Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 15:34     Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Anonymous wrote:No, I send the cheap clothing to school and teh good stuff stays at home.

He'll grow out of it or lose interest in it quickly. What's the point in preserving it.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 15:02     Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Anonymous wrote:I would never guess that was expensive. I would guess he bought it at Gap kids, like my son’s shark sweater.
Which is to say that I think only other rich kids will recognize it as a $1000 sweater. Everyone else will just think it’s sort of random for a teen to wear a sweater with a big animal on it, I think.


Right???

I just realized this other ugly bat sweater his friend has been wearing is a Gucci sweater as well so I guess this is a thing now??
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 15:00     Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ds is spending the weekend with grandparents who apparently bought him an expensive piece of clothing he’s been covering. He sent me a pic of him wearing the item last night and said he can’t wait to wear it Tuesday. I told him it looked nice on him but we’d have to discuss wearing it Tuesday when he got home.

Ds is a sneaker head, as are most of his friends, but this item is more expensive than some $300 shoes. Dh (whose parents bought it and who grew up rich) doesn’t see the problem. We live in Loudoun Co and 80% of the student cars at his school are brand new or BMWs and Mercedes is basically Dh’s argument. Besides, he says most kids won’t even know the item Ds is wearing is $$$ unless Ds tells them.

I feel like ds could get away with wearing it at a private school easier than public. I sent the pic to my friend whose boys go to a private and she said several boys there have this item that they wear with their uniforms. I guess I basically don’t want him to go to school looking like a rich douche is what it boils down to.

Ugh. I like it when the kids spend time with my poor (compared to Dh’s parents) better. They never come home with outrageous gifts like this.


That's his decision. You can say, "Kid, if you go to school wearing this, you will look like a rich douche." And then Kid makes Kid's decision.


He's not a rich douche in less he has a job and is making a huge amount of money. You are the rich douche and one whose buying all the crap.


I didn’t buy it. His grandparents did. He’s been asking for this for months now and I told him that was something he’d have to buy on his own through saving up. I knew he’d never do that and thought I was in the clear. He apparently wants it because one of those Lil rappers has it and he thinks it looks “fresh af.”



Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 14:04     Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
I would never guess that was expensive. I would guess he bought it at Gap kids, like my son’s shark sweater.
Which is to say that I think only other rich kids will recognize it as a $1000 sweater. Everyone else will just think it’s sort of random for a teen to wear a sweater with a big animal on it, I think.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 13:50     Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
He’ll get plenty of crap for that sweater. The problem will take care of itself.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 13:42     Subject: Re:Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
My concern would be that hope he doesn't get ridiculed in that sweater, it's really ugly. I don't think many students will care because it's not something worth lusting after.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 13:32     Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
I get your concern. I wouldn't think of the price of the item, rather, I'd think about how special it is for ds and that it makes him feel confident. It's a short phase in his life. I also wouldn't formulate it to him as, "letting him wear it." I'm not telling you how to parent, I'm only saying that if it were me, I'd recognize this time in his life as a period of wanting to individuate, and if you use language like, "letting", or show signs of squeezing his freedom in small ways, he'll pick up on your motivation to control him (even though it's out of love and protection), and I don't know if that's worth potential consequences.

But, having you as a mom, there is no way he's going to grow up a douche. No way.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 13:26     Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Ok, no. I don't care what it cost, do not let your child be seen in that unless he is going to an ugly sweater party.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 13:23     Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Perfectly fine. My high school classmates used to come in with diamond bracelets and furs.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 13:21     Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ds is spending the weekend with grandparents who apparently bought him an expensive piece of clothing he’s been covering. He sent me a pic of him wearing the item last night and said he can’t wait to wear it Tuesday. I told him it looked nice on him but we’d have to discuss wearing it Tuesday when he got home.

Ds is a sneaker head, as are most of his friends, but this item is more expensive than some $300 shoes. Dh (whose parents bought it and who grew up rich) doesn’t see the problem. We live in Loudoun Co and 80% of the student cars at his school are brand new or BMWs and Mercedes is basically Dh’s argument. Besides, he says most kids won’t even know the item Ds is wearing is $$$ unless Ds tells them.

I feel like ds could get away with wearing it at a private school easier than public. I sent the pic to my friend whose boys go to a private and she said several boys there have this item that they wear with their uniforms. I guess I basically don’t want him to go to school looking like a rich douche is what it boils down to.

Ugh. I like it when the kids spend time with my poor (compared to Dh’s parents) better. They never come home with outrageous gifts like this.


That's his decision. You can say, "Kid, if you go to school wearing this, you will look like a rich douche." And then Kid makes Kid's decision.


He's not a rich douche in less he has a job and is making a huge amount of money. You are the rich douche and one whose buying all the crap.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 13:20     Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
No, I send the cheap clothing to school and teh good stuff stays at home.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 12:39     Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Anonymous wrote:Ds is spending the weekend with grandparents who apparently bought him an expensive piece of clothing he’s been covering. He sent me a pic of him wearing the item last night and said he can’t wait to wear it Tuesday. I told him it looked nice on him but we’d have to discuss wearing it Tuesday when he got home.

Ds is a sneaker head, as are most of his friends, but this item is more expensive than some $300 shoes. Dh (whose parents bought it and who grew up rich) doesn’t see the problem. We live in Loudoun Co and 80% of the student cars at his school are brand new or BMWs and Mercedes is basically Dh’s argument. Besides, he says most kids won’t even know the item Ds is wearing is $$$ unless Ds tells them.

I feel like ds could get away with wearing it at a private school easier than public. I sent the pic to my friend whose boys go to a private and she said several boys there have this item that they wear with their uniforms. I guess I basically don’t want him to go to school looking like a rich douche is what it boils down to.

Ugh. I like it when the kids spend time with my poor (compared to Dh’s parents) better. They never come home with outrageous gifts like this.


That's his decision. You can say, "Kid, if you go to school wearing this, you will look like a rich douche." And then Kid makes Kid's decision.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 12:28     Subject: Re:Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Don't have to worry about that. Really.

Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 12:02     Subject: Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Anonymous wrote:Haha yeah I’d let him wear it. Whatever. It’s dumb AF IMO but the money has been spent. Might as well put it to use.



Do adult men actually wear these??? I don’t think I would be able to stop myself from laughing out loud if I saw that
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2018 12:01     Subject: Re:Would you let your public school kid wear a very expensive item of clothing to school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I thin it's fine unless there's a specific reason to avoid it (e.g., other kids will try to steal it).


I don’t think this will happen. Students all have expensive phones, iPads, and laptops with no issues. I wish I could use that as my excuse.


Then what’s your problem? DS has generous grandparents. Is this where your issue lies?