Anonymous wrote:Normalizing the idea that both parties can do the asking and that it isn’t the boy’s job to do the asking helps level the dating playing field. Girls shouldn’t have to be passive spectators, hoping that some guy will ask them to prom. Girls and boys alike should be free to ask and accept or reject as appropriate.

I view this the opposite. Girls have more power by forcing boys to put themselves out there and express interest in a girl. If girls have to do the asking it means that girls are letting the boy do the deciding.

When a man asks a woman to marry, who do you think has the advantage? I say the woman.

Anonymous wrote:Normalizing the idea that both parties can do the asking and that it isn’t the boy’s job to do the asking helps level the dating playing field. Girls shouldn’t have to be passive spectators, hoping that some guy will ask them to prom. Girls and boys alike should be free to ask and accept or reject as appropriate.

The problem is that men are inherently lazy. Asking is one of their few responsibilities. If girls now have to ask then they have to do everything. We already have to work and bear children. Now we have to also pursue men?

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Anonymous wrote:Normalizing the idea that both parties can do the asking and that it isn’t the boy’s job to do the asking helps level the dating playing field. Girls shouldn’t have to be passive spectators, hoping that some guy will ask them to prom. Girls and boys alike should be free to ask and accept or reject as appropriate.

What is the dating field that needs to be leveled?
Girl asking boy to a dance is not new. I believe it's being done since last century. This is 2018.

Yep, that taboo has been lifted decades ago. Yet abuse against girls/women continues.

It isn’t exactly common. There’s still enormous pressure on boys to make the first move, do the asking, pay for everything...and then there’s a subtle message that a girl owes the boy a yes (to the date, to another, to a kiss, to sex) as a result. Meanwhile, girls like one PP daughter are left to orchestrate invitations from boys rather than simply asking the boys themselves. Girls are socialized to be passive recipients of attention while boys are socialized to take all the risks.

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Anonymous wrote:yes! My DD didn't ask but did the groundwork. She was on the HS lacrosse team and after their practice she said, "ladies, who here doesn't have a prom date? we're going to go find prom dates" ... "who's practicing?" The boys baseball team, they thought, had practice but they were wrong. They walked to the field and the baseball team wasn't there but the boys soccer team was. The girls watched their practice, sorted-out their strategy ..

Your daughter is a true leader.

Divide and conquer! This sounds like a good premise for a movie.

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Anonymous wrote:Normalizing the idea that both parties can do the asking and that it isn’t the boy’s job to do the asking helps level the dating playing field. Girls shouldn’t have to be passive spectators, hoping that some guy will ask them to prom. Girls and boys alike should be free to ask and accept or reject as appropriate.

What is the dating field that needs to be leveled?
Girl asking boy to a dance is not new. I believe it's being done since last century. This is 2018.

Yep, that taboo has been lifted decades ago. Yet abuse against girls/women continues.

Anonymous wrote:yes! My DD didn't ask but did the groundwork. She was on the HS lacrosse team and after their practice she said, "ladies, who here doesn't have a prom date? we're going to go find prom dates" ... "who's practicing?" The boys baseball team, they thought, had practice but they were wrong. They walked to the field and the baseball team wasn't there but the boys soccer team was. The girls watched their practice, sorted-out their strategy ..

Your daughter is a true leader.

Anonymous wrote:Normalizing the idea that both parties can do the asking and that it isn’t the boy’s job to do the asking helps level the dating playing field. Girls shouldn’t have to be passive spectators, hoping that some guy will ask them to prom. Girls and boys alike should be free to ask and accept or reject as appropriate.

What is the dating field that needs to be leveled?
Girl asking boy to a dance is not new. I believe it's being done since last century. This is 2018.

Anonymous wrote:Normalizing the idea that both parties can do the asking and that it isn’t the boy’s job to do the asking helps level the dating playing field. Girls shouldn’t have to be passive spectators, hoping that some guy will ask them to prom. Girls and boys alike should be free to ask and accept or reject as appropriate.

Exactly!

And there's many a shy boy out there who isn't able to work up the nerve to ask, but would love to go to proms, homecoming, etc. Go for it, young ladies!

Yes I went up am all girls HS almost 30 years ago and we had to ask boys to date dances starting in Freshman year fall! That being said my little guy has girls already hugging him and he is only 3 eek. Also I hope that prom postal thing is dead by the time he grows up.... yuck so much pressure.

I asked a boy to my junior prom over twenty years ago (he said yes, fwiw). I had no idea I was such a revolutionary!

I did it in high school back in the late 90s. It was strategic. There was this jerky boy who had a crush on me and I wanted to make sure I had a good reason not to go with him when he asked me. So I asked I sweet quiet guy who always stayed late in math class with me because we both needed extra help in math. It was a great time.

Anonymous wrote:Amen to this.

And, please......can we all just eliminate the entire promposal thing from society? I've got a couple years before mine hit that age, and I'd really like for this not to be a thing. I can't even think of anything more inane.

This is OP (again!) The girl who asked my son did it entirely low-key and in private. I haven’t met her yet, but I am impressed.

My girl goes to an single gender school. All the juniors and seniors have to ask their dates to prom. Some of the girls do promposals which are often really funny.

Teacher girls to be misogynistic...great.

Amen to this.

And, please......can we all just eliminate the entire promposal thing from society? I've got a couple years before mine hit that age, and I'd really like for this not to be a thing. I can't even think of anything more inane.