My first is almost two and I’m due with #2 in about a month. I’m finding the toddler stage so much harder then the baby stage. Give me all of the babies and then I will hand them over when hey are about 15-18 months old. If I hadn’t gotten pregnant again when I did I could see number one being an only. Or waiting until he is 4+ to try again. Ah well!

We wanted two but due to secondary infertility were only able to have one. I'm 38 with a 4 year old. I am an only as well. I did not have a good experience growing up as an only and really wanted two. It's hard to feel different when you really wanted a second and were not able to. I know very few families with onlies.

OP you might want to post in teens or 50 and over forum. Parents here are still in the weeds with little ones.

For the hundredth time on this forum over the years- NO! I was an only child and loved it and DH has one brother who has been a nightmare all his life and causes nothing but stress and pain in the family. I always only wanted one child and so have her - my one and only.

Do a search. At least once every few weeks another woman whines this question.

Anonymous wrote:Toddlers are annoying. The only thing to do is get through it. If you have them close together you get it done more quickly than if they're far apart.

+1 our kids are 18 months apart (on purpose) and after the first crazy 2 years now it’s awesome. Kids share a room, play together, enjoy the same types of toys/activities/tv shows, and can share lots of clothes. I’ve lost all the baby weight and am getting a full glorious 7 hrs of sleep every night while our friends who just got done with diapers and sleep problems are now going right back down into the trenches with newborns. Ripping off the bandaid was the way to go for us.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. To answer a few questions....I’m 35 with a 3.5 year old. My kid has been difficult for 2 Years now.

You have time. Re-evaluate at age 4 or 4.5.

Good luck!

- PP who is happy with 1.

Op here. To answer a few questions....I’m 35 with a 3.5 year old. My kid has been difficult for 2 Years now.

I do regret having one child but I don't regret having the other one.

I'm the opposite I hate babies , despise them. But toddlers to me are the most amazing people on the planet.

No regrets. Planned for more but not in the cards. Couldn't be happier.

No regrets. My only is 11. I have two brothers and wish I were an only. Always have.

Anonymous wrote:Not in the least. I love having an only. And my only loves being an only.

+1
I'm an only and happy about it, no angst about it while growing up either.

No, just having one was purposeful.

I was shocked when the moms in my moms group started getting pregnant when their kids were between 12 & 24 months. I remember thinking: YOU WANT ANOTHER ONE OF THESE???

So we just waited, and once my son was a bit past 2, I did want another one.

Unless you're really up against a clock, just wait 6 months or a year and see how you feel.

How old is your kid now? Mine is almost 2 and suddenly seems to be outgrowing a lot of this clingy whiny crap. I definitely couldnt see myself having another one 6 months ago but now it seems doable. Before I had a kid I wanted 2 bc I'm an only child and it sucked. Didn't want to do that to my kid too.