Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid was that busy. Her job was school. Why wouldn’t you let them make time for friends? They will have time enough to contribute to their own household in college and beyond. Your household is your responsibility. Hire out as much of it as you can.

Yes, my mom had that theory as well.
The result? I know nothing about housekeeping and suck at it.
And to add, I can be quite selfish at times which I think is an extension of not having to contribute and having the expectation that someone else will do it and this effected my relationships.

+1. Exactly. Luckily, I found a husband who does all the housekeeping for me!

my sibling and i did not have chores when we were growing up, other than basic “keep your room neat and put away your laundry.” i didn’t grow up entitled or selfish and throughout college and grad school I was always a cooperative and neat roommate .

my parents did not drop everything to give us rides places, though - we had to ask others for rides (which made me feel like a mooch), or bike.