Anonymous
Post 02/20/2018 23:54     Subject: Dating A Woman in 30’s
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are you just assuming she wants to have your children? Have you asked her? Has the thought that she may not even want children crossed your mind?



Op here. I was up front that I was looking for something serious because I don’t want to waste my time on a meaningless relationship. She agreed that she was also looking for the same. We are newly dating but we have discussed that we both want 2-3 kids.

I am really not crazy or pushy. I understand hard work, and her going to school was one of the things that attracted me to her. I love her ambition and motivation to better herself and her life. I worked hard for my degree and in my career. I was previously dating a woman for 2 years. She cheated and left me for her high school boyfriend once he divorced his wife. I’ve been single for 2 years with minor relationships here and there. I am tired of it. I want a family to come to every night. Majority of my friends are married and having kids, and it’s lonely being the only single one.


Yeah you seem much more interesting in the idea of a family than the sacrifice of being with someone who maybe doesn't align exactly with the rosy picture you've painted in your head. Leave her be and try to find someone who just cares about having a family. There's a woman that posted about wanting to find site for those who want to be SAWHs, maybe you guys should get together!



You are very rude. If this was a woman who posted this, there would be 50 people telling her to leave the guy and find a more committed man. Why is it wrong when OP wants the same? Many men desire to have a family. There is nothing wrong with OP knowing what he wants and making that a priority. He has every right to happy life.



+1.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2018 23:04     Subject: Dating A Woman in 30’s
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are you just assuming she wants to have your children? Have you asked her? Has the thought that she may not even want children crossed your mind?



Op here. I was up front that I was looking for something serious because I don’t want to waste my time on a meaningless relationship. She agreed that she was also looking for the same. We are newly dating but we have discussed that we both want 2-3 kids.

I am really not crazy or pushy. I understand hard work, and her going to school was one of the things that attracted me to her. I love her ambition and motivation to better herself and her life. I worked hard for my degree and in my career. I was previously dating a woman for 2 years. She cheated and left me for her high school boyfriend once he divorced his wife. I’ve been single for 2 years with minor relationships here and there. I am tired of it. I want a family to come to every night. Majority of my friends are married and having kids, and it’s lonely being the only single one.


Yeah you seem much more interesting in the idea of a family than the sacrifice of being with someone who maybe doesn't align exactly with the rosy picture you've painted in your head. Leave her be and try to find someone who just cares about having a family. There's a woman that posted about wanting to find site for those who want to be SAWHs, maybe you guys should get together!



You are very rude. If this was a woman who posted this, there would be 50 people telling her to leave the guy and find a more committed man. Why is it wrong when OP wants the same? Many men desire to have a family. There is nothing wrong with OP knowing what he wants and making that a priority. He has every right to happy life.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2018 22:53     Subject: Re:Dating A Woman in 30’s
Life after law school especially in big law is hell. If you want a partner that is present for you and your family you need to move on and date someone else.
Let this lady achieve her career goals, but you and your kids don't have to suffer her constant non presence
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2018 22:49     Subject: Dating A Woman in 30’s
Anonymous wrote:Op dump her and look for a woman in her 20s. This one is too old and isn't going to want.to have kids straight out of law school. She's too busy proving she's as good as a man.


Anonymous
Post 02/20/2018 22:49     Subject: Dating A Woman in 30’s
There's plenty of time to date in your 2L year. She's just not that into you.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2018 22:48     Subject: Dating A Woman in 30’s
Op dump her and look for a woman in her 20s. This one is too old and isn't going to want.to have kids straight out of law school. She's too busy proving she's as good as a man.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2018 22:38     Subject: Re:Dating A Woman in 30’s
Dump her OP and move on.

BTDT. I'm a woman and dated men not ready or wanting the same life as me. I had one boyfriend beg that he would propose even though at 18 months he couldn't imagine living with me. Within 6 months I met the man I would marry and it was clear from the start we were both ready and on the same page. Don't waste time, keep looking.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2018 22:31     Subject: Dating A Woman in 30’s
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are you just assuming she wants to have your children? Have you asked her? Has the thought that she may not even want children crossed your mind?



Op here. I was up front that I was looking for something serious because I don’t want to waste my time on a meaningless relationship. She agreed that she was also looking for the same. We are newly dating but we have discussed that we both want 2-3 kids.

I am really not crazy or pushy. I understand hard work, and her going to school was one of the things that attracted me to her. I love her ambition and motivation to better herself and her life. I worked hard for my degree and in my career. I was previously dating a woman for 2 years. She cheated and left me for her high school boyfriend once he divorced his wife. I’ve been single for 2 years with minor relationships here and there. I am tired of it. I want a family to come to every night. Majority of my friends are married and having kids, and it’s lonely being the only single one.


Yeah you seem much more interesting in the idea of a family than the sacrifice of being with someone who maybe doesn't align exactly with the rosy picture you've painted in your head. Leave her be and try to find someone who just cares about having a family. There's a woman that posted about wanting to find site for those who want to be SAWHs, maybe you guys should get together!
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2018 22:22     Subject: Dating A Woman in 30’s
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are you just assuming she wants to have your children? Have you asked her? Has the thought that she may not even want children crossed your mind?



Op here. I was up front that I was looking for something serious because I don’t want to waste my time on a meaningless relationship. She agreed that she was also looking for the same. We are newly dating but we have discussed that we both want 2-3 kids.

I am really not crazy or pushy. I understand hard work, and her going to school was one of the things that attracted me to her. I love her ambition and motivation to better herself and her life. I worked hard for my degree and in my career. I was previously dating a woman for 2 years. She cheated and left me for her high school boyfriend once he divorced his wife. I’ve been single for 2 years with minor relationships here and there. I am tired of it. I want a family to come to every night. Majority of my friends are married and having kids, and it’s lonely being the only single one.


You’re better off dumping her and finding someone else. You both seem on too different pages.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2018 21:31     Subject: Dating A Woman in 30’s
Anonymous wrote:Are you just assuming she wants to have your children? Have you asked her? Has the thought that she may not even want children crossed your mind?



Op here. I was up front that I was looking for something serious because I don’t want to waste my time on a meaningless relationship. She agreed that she was also looking for the same. We are newly dating but we have discussed that we both want 2-3 kids.

I am really not crazy or pushy. I understand hard work, and her going to school was one of the things that attracted me to her. I love her ambition and motivation to better herself and her life. I worked hard for my degree and in my career. I was previously dating a woman for 2 years. She cheated and left me for her high school boyfriend once he divorced his wife. I’ve been single for 2 years with minor relationships here and there. I am tired of it. I want a family to come to every night. Majority of my friends are married and having kids, and it’s lonely being the only single one.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2018 21:01     Subject: Dating A Woman in 30’s
Are you just assuming she wants to have your children? Have you asked her? Has the thought that she may not even want children crossed your mind?
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2018 20:59     Subject: Dating A Woman in 30’s
Anonymous wrote:I think seeing someone twice a week is great. You might just have fundamentally different relationship needs.


wow, totally agree. that is frequent for student or working professional
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2018 20:57     Subject: Re:Dating A Woman in 30’s
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How old is she?


About to turn 34. She is in her third year of law school.


I mean second. She is finishing up her second and will move into her third year soon.


nevermind 2L is the toughest year and she's likely recruiting for summer job right now as well as finished exams 6 weeks ago.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2018 20:56     Subject: Re:Dating A Woman in 30’s
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How old is she?


About to turn 34. She is in her third year of law school.


she'll be much more fun once law school is over. last semester was the last grades that count if you don't have a FT job already lined up.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2018 20:51     Subject: Dating A Woman in 30’s
3L is a great time to have a baby.