Anonymous
03/14/2018 16:32
Subject: Re:Date this guy or red flag
Anonymous wrote:a male perspective....
after my divorce at 40, I moved back home because the ex wife got the house.
I was also unemployed because I was laid off on the same day the divorce was finalized.
I wasn't totally overweight at the time of the divorce but I did gain about 20 lbs after the divorce.
My mom and sister both dislike my ex wife.
I lived at home for about 8 months before getting before I started to get back on my feet.
1. Divorce is brutal for the man because he is almost inevitably made homeless.
2. Men have almost no support system other than their families.
3. Parents love their kids and help out.
In my opinion your list of "red flags" is somewhat superficial.
I wouldn't necessarily fault someone for have a loving and supportive family that they rely upon in a time of crisis.
As with many things you should measure not by the current situation but by the trajectory.
Yeah, ok, but the mom and sister thing...
Anonymous
03/14/2018 15:38
Subject: Re:Date this guy or red flag
What's the attraction?
Anonymous
03/14/2018 15:16
Subject: Re:Date this guy or red flag
a male perspective....
after my divorce at 40, I moved back home because the ex wife got the house.
I was also unemployed because I was laid off on the same day the divorce was finalized.
I wasn't totally overweight at the time of the divorce but I did gain about 20 lbs after the divorce.
My mom and sister both dislike my ex wife.
I lived at home for about 8 months before getting before I started to get back on my feet.
1. Divorce is brutal for the man because he is almost inevitably made homeless.
2. Men have almost no support system other than their families.
3. Parents love their kids and help out.
In my opinion your list of "red flags" is somewhat superficial.
I wouldn't necessarily fault someone for have a loving and supportive family that they rely upon in a time of crisis.
As with many things you should measure not by the current situation but by the trajectory.
after my divorce at 40, I moved back home because the ex wife got the house.
I was also unemployed because I was laid off on the same day the divorce was finalized.
I wasn't totally overweight at the time of the divorce but I did gain about 20 lbs after the divorce.
My mom and sister both dislike my ex wife.
I lived at home for about 8 months before getting before I started to get back on my feet.
1. Divorce is brutal for the man because he is almost inevitably made homeless.
2. Men have almost no support system other than their families.
3. Parents love their kids and help out.
In my opinion your list of "red flags" is somewhat superficial.
I wouldn't necessarily fault someone for have a loving and supportive family that they rely upon in a time of crisis.
As with many things you should measure not by the current situation but by the trajectory.
Anonymous
03/14/2018 14:27
Subject: Re:Date this guy or red flag
Sounds like he chose his Mom. There is probably a weird story there.
Anonymous
03/14/2018 14:23
Subject: Re:Date this guy or red flag
Anonymous wrote:I would not date him. He clearly has a lot of healing to do. Trashing his ex means he is still very hurt and not ready for another healthy relationship. I acted like that after my divorce and never should have dated anyone so soon.
Are you a guy, though?
Anonymous
03/14/2018 13:30
Subject: Date this guy or red flag
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is this a joke? So many red flags. The answer is a resounding Noooooooooo!
But which is the real red flag?
Oh, there are quite a few real red flags. A whole freakin' sea of them with this guy.
Anonymous
03/14/2018 13:28
Subject: Re:Date this guy or red flag
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would not date him. He clearly has a lot of healing to do. Trashing his ex means he is still very hurt and not ready for another healthy relationship. I acted like that after my divorce and never should have dated anyone so soon.
Op..trashing is not what I perceived. I asked, and it was a one line statement. I wouldn't say he has been telling random and all people all over the office. But, he did say "crazy."
You know what you are when a man calls his ex wife crazy? Next. It's a knee jerk, lazy, immature, unenlightened view of why their relationship ended. Because even if the former spouse was certifiable, he chose her, so what does that make him?
Anonymous
03/14/2018 12:10
Subject: Date this guy or red flag
Anonymous wrote:Is this a joke? So many red flags. The answer is a resounding Noooooooooo!
But which is the real red flag?
Anonymous
03/14/2018 12:05
Subject: Re:Date this guy or red flag
Anonymous wrote:I would not date him. He clearly has a lot of healing to do. Trashing his ex means he is still very hurt and not ready for another healthy relationship. I acted like that after my divorce and never should have dated anyone so soon.
Op..trashing is not what I perceived. I asked, and it was a one line statement. I wouldn't say he has been telling random and all people all over the office. But, he did say "crazy."
Anonymous
03/14/2018 10:02
Subject: Date this guy or red flag
Is this a joke? So many red flags. The answer is a resounding Noooooooooo!
Anonymous
03/14/2018 09:33
Subject: Re:Date this guy or red flag
I would not date him. He clearly has a lot of healing to do. Trashing his ex means he is still very hurt and not ready for another healthy relationship. I acted like that after my divorce and never should have dated anyone so soon.
Anonymous
03/14/2018 09:31
Subject: Re:Date this guy or red flag
I'm not sure why you can't figure this out on your own. Use your brain.
Anonymous
03/14/2018 08:34
Subject: Re:Date this guy or red flag
Run Forrest Run
Anonymous
03/14/2018 07:45
Subject: Date this guy or red flag
Anonymous wrote: He is divorced because his wife was "crazy".
Well at least he is honest with you, but next he will discover water is wet.
Anonymous
03/14/2018 06:33
Subject: Re:Date this guy or red flag
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Well, I am overweight. He seemed nice at work. But, yeah ..
Please do whatever you need to do to get your self esteem up. Someone seeming nice is not in and of itself a good enough reason to date them, especially with the many negatives this guy has going on.
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