I'm sorry you felt so disrespected. I'd like to suggest there are two issues here: Disrespect for you and some parenting decisions that perhaps should be rethought. I do think that part of honoring and respecting your spouse is giving them the time you committed to, and from your post, it doesn't sound like that was the case from your husband. I hope you and he can have a conversation where he understands that you would not do that to him (for get the boss thing?) Regarding parenting decisions, without knowing what his son's emergency was, I will assume perhaps he just gave in to his son's pestering, as my grandmother called it. If that is a common thing where his son can easily rule his schedule, I'd suggest that he rethink the respect he also deserves as a father from his son--which is not to expect something on demand. As his son gets even older, that dynamic will get worse (and more expensive.!) I hope the lines of communication can stay open on both of these subjects: for your marriage and parenting--the two most rewarding but most challenging parts of our lives. Sending prayers you can communicate together. If you need resources to read about on blended families and parenting, please let me know. I'm happy to help.

Try having your wife pick up her phone and start texting right in the middle of your sentence

"kid wants Dad to buy him something or other"


Translated: "That's HIS kid, not part of MY family. How should I know what the little b*stard wants, I don't speak to him unless I have to. He's lucky I even tolerate his presence"

Anonymous wrote:The kid sounds immature. Calling and asking for an *item* four times in a row? Unless it’s an ambulance so he can get to the hospital, I would tell my kid to forget about it. The way OP describes it, daddy would rather figure out the latest addition to his son’s golf bag than talk to his spouse for 15 minutes. I am on team OP.

5he wife sounds immature.

Grown ups take care of the kids first.

Anonymous wrote:The kid sounds immature. Calling and asking for an *item* four times in a row? Unless it’s an ambulance so he can get to the hospital, I would tell my kid to forget about it. The way OP describes it, daddy would rather figure out the latest addition to his son’s golf bag than talk to his spouse for 15 minutes. I am on team OP.

Dad made his own bed, and clearly he is treating OP the same way parents treat their teens. So, clearly his own tantrum prone kid is a priority over his tantrum prone replacement.

The kid sounds immature. Calling and asking for an *item* four times in a row? Unless it’s an ambulance so he can get to the hospital, I would tell my kid to forget about it. The way OP describes it, daddy would rather figure out the latest addition to his son’s golf bag than talk to his spouse for 15 minutes. I am on team OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP is a troll. What else could such a loaded and insane post be? if she is for real, she needs therapy. What an immense problem to have!

Maybe she is a young second wife, practically a teen herself.

That would make sense as it sounds si.ilar to a teenager having a tantrum because dad I paying too much attention to her little brother.

She might not be that much older than his son, so that could be part of the issue.

I agree with that. Sounds just like my teen kids!

Anonymous wrote:I think OP is a troll. What else could such a loaded and insane post be? if she is for real, she needs therapy. What an immense problem to have!

Maybe she is a young second wife, practically a teen herself.

That would make sense as it sounds si.ilar to a teenager having a tantrum because dad I paying too much attention to her little brother.

She might not be that much older than his son, so that could be part of the issue.