Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 23:43     Subject: Am I entitled to any govt support if my ex spouse is fairly well off but won’t pay?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^Adding on to my post, I don't understand how you can have a HHI of $180K but not have any savings from which you can draw on until the full child support order kicks in.


Sending $ home maybe? So often it’s the story here. Part of the culture. Send money home and get public assistance here


Are you cray cray?? My husband gives me this $1200 monthly and I am supposed to feed the whole family, clothe myself and child, pay for any outings with child, for household supplies...
How can you all be so mean?????


No you are not supposed to do that.

Child support is meant to help you with a portion of the cost of raising a child. There is an expectation that you too will contribute to these costs and child related costs do not have to be covered 100% by your spouse.

It is also not meant to 100% replace or cover all costs related to your household.


Well I was not legal to work up until last month. He gave me a "budget" and I could do nothing, ok? But at least he paid for the apartment. Now he wants to move out. As I said I have a job lined up but only a job I could get with a several years' gap in employment and within a month or so of looking for a job.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 23:41     Subject: Am I entitled to any govt support if my ex spouse is fairly well off but won’t pay?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^Adding on to my post, I don't understand how you can have a HHI of $180K but not have any savings from which you can draw on until the full child support order kicks in.


Sending $ home maybe? So often it’s the story here. Part of the culture. Send money home and get public assistance here


Are you cray cray?? My husband gives me this $1200 monthly and I am supposed to feed the whole family, clothe myself and child, pay for any outings with child, for household supplies...
How can you all be so mean?????


The child support is only supposed to be used to meet the child's needs, not yours. Stop paying the rent or the mortgage or whatever...file and get the right amount of child support. By the time they foreclose or finish the eviction the child support order will be in place and you'll have a job lined up to support yourself.


My credit score will be ruined though.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 23:38     Subject: Am I entitled to any govt support if my ex spouse is fairly well off but won’t pay?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^Adding on to my post, I don't understand how you can have a HHI of $180K but not have any savings from which you can draw on until the full child support order kicks in.


Sending $ home maybe? So often it’s the story here. Part of the culture. Send money home and get public assistance here


Are you cray cray?? My husband gives me this $1200 monthly and I am supposed to feed the whole family, clothe myself and child, pay for any outings with child, for household supplies...
How can you all be so mean?????


No you are not supposed to do that.

Child support is meant to help you with a portion of the cost of raising a child. There is an expectation that you too will contribute to these costs and child related costs do not have to be covered 100% by your spouse.

It is also not meant to 100% replace or cover all costs related to your household.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 23:37     Subject: Am I entitled to any govt support if my ex spouse is fairly well off but won’t pay?
OP, visa issues aside, the short answer is no. You will not qualify for assistance if you end your ex have an informal agreement that allows him to pay less than the guidelines. You will have to get a court order regarding custody, child support and alimony (if applicable). No getting around it. And based on your ex's income, I highly, highly doubt you would qualify for any assistance for your children, because both parents income is taken into account. I don't think you understand how low income levels have to be to qualify.

In short, you need to file for legal separation, through the courts.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 23:35     Subject: Am I entitled to any govt support if my ex spouse is fairly well off but won’t pay?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^Adding on to my post, I don't understand how you can have a HHI of $180K but not have any savings from which you can draw on until the full child support order kicks in.


Sending $ home maybe? So often it’s the story here. Part of the culture. Send money home and get public assistance here


Are you cray cray?? My husband gives me this $1200 monthly and I am supposed to feed the whole family, clothe myself and child, pay for any outings with child, for household supplies...
How can you all be so mean?????


The child support is only supposed to be used to meet the child's needs, not yours. Stop paying the rent or the mortgage or whatever...file and get the right amount of child support. By the time they foreclose or finish the eviction the child support order will be in place and you'll have a job lined up to support yourself.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 23:32     Subject: Am I entitled to any govt support if my ex spouse is fairly well off but won’t pay?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hey hey your anger is misplaced, my husband has paid more than enough taxes in the years we were waiting for the green card for me to ask for some assistance. It won’t be forever! And I wouldn’t do that if not for my husband.

As per calculator he owes me much more than $1200. And yes we need to go through the interview to get the green card. It is a new rule so the USCIS people aren’t really clear what to ask about at the interview, and check the validity of marriage, though we were married long before we came here. So it is not recommended to be at any stage of legal separation or divorce.
He doesn’t care if I go back to my home country with our child.
I do have a work permit now and will get a more long term
One once I have the green card. I am planning to work and in fact am starting work in February but after a large gap in employment it is not easy.

I guess my question is: if we separate or divorce, and have an agreement that he pays much less than the calculator says to pay, and I am in dire straights and file for assistance, will the govt come after him?


Of course they will come after him IF you manage to qualify for public assistance. I mean, holy shit lady, do you think the taxpayers should have to subsidize you and your child instead of your husband when you are voluntarily accepting less support than the guidelines provide? And, just so you know, the idea for this "scheme" of yours has been around for a while except the people that do it are predominately poor and it is a way they try to hide income.


Look, I would gladly rip him off for all the abuse and suffering I endured for the sake of our child.
But, I don't want him to just run off to a part of the world which would not honor a child support agreement from the US. And if he has to pay what he is entitled to, he may well do that.
Nevermind, I already understand that you know nothing but are happy to spew hate.
Mr. Moderator, could you please lock this thread. I have endured enough already, I don't need to hear any more speculations.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 23:28     Subject: Am I entitled to any govt support if my ex spouse is fairly well off but won’t pay?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^Adding on to my post, I don't understand how you can have a HHI of $180K but not have any savings from which you can draw on until the full child support order kicks in.


Sending $ home maybe? So often it’s the story here. Part of the culture. Send money home and get public assistance here


Are you cray cray?? My husband gives me this $1200 monthly and I am supposed to feed the whole family, clothe myself and child, pay for any outings with child, for household supplies...
How can you all be so mean?????
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 23:26     Subject: Am I entitled to any govt support if my ex spouse is fairly well off but won’t pay?
Anonymous wrote:^Adding on to my post, I don't understand how you can have a HHI of $180K but not have any savings from which you can draw on until the full child support order kicks in.


Because my husband had not given me any access to "his" money, you! Would you be happy living with a child on $1200???
you are all just crazy. Go after the illegals, not after me who is a victim of spousal abuse.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 23:20     Subject: Am I entitled to any govt support if my ex spouse is fairly well off but won’t pay?
Anonymous wrote:^Adding on to my post, I don't understand how you can have a HHI of $180K but not have any savings from which you can draw on until the full child support order kicks in.


Sending $ home maybe? So often it’s the story here. Part of the culture. Send money home and get public assistance here
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 23:15     Subject: Am I entitled to any govt support if my ex spouse is fairly well off but won’t pay?
^Adding on to my post, I don't understand how you can have a HHI of $180K but not have any savings from which you can draw on until the full child support order kicks in.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 23:14     Subject: Am I entitled to any govt support if my ex spouse is fairly well off but won’t pay?
Anonymous wrote:Hey hey your anger is misplaced, my husband has paid more than enough taxes in the years we were waiting for the green card for me to ask for some assistance. It won’t be forever! And I wouldn’t do that if not for my husband.

As per calculator he owes me much more than $1200. And yes we need to go through the interview to get the green card. It is a new rule so the USCIS people aren’t really clear what to ask about at the interview, and check the validity of marriage, though we were married long before we came here. So it is not recommended to be at any stage of legal separation or divorce.
He doesn’t care if I go back to my home country with our child.
I do have a work permit now and will get a more long term
One once I have the green card. I am planning to work and in fact am starting work in February but after a large gap in employment it is not easy.

I guess my question is: if we separate or divorce, and have an agreement that he pays much less than the calculator says to pay, and I am in dire straights and file for assistance, will the govt come after him?


Of course they will come after him IF you manage to qualify for public assistance. I mean, holy shit lady, do you think the taxpayers should have to subsidize you and your child instead of your husband when you are voluntarily accepting less support than the guidelines provide? And, just so you know, the idea for this "scheme" of yours has been around for a while except the people that do it are predominately poor and it is a way they try to hide income.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 22:04     Subject: Am I entitled to any govt support if my ex spouse is fairly well off but won’t pay?
Anonymous wrote:Hey hey your anger is misplaced, my husband has paid more than enough taxes in the years we were waiting for the green card for me to ask for some assistance. It won’t be forever! And I wouldn’t do that if not for my husband.

As per calculator he owes me much more than $1200. And yes we need to go through the interview to get the green card. It is a new rule so the USCIS people aren’t really clear what to ask about at the interview, and check the validity of marriage, though we were married long before we came here. So it is not recommended to be at any stage of legal separation or divorce.
He doesn’t care if I go back to my home country with our child.
I do have a work permit now and will get a more long term
One once I have the green card. I am planning to work and in fact am starting work in February but after a large gap in employment it is not easy.

I guess my question is: if we separate or divorce, and have an agreement that he pays much less than the calculator says to pay, and I am in dire straights and file for assistance, will the govt come after him?


Does not matter.

As the other posters implied, dang woman you are ballsy.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 22:00     Subject: Am I entitled to any govt support if my ex spouse is fairly well off but won’t pay?
Anonymous wrote:What about after the green card?
I would rather the ex pay up, but if not?

You really need to research the income limits to be eligible for government benefits. I’m not sure why you think you would be entitled to government support if you are working and your ex is providing $1200 a month in child support.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 21:46     Subject: Am I entitled to any govt support if my ex spouse is fairly well off but won’t pay?
What about after the green card?
I would rather the ex pay up, but if not?
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2018 21:45     Subject: Am I entitled to any govt support if my ex spouse is fairly well off but won’t pay?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hey hey your anger is misplaced, my husband has paid more than enough taxes in the years we were waiting for the green card for me to ask for some assistance. It won’t be forever! And I wouldn’t do that if not for my husband.

As per calculator he owes me much more than $1200. And yes we need to go through the interview to get the green card. It is a new rule so the USCIS people aren’t really clear what to ask about at the interview, and check the validity of marriage, though we were married long before we came here. So it is not recommended to be at any stage of legal separation or divorce.
He doesn’t care if I go back to my home country with our child.
I do have a work permit now and will get a more long term
One once I have the green card. I am planning to work and in fact am starting work in February but after a large gap in employment it is not easy.

I guess my question is: if we separate or divorce, and have an agreement that he pays much less than the calculator says to pay, and I am in dire straights and file for assistance, will the govt come after him?

You won’t get the assistance. That is what people are saying about you being a visa holder. You are not eligible for it. Use your H4 and get a job. Your wages and the $1200 should be sufficient until you can get a court order for more CS.

What about after the green card?
You should really get some legal advice. Your H4 and greencard are tied to your husband. Divorce him and you won’t have either unless you get a new sponsor.