how comfortable it is for you to stay at their house and how hospitable they are when you visit; why they are unwilling to visit you (if it's because they have health issues or need to be close to home for some legitimate reason or have an allergy to your dog or something like that, I'd be much more understanding than if it's just because they don't like traveling).
Anonymous
03/19/2018 19:09
Subject: How often do you visit with out-of-town grandparents?
We fly to my parents once a year for a full week. We meet our in-laws in a vacation spot that is a tradition for a week (we haven't been to their hometown in years..). Both sets come to us about 2X per year each - and sometimes they overlap either at the vacation spot or at our house because they really like each other, too.
Anonymous
03/19/2018 19:08
Subject: How often do you visit with out-of-town grandparents?
In laws live 30 min away and have visited twice in six years. Both times when grandchildren were born. They’ve not visted for birthdays, holidays or offered to help when our oldest was hospitalized numerous times. We’ve mad the trip to their home maybe 2x a year but kids go crazy because inlaws prefer to watch TV in the basement, don’t have food etc.
Other set of grandparents live 15 hr drive away and stay for 3 month in winter and then fly out for birthdays, events every 6-8 weeks. We fly to their home once a year.
Other set of grandparents live 15 hr drive away and stay for 3 month in winter and then fly out for birthdays, events every 6-8 weeks. We fly to their home once a year.
Anonymous
03/19/2018 17:25
Subject: Re:How often do you visit with out-of-town grandparents?
My parents live 4-5 hours away by car. We visit them 2-3 times a year and they visit us about the same. It would be nice to see them more often but with 2 careers and 2 kids it's hard to find the time.