Anonymous
02/25/2018 18:30
Subject: Sibling moving from deceased parents home
Anonymous wrote:Jesus.
Sorry Op. you got the same amount of projecting on this thread as the last.
I would follow the will. If it states it’s equal amongst siblings, there is nothing else to discuss. The house is being sold. You might time his length of stay to when the best time to List the home will be.
Agree. Have a conversation with him before it's an inevitability.
Anonymous
02/25/2018 18:25
Subject: Re:Sibling moving from deceased parents home
Anonymous wrote:OP you have issues. If I am reading your thread correctly-your brother lived with your parents, took care of them and I am assuming allowed them to remain in their home (per their wishes). I am assuming a large sum of $$$ would have otherwise gone to hiring a full time nurse/ caretaker for them or towards assisted living costs? Your brother is a saint in my eyes. Moving back home to care for aging parents is not easy (it comes with a number of unseen sacrifices). Is your family life different then your brothers (you have young children or job location requirements)? Did YOU OFFER to reside/take care of your aging parents? If not---you owe it to your brother and parents to give him ample time to transition to his next home.
Something is really wrong with people these days. What happened to basic decency and kindness.
The law happened! Have you ever been an executor of an estate? OP's desires and wishes play a very small role. She has a fiduciary responsibility to all the beneficiaries. She can't just decide that the sibling who was living with the parents gets some recompense for that - the other beneficiaries would have a claim against her. (Some states allow this. Not all. The terms of the will would also be relevant.)
Also, to the pps who think the OP is cold for asking about this now, you need to slow your roll. Now is EXACTLY when OP should be asking. If, for example, the law in her state requires her to sell and give the proceeds to the beneficiaries immediately - unless her living parent makes other provisions in his will - then now would be the time to know that. That way she still has a chance of working with her living parent to amend the will to enure that his or her wishes are met. Believe me, this is not stuff you want to have to figure out after your parents die.
Anonymous
02/25/2018 18:13
Subject: Re:Sibling moving from deceased parents home
Anonymous wrote:OP you have issues. If I am reading your thread correctly-your brother lived with your parents, took care of them and I am assuming allowed them to remain in their home (per their wishes). I am assuming a large sum of $$$ would have otherwise gone to hiring a full time nurse/ caretaker for them or towards assisted living costs? Your brother is a saint in my eyes. Moving back home to care for aging parents is not easy (it comes with a number of unseen sacrifices). Is your family life different then your brothers (you have young children or job location requirements)? Did YOU OFFER to reside/take care of your aging parents? If not---you owe it to your brother and parents to give him ample time to transition to his next home.
Something is really wrong with people these days. What happened to basic decency and kindness.
Where did OP say the brother took care of the parents?
mmmb
02/25/2018 17:19
Subject: Re:Sibling moving from deceased parents home
Have you spoken to your brother about it? His reply might give you a better idea of how much time he would need. Take care!
Anonymous
02/20/2018 12:19
Subject: Sibling moving from deceased parents home
Im in the same situation but brother has never held a real job, isn't mentally stable, and im afraid they might not make it in the real world.
Currently he is doing OK sitting at home all day but doesnt know ass from elbows when it comes to home maintenance so the house will quickly fall into disrepair.
Not sure what to do. Id be fine with him living there if he could maintain it and rent out rooms for income, but he will be lazy, selfish and just rot both himself and the house away forever.
Currently he is doing OK sitting at home all day but doesnt know ass from elbows when it comes to home maintenance so the house will quickly fall into disrepair.
Not sure what to do. Id be fine with him living there if he could maintain it and rent out rooms for income, but he will be lazy, selfish and just rot both himself and the house away forever.
Anonymous
02/19/2018 19:51
Subject: Re:Sibling moving from deceased parents home
OP you have issues. If I am reading your thread correctly-your brother lived with your parents, took care of them and I am assuming allowed them to remain in their home (per their wishes). I am assuming a large sum of $$$ would have otherwise gone to hiring a full time nurse/ caretaker for them or towards assisted living costs? Your brother is a saint in my eyes. Moving back home to care for aging parents is not easy (it comes with a number of unseen sacrifices). Is your family life different then your brothers (you have young children or job location requirements)? Did YOU OFFER to reside/take care of your aging parents? If not---you owe it to your brother and parents to give him ample time to transition to his next home.
Something is really wrong with people these days. What happened to basic decency and kindness.
Something is really wrong with people these days. What happened to basic decency and kindness.
Anonymous
02/19/2018 19:41
Subject: Sibling moving from deceased parents home
Anonymous wrote:I haven't seen the postings on the previous thread, so I hope I'm not repeating what others have said.
Your brother lived with your elderly parents? I'm sure it was extremely beneficial for your parents, at the same time that your brother was probably content to stay with mom and dad. However, if your parents had had to enter an assisted living facility, they would have been paying something in the ballpark of $7,000-$10,000 a month, per individual, to the tune of a minimum of $84,000 per year, per parent. He also gave them the gift of staying at home in their old age. Don't know what their health situation was, but it's wretched having to enter a facility due to health issues. It's wretched having to live in one of those facilities, period. He surely provided quite a bit of care to your parents, and comfort, and the ability to stay in their own home and to sleep in their own bed. That's BIG.
Therefore, be merciful with him. Be as merciful as you can be. Don't throw him out in a month, or in three months. I think one year is reasonable.
Maybe even give him the opportunity to buy the house from the estate. Maybe even cut him a break on what the market value is on the house. Remember, he saved something in the ballpark of $84,000/per year, per parent, for your parents. So maybe you can take that into consideration when you set the price you would like to sell the house for. If you calculate what his share is of the estate, and add to that some of the funds that would have gone to pay for a nursing home or in-home care, do you think it might be possible for your brother to buy the house? Does he even want to stay in the house?
That's my take on your situation, but I don't know all the details.
+1. I agree completely. A PP commented that its about the 'legal' requirement of the situation. This involves family---your brother! Good god. OP you sound like a cold, heartless, wretch.
Anonymous
02/19/2018 12:47
Subject: Sibling moving from deceased parents home
OMG. Your poor father is still alive, and you're already plotting your moves?
You are stone cold.
You are stone cold.
Anonymous
02/19/2018 12:41
Subject: Sibling moving from deceased parents home
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I posted this question in another forum but it got blown out of portion so I'll ask here.
I'm the executor of my fathers estate but I still have a 55 year old brother that lives at my parents home. This sibling is financially secure and can easily afford to buy a new home on his own, just not this one because of cost. I also have 4 siblings that live on there own, some of which that can use this inheritance money to improve the quality of there life plus kids college costs. I have no real money issues so I'm in no hurry to sell this house. BUT, I know at some point my siblings will want this brother to move out so we can sell the house and move on.
My question is, how much time is fair to give him to find a new place to live? A month, 6 months, 12 months, as long as he needs? And before you start in on me, no one is being money hungry, I'm just trying to be fair with everyone and attempting to keep peace in the family.
Until he wants to move out. Period.
Nope. Free ride is over.
Anonymous
02/19/2018 12:41
Subject: Sibling moving from deceased parents home
Jesus.
Sorry Op. you got the same amount of projecting on this thread as the last.
I would follow the will. If it states it’s equal amongst siblings, there is nothing else to discuss. The house is being sold. You might time his length of stay to when the best time to List the home will be.
Sorry Op. you got the same amount of projecting on this thread as the last.
I would follow the will. If it states it’s equal amongst siblings, there is nothing else to discuss. The house is being sold. You might time his length of stay to when the best time to List the home will be.
Anonymous
02/19/2018 12:36
Subject: Sibling moving from deceased parents home
Anonymous wrote:I posted this question in another forum but it got blown out of portion so I'll ask here.
I'm the executor of my fathers estate but I still have a 55 year old brother that lives at my parents home. This sibling is financially secure and can easily afford to buy a new home on his own, just not this one because of cost. I also have 4 siblings that live on there own, some of which that can use this inheritance money to improve the quality of there life plus kids college costs. I have no real money issues so I'm in no hurry to sell this house. BUT, I know at some point my siblings will want this brother to move out so we can sell the house and move on.
My question is, how much time is fair to give him to find a new place to live? A month, 6 months, 12 months, as long as he needs? And before you start in on me, no one is being money hungry, I'm just trying to be fair with everyone and attempting to keep peace in the family.
Until he wants to move out. Period.
Anonymous
02/19/2018 12:24
Subject: Sibling moving from deceased parents home
Anonymous wrote:I posted this question in another forum but it got blown out of portion so I'll ask here.
I'm the executor of my fathers estate but I still have a 55 year old brother that lives at my parents home. This sibling is financially secure and can easily afford to buy a new home on his own, just not this one because of cost. I also have 4 siblings that live on there own, some of which that can use this inheritance money to improve the quality of there life plus kids college costs. I have no real money issues so I'm in no hurry to sell this house. BUT, I know at some point my siblings will want this brother to move out so we can sell the house and move on.
My question is, how much time is fair to give him to find a new place to live? A month, 6 months, 12 months, as long as he needs? And before you start in on me, no one is being money hungry, I'm just trying to be fair with everyone and attempting to keep peace in the family.
Wait wait wait. Your father is still alive??
Anonymous
02/19/2018 12:23
Subject: Sibling moving from deceased parents home
OP, be grateful that brother is in the home and your parents are not alone. Your parents aren't dead and you are worried about the inheritance. Nice. Great son. Step up and help care for your parents. You have no idea how hard that is. Worry about them being alive, not dead. Clearly you have financial issues and need the money.
Anonymous
02/19/2018 12:18
Subject: Sibling moving from deceased parents home
Anonymous wrote:^^^^ She is the executor and needs to follow the parents instructions in the will. If the parents didn’t leave the brother a life estate and instead gave everything to the siblings equally, it’s time for the brother’s free ride to end. She has a duty to sell the house and divide the proceeds.
+1000
Also, you should not offer your brother a discount on the house without the approval of all of the beneficiaries. As the executor your role is to do things as they are mandated in the will and it would be unethical to favor your brother that lived there over the others, even if that seems
The fairest thing to do, if that is not what the will stipulates.
Anonymous
02/19/2018 12:12
Subject: Sibling moving from deceased parents home
Anonymous wrote:Wasn't this posted before?
The OP posted in another forum, but did not like the answers she was given- which are similar here. On both threads, most seem to think one year is reasonable given the circumstances. I think the OP was looking for 3 months or less.