It’s simple, don’t bring your monsters. Why is that hard to understand? Not everyone likes kids. You might think yours are somehow special. They’re not.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There was a time when I would have considered that to be a rude message.

And then I discovered DCUM. And I realized that there's a whole bunch of people out there who are incapable of reasoning, have no common sense, no common courtesy, think the rules don't apply to them because they're special, and generally think they're entitled to anything they want regardless of how it affects other people.

As you said, it wouldn't have occurred to you (or me) to bring our children to such an event, but evidently it did occur to some other people. And some other people evidently thought that they were SO entitled to bring children that there should be special accommodations made for said children on the host's dime.

So now I'd read that message, think that he's a typically abrasive 21 year old guy who is shocked at the entitlement of people and wanting to make it perfectly clear that they want to enjoy the party they worked hard to organize without kids there.

You have every right to not go if the invite offends you so much, but you have zero right to complain about it.

x1000


Bravo. This. Exactly this.

Totally. No more posts necessary.

Are you Op or just the bossy type?

So the writer of the message is THIRTY?!

My nephew, at about 22, made some remarks about my toddler daughter that was along these lines and it made me quite upset. A couple of years later, he was our house guest for a while and had turned into a thoughtful and respectful person.

A 30 year old, on the other hand, should really know better. This was completely out of line.
I would go to the party because it's not about him, it's about your younger cousin, but I would make a point to not socialize with this host. The other host has nothing to do with it.

LMAO

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There was a time when I would have considered that to be a rude message.

And then I discovered DCUM. And I realized that there's a whole bunch of people out there who are incapable of reasoning, have no common sense, no common courtesy, think the rules don't apply to them because they're special, and generally think they're entitled to anything they want regardless of how it affects other people.

As you said, it wouldn't have occurred to you (or me) to bring our children to such an event, but evidently it did occur to some other people. And some other people evidently thought that they were SO entitled to bring children that there should be special accommodations made for said children on the host's dime.

So now I'd read that message, think that he's a typically abrasive 21 year old guy who is shocked at the entitlement of people and wanting to make it perfectly clear that they want to enjoy the party they worked hard to organize without kids there.

You have every right to not go if the invite offends you so much, but you have zero right to complain about it.

x1000

Bravo. This. Exactly this.

Totally. No more posts necessary.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There was a time when I would have considered that to be a rude message.

And then I discovered DCUM. And I realized that there's a whole bunch of people out there who are incapable of reasoning, have no common sense, no common courtesy, think the rules don't apply to them because they're special, and generally think they're entitled to anything they want regardless of how it affects other people.

As you said, it wouldn't have occurred to you (or me) to bring our children to such an event, but evidently it did occur to some other people. And some other people evidently thought that they were SO entitled to bring children that there should be special accommodations made for said children on the host's dime.

So now I'd read that message, think that he's a typically abrasive 21 year old guy who is shocked at the entitlement of people and wanting to make it perfectly clear that they want to enjoy the party they worked hard to organize without kids there.

You have every right to not go if the invite offends you so much, but you have zero right to complain about it.

x1000

Bravo. This. Exactly this.

Yup, yup. Don’t go if you find the host rude.

Anonymous wrote:This party is for my soon to be 21 year old cousin and its being hosted by her 30 y/o brother and another cousin. Everyone seems to be really looking forward to it. He lined up a "famous" DJ and everyone is prepared to dance the night away. The message he posted is so unacceptable.

Stay out of it. This is one of those situations wher two wrongs don’t make a right. It’s a bit ridiculous to me that relatives would not only ask to bring their kids but then follow-up to ask them to provide free babysitting- and clearly it was more than one person! And just think, these were the ones that DID ask, they are probably some that figure it’s better to ask forgiveness than permission.

The ttle monsters was a bit much IMO unless he was trying to joke/be sarcastic. He could have worded it as no one under 21 would be allowed underage minor will be turned away at the door. Cause I could see that people are just that bold. This is bringing back wedding flashbacks of the people that brought their kids anyway despite the Miss Manners discrete way of addressing the invite, spreading the words not on the invite including mentioning the hotel services for a baby sitter etc. and of course the people that brought their kids didn’t RSVP with the kids included for obvious reasons that they knew. We’ve stayed home from a wedding before or just had one of us go due to childcare.

Anonymous wrote:There was a time when I would have considered that to be a rude message.

And then I discovered DCUM. And I realized that there's a whole bunch of people out there who are incapable of reasoning, have no common sense, no common courtesy, think the rules don't apply to them because they're special, and generally think they're entitled to anything they want regardless of how it affects other people.

As you said, it wouldn't have occurred to you (or me) to bring our children to such an event, but evidently it did occur to some other people. And some other people evidently thought that they were SO entitled to bring children that there should be special accommodations made for said children on the host's dime.

So now I'd read that message, think that he's a typically abrasive 21 year old guy who is shocked at the entitlement of people and wanting to make it perfectly clear that they want to enjoy the party they worked hard to organize without kids there.

You have every right to not go if the invite offends you so much, but you have zero right to complain about it.

x1000

Bravo. This. Exactly this.

Anonymous wrote:There was a time when I would have considered that to be a rude message.

And then I discovered DCUM. And I realized that there's a whole bunch of people out there who are incapable of reasoning, have no common sense, no common courtesy, think the rules don't apply to them because they're special, and generally think they're entitled to anything they want regardless of how it affects other people.

As you said, it wouldn't have occurred to you (or me) to bring our children to such an event, but evidently it did occur to some other people. And some other people evidently thought that they were SO entitled to bring children that there should be special accommodations made for said children on the host's dime.

So now I'd read that message, think that he's a typically abrasive 21 year old guy who is shocked at the entitlement of people and wanting to make it perfectly clear that they want to enjoy the party they worked hard to organize without kids there.

You have every right to not go if the invite offends you so much, but you have zero right to complain about it.

See bolded portion above.

Anonymous wrote:Incredibly rude. I would not attend the party.

Yeah, punish the guest of honor for the behavior of others, that’s always the right call.

Your cousin has the grace of a bulldog, but that's his problem. Let it be and let them deal with whatever fallout comes from it. Your relatives are clueless to think they could bring children to a 21st birthday party with a DJ and even more clueless to demand a kid room with babysitting. They should should get together and arrange babysitting on their own with a group at someone's house so they can enjoy the party. They'll figure it out.

However, your cousin should learn how to communicate properly. There was a way to let people know no kids without being rude. He sounds like a juvenile idiot (he's really 30 years old?!). It's not your problem, though!

Incredibly rude. I would not attend the party.

There was a time when I would have considered that to be a rude message.

And then I discovered DCUM. And I realized that there's a whole bunch of people out there who are incapable of reasoning, have no common sense, no common courtesy, think the rules don't apply to them because they're special, and generally think they're entitled to anything they want regardless of how it affects other people.

As you said, it wouldn't have occurred to you (or me) to bring our children to such an event, but evidently it did occur to some other people. And some other people evidently thought that they were SO entitled to bring children that there should be special accommodations made for said children on the host's dime.

So now I'd read that message, think that he's a typically abrasive 21 year old guy who is shocked at the entitlement of people and wanting to make it perfectly clear that they want to enjoy the party they worked hard to organize without kids there.

You have every right to not go if the invite offends you so much, but you have zero right to complain about it.

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Anonymous wrote:Stay out of it.

He is amazingly rude though and I'm not sure I would be interested in attending. Is he always so rude?

He can be blunt at times but I have not known him to be this outright rude. What surprises me is the second host who has allowed this message to stand. She is a very kind and considerate person.

You are getting really hung up on this message OP.

I'd actually laugh about it. It sorta sounds like he was trying to be funny.

Anonymous wrote:Stay out of it.

He is amazingly rude though and I'm not sure I would be interested in attending. Is he always so rude?

He can be blunt at times but I have not known him to be this outright rude. What surprises me is the second host who has allowed this message to stand. She is a very kind and considerate person.