I am so sick of parents on this board complaining about their kids getting in trouble.

Can we get back to stricter parenting so these poor teachers don’t have to deal with out of control kids who never hear the word no or know what a LEGIT consequence is?

Why is it easier for parents to pay to send kids to therapy and medicate them, than it is to discipline them.

Teachers can not keep kids in for recess (too many complaints)
Teacher can not remove child from special activities (not being inclusive)
Teacher can not send child to principal (that is taking it too far)
Teacher can not yell at student (it is mean and not productive)

Kids are out of control. I volunteer twice a week and the lack of care, the disrespect of authority, the entitlement, is astounding.

OP - your kid was sent to the principal because he is a massive disruption to the entire class. Instead of sitting here asking if this was harsh, why not make your child write a letter apologizing for what he did. Have a meeting with the teacher where you both apologize and set up a small list of expectations. Then he loses all electronics and play dates for multiple days. Replace that screen time with his not normal chores (if he even has chores.)

Anonymous wrote:The teachers are lazy, not the students!

"Lazy" is such a bad word to use. Sure, there are lazy teachers and students--there are lazy people in general. But more often than not, the "lazy" teacher works hard but simply hasn't had the proper management/guidance with certain parts of his/her game--they expend too much energy in the wrong areas and are inefficient. And the "lazy" student, more often than not, is either too used to failure to try or is actually exceedingly bright and needs more incentive to engage and try harder...

Teacher still (hit "post" too soon). Some teachers (usually older ones) still subscribe to the go-to-the-principal's-office style of punishment, but I find it's just not a deterrent: principal's nowadays want to be seen as one of the "good guys," not as disciplinarians and prison wardens.

Teacher here. Personally, I never "send" kids to the principal's office (I don't think it's an effective, long-term classroom management strategy), but I will pull the administrators in the loop if there's an issue that potentially impacts other students and/or if other parents may be reaching out about it (e.g. a child using dirty language, hitting, etc.).

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Anonymous wrote:This happened to my son almost every day when he was in 1st. He had already been diagnosed with ADHD. He would sit and chat with the principal, however, so I don't think he considered it to be a punishment. They are still good friends although she's now retired and he's in 6th. I would just send my husband up there whenever he was in trouble, because there was always another boy involved. My husband was on duty, so he would go in and give both kids a lecture. The other boys stopped getting in trouble because they said when my son was sent to the office, they called the cops (they had no idea it was his stepdad ). It certainly worked wonders for the 1st grade behavior problem.

I would be really upset if a parent came in to lecture my child on behavior. I don't want my child to be scared of police as if he ever does need help, I want him to know they are there to help, not punish little kids. To me that is a privacy issue too.

Oh well then maybe your kid shouldn't misbehave and then you wouldn't have to worry about him/her being subject to lectures on their behavior.

Anonymous wrote:At our school, it depends on the teacher. Last year I didn’t hear a single complaint about my child but he went to the office quite a few times. This year I hear complaints often (not hitting but just doing what he is t supposed to do) yet he only went to the office once or twice. I think it’s how a teacher likes to work on these problems.

I must also add that kids don’t really see the principal at the office today our school. There is a “student advocate” or whatever you call a person dealing with kids’ behavior, recess supervision and such. He is great, makes those sent to the office solve advanced math problems, do chores, run laps and such.

The teachers are lazy, not the students!