Is she famous?

OP you really should talk to a lawyer and at least explore your options.

Anonymous wrote:Do not change your name and silly stuff like that. Go to a legal aide, pay a small fee so have a letter sent to her home address. We did that once and they backed off. Make sure it spells out you will seek legal action and damages if she doesn't take the website down.

What she is doing is illegal.

Whats illegal about what she's doing if it's all true?

Do not change your name and silly stuff like that. Go to a legal aide, pay a small fee so have a letter sent to her home address. We did that once and they backed off. Make sure it spells out you will seek legal action and damages if she doesn't take the website down.

What she is doing is illegal.

I would also change my name.

Change your name. It's a relatively simple process. Look on the court's website for the state in which you live for more information. It's unfortunate this has happened, but glad to hear you've changed your ways. Good luck!

Ps. It's not defamation if the allegations are true. However, I'd talk to a pro bone/legal aid attorney (again available through your state/county, or various non profit organizations) and discuss w/n the legal elements of harassment, or any other actionable claim, are met.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it easily come up if you search your name? Can you only lust that job without any reference to her?

It definetly reflects negatively on her. How damaging is it to you?

It is the first result in a google search for my name. It is pretty damaging - makes me out to be unprofessional, lazy, crazy and worse. I never list her as a reference, so that is not the problem. The website she dedicated to me is the problem.

Why in the world have you not contacted a lawyer? Do that TOMORROW.

I would use a different name/nickname on my resume, and tell your references this so they don't say they don't know you if called.

Once hired, that's when they can find out you have a different legal name.

So like "Larla DeSnoflake" becomes LaLa or L DeSnoflake or Elle Desnoflake Or L. (middle name) DeSnoflake.

These things were true but if she's not ready to let it go it's your only option.

You could hire some people on the dark web to conduct a data denial of service attack against the website. Illegal though, so I wouldn’t recommend it

The fastest thing would be to apologize and ask her nicely to take it down herself.

Anonymous wrote:I would see if one of those "reputation defender" websites could help you. Maybe get results down to page 2 on Google. A more drastic measure might be to start using a nickname, or your middle name. Something to break the association.

This poster has good advice.

What you did then is pretty messed up. You could have been sued. Be happy this is your only problem now.

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Anonymous wrote:You may have a case for invasion of privacy, depending on the state you're in/where this happened.

Is what she saying untrue? If so, then you do have a defamation case. It's unclear what you mean by "she has proof of everything she says."

Can you tell me more about invasion of privacy?

When I say she has proof, I mean exactly that. She has texts and emails and documents that back up what she says about me. She is not lying, but I have changed and she is still making life hard years later.

How can I win a defamation lawsuit if what she saying is true?

You don't have a case for defamation if what she is saying is true.

Invasion of privacy/false light is when someone says something that shows you in a false light. I don't think that the information disclosed publicly needs to be false. In other words, it could be technically true (ie, you did make the mistakes) but the context makes it otherwise offensive/distorted (ie, she is not giving the full picture of what happened, so that it looks worse than it was). There are other types of invasion of privacy; false light is just one and may not exist as a tort in the state you're in.

Anonymous wrote:What the heck did you do that she holds such a grudge against you?? What industry is this? Maybe there's some other tort you could sue her for.

I lied about my background and did a really bad job of what she hired me for. I also told some lies on the way out. I cant give more info than that.

No idea if these people could help, but worth checking into at least - https://www.reputationdefender.com