Anonymous wrote:I would cry. To throw them off my trail.

Anonymous wrote:Would you cry? Attend his funeral? Be sad? What are one's moral obligations under such circumstances? (And I understand circumstaces have a lot to do with it, but I'm curious to know).

I would cry.
I would attend (and probably have a huge hand in planning) his funeral.

I think it would be sad, and I would be somewhat sad. But I honestly think my kids would be better off.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you cry? Attend his funeral? Be sad? What are one's moral obligations under such circumstances? (And I understand circumstaces have a lot to do with it, but I'm curious to know).

I'm waiting. He's been HIV+ for a few years.

Oh wow. Hopefully not while you were together! Is he high risk? I think people can live a full life with the new drugs.

No, I left years ago. Had myself checked twice in ten years just based on what I knew then.

He's lived a high risk lifestyle for years. I wasn't at all surprised when I heard.

I'm honestly surprised he hasn't died another way.

Anonymous wrote:I would be really sad. He did some really crappy things, and there are days I hate him-but I loved him for 20 years and he is linked into so many of my key, formative memories. I can’t imagine being in a world without him-even though we don’t talk at all now except for kid related things.

I would also be devestated for my children.

You sound like my ex-wife. I still love you too.

I wouldn't even know. We divorced 20 years ago and had no children. I haven't seen or spoken to him in 20 years.

Anonymous wrote:I would be really sad. He did some really crappy things, and there are days I hate him-but I loved him for 20 years and he is linked into so many of my key, formative memories. I can’t imagine being in a world without him-even though we don’t talk at all now except for kid related things.

I would also be devestated for my children.

Same here. Ex did some pretty horrible stuff that affected all of us and caused the divorce. Three years later we have a cordial relationship and I'd be very sad if he died, and would feel for the extreme pain our children would experience. I don't wish him bad and know he's broken but deep inside is a good person. My children are 50% him so rejecting their father would mean rejecting half of who they are. I try to remember this and be grateful that we met one day, shared good moments and had our beautiful kids together.

I would be devastated, and would obviously drop everything to attend the funeral and to be there for my kids and for his parents and siblings. He's always been one of my dearest friends. Just because we didn't? work well married didn't mean that we didn't work as friends.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you cry? Attend his funeral? Be sad? What are one's moral obligations under such circumstances? (And I understand circumstaces have a lot to do with it, but I'm curious to know).

I'm waiting. He's been HIV+ for a few years.

Oh wow. Hopefully not while you were together! Is he high risk? I think people can live a full life with the new drugs.

Anonymous wrote:Would you cry? Attend his funeral? Be sad? What are one's moral obligations under such circumstances? (And I understand circumstaces have a lot to do with it, but I'm curious to know).

I'm waiting. He's been HIV+ for a few years.

I would cry. To throw them off my trail.

I would not be sad about his death per say, as in it would be no loss from my own life, but I would feel very bad for his mother and his wife and children, yes.

I'd be sad because we were once in love and we had three children together. They would be devastated and I would truly hurt for them. While the marriage ended badly I couldn't help but share their pain.

Anonymous wrote:I would be really sad. He did some really crappy things, and there are days I hate him-but I loved him for 20 years and he is linked into so many of my key, formative memories. I can’t imagine being in a world without him-even though we don’t talk at all now except for kid related things.

I would also be devestated for my children.

Right now I would assume I’d go to his funeral because I’m close to his mother and my kids are little and would need the support/supervision. I suppose if his girlfriend pitched a fit I’d reconsider. Years from now, it would depend on the circumstances and whether I was welcome.

I would be really sad. He did some really crappy things, and there are days I hate him-but I loved him for 20 years and he is linked into so many of my key, formative memories. I can’t imagine being in a world without him-even though we don’t talk at all now except for kid related things.

I would also be devestated for my children.

I would be sad, and I would attend the funeral if my child wanted me there-but it would be complicated because of the affair partner now life partner situation.