Anonymous
Post 01/31/2018 07:24     Subject: Re:Co-sleeping ruined my marriage
Go to counseling together. Lack of sleep and toddler hood can be hard on a marriage.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2018 07:22     Subject: Co-sleeping ruined my marriage
Anonymous wrote:You clearly had marital problems before Co sleeping became an issue.


We actually did not. We were very affectionate before cosleeping. It's funny how a handful of men have agreed with me on this.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2018 07:12     Subject: Co-sleeping ruined my marriage
Anonymous wrote:We co-sleep- it was my mistake- it wasn’t an intentional plan at all. I had a very demanding baby who got up all the time And sleep training did nothing. When the baby came into bed with me- we slept. I had to make my sleep and the baby’s sleep first priority. DH slept in the guest room. It has impacted our marriage a bit- I’m not going to deny it... not a divorce level impact though. It’s also hard to tell if it’s co sleeping or just strain of kids. I can’t say I have regrets because DH and I love each other very much still. What was I to do? I needed sleep and was desperate.


Sounds familiar. I"m a DH who sleeps in our guest room. The kids don't co-sleep anymore, but I have trouble sleeping in the same room with my wife after years of getting used to having my own room.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2018 00:58     Subject: Co-sleeping ruined my marriage
Some men are just too selfish and infantile. They cannot stand a little rival in bed!
As for me I lost all interest in husband after I had a baby. I am still not sure if it was because he is a selfish lazy wimp, or because biology.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2018 00:17     Subject: Co-sleeping ruined my marriage
You clearly had marital problems before Co sleeping became an issue.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2018 00:14     Subject: Co-sleeping ruined my marriage
I have co-slept for years. We still touch each other. We don’t have a ton of sex but it is not because of co-sleeping (lack of sex without co sleeping with another kid). This is not caused by co-sleeping. The problem is much greater. Something else is wrong with the marriage.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 22:21     Subject: Co-sleeping ruined my marriage
We each co-sleep with one of the two kids. We have sex every other night right after the kids fall asleep. We are happy and very affectionate so I really doubt it’s the co-sleeping that ruined your marriage...
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 21:51     Subject: Co-sleeping ruined my marriage
We co-sleep- it was my mistake- it wasn’t an intentional plan at all. I had a very demanding baby who got up all the time And sleep training did nothing. When the baby came into bed with me- we slept. I had to make my sleep and the baby’s sleep first priority. DH slept in the guest room. It has impacted our marriage a bit- I’m not going to deny it... not a divorce level impact though. It’s also hard to tell if it’s co sleeping or just strain of kids. I can’t say I have regrets because DH and I love each other very much still. What was I to do? I needed sleep and was desperate.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 21:36     Subject: Co-sleeping ruined my marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We still cosleep at 3.5 half the night but are very affectionate and have a great sex life. Sounds like s husband issue.


+1

Sorry, but I agree with the PPs. If a couple wants to be together, co-sleeping will not ruin the relationship. Tons of my friends have co-slept and are still married years later. OP, your husband is probably using porn to replace a relationship with you.



Agreed. It's not the co-sleeping, it's what else is going on in the marriage.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 21:20     Subject: Co-sleeping ruined my marriage
Anonymous wrote:We got one of those 3-sided sleepers so infant DD was right next to us but not IN the bed. When she got older and due to nightmares wanted to sleep with us, we built her a nest next to our bed so I could hold her hand until she fell asleep. We did that for years it seemed.

TBH she kicked and sprawled out too much to really be IN the bed with us. And when she was an infant, I was afraid I would roll on her or something. We were sort of co-sleepers.

Who has sex right after the baby is born anyway?

OP -- cuddling seems an odd hill to kill a marriage on. Just saying.


He wanted sex but no real affection is how I read it. Rude on his part, but yes not something to end a marriage. They could have worked it out unless there's much more here.

Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 21:12     Subject: Co-sleeping ruined my marriage
Anonymous wrote:We still cosleep at 3.5 half the night but are very affectionate and have a great sex life. Sounds like s husband issue.


+1

Sorry, but I agree with the PPs. If a couple wants to be together, co-sleeping will not ruin the relationship. Tons of my friends have co-slept and are still married years later. OP, your husband is probably using porn to replace a relationship with you.

Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 21:09     Subject: Co-sleeping ruined my marriage
We got one of those 3-sided sleepers so infant DD was right next to us but not IN the bed. When she got older and due to nightmares wanted to sleep with us, we built her a nest next to our bed so I could hold her hand until she fell asleep. We did that for years it seemed.

TBH she kicked and sprawled out too much to really be IN the bed with us. And when she was an infant, I was afraid I would roll on her or something. We were sort of co-sleepers.

Who has sex right after the baby is born anyway?

OP -- cuddling seems an odd hill to kill a marriage on. Just saying.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 21:05     Subject: Co-sleeping ruined my marriage
Affair
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 20:55     Subject: Co-sleeping ruined my marriage
All the couples I know who co-slept have ended up divorced
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 20:48     Subject: Co-sleeping ruined my marriage
We still cosleep at 3.5 half the night but are very affectionate and have a great sex life. Sounds like s husband issue.