Anonymous wrote:This is probably a stupid question but, if there are no partners on either side, why move out?

If you live a couple of blocks away and will continue to do so until kids are grown, you will see your ex everywhere you go.

Couldn't you just continue to live in a bedroom in the house then and save yourself from the hassle?

Anonymous wrote:A few blocks away is too close if you will be living with an affair partner. People tend to socialize within the neighborhood and bringing an affair partner into the neighborhood where your wife and kids live creates all kinds if drama and dilemmas among neighborhood families about how to schedule social affairs w/ 1 or both of you. Instead of figuring it out, a lot of people will drop you. Also very wrong to move into the same neighborhood with an AP if you then try to maintain a facade that she was not AP, forcing everyone to choose to either lie or tell truth with negative consequences.

Anonymous wrote:This is probably a stupid question but, if there are no partners on either side, why move out?

If you live a couple of blocks away and will continue to do so until kids are grown, you will see your ex everywhere you go.

Couldn't you just continue to live in a bedroom in the house then and save yourself from the hassle?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A few blocks away is too close if you will be living with an affair partner. People tend to socialize within the neighborhood and bringing an affair partner into the neighborhood where your wife and kids live creates all kinds if drama and dilemmas among neighborhood families about how to schedule social affairs w/ 1 or both of you. Instead of figuring it out, a lot of people will drop you. Also very wrong to move into the same neighborhood with an AP if you then try to maintain a facade that she was not AP, forcing everyone to choose to either lie or tell truth with negative consequences.

I love how OP said literally nothing about or pointing to an affair but because he’s male everyone is assuming that must be what broke up his marriage.

Anonymous wrote:We live very close to each other. Like same school bus stop close.

For now it works for us. The community is situated so we don’t have to drive by each other’s homes which is nice.

The great thing is the logistics for the kids. If I drop off for sports practice, it’s not a big deal for him to bring the kids home. And as I said, the school bus stop is the same which creates continuity for the kids. Our kids can ride their bikes between our homes so it’s not unusual to have dinner with one parent and sleep in the other home. If the kids are going between on homes we text each other that they have left and arrived—similar to how we handle it when the kids go to their other friends homes on their own.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A few blocks away is too close if you will be living with an affair partner. People tend to socialize within the neighborhood and bringing an affair partner into the neighborhood where your wife and kids live creates all kinds if drama and dilemmas among neighborhood families about how to schedule social affairs w/ 1 or both of you. Instead of figuring it out, a lot of people will drop you. Also very wrong to move into the same neighborhood with an AP if you then try to maintain a facade that she was not AP, forcing everyone to choose to either lie or tell truth with negative consequences.

I love how OP said literally nothing about or pointing to an affair but because he’s male everyone is assuming that must be what broke up his marriage.

Anonymous wrote:A few blocks away is too close if you will be living with an affair partner. People tend to socialize within the neighborhood and bringing an affair partner into the neighborhood where your wife and kids live creates all kinds if drama and dilemmas among neighborhood families about how to schedule social affairs w/ 1 or both of you. Instead of figuring it out, a lot of people will drop you. Also very wrong to move into the same neighborhood with an AP if you then try to maintain a facade that she was not AP, forcing everyone to choose to either lie or tell truth with negative consequences.

Anonymous wrote:When we separated, I (wife) moved into an apartment that was 4 blocks from the marital home. Logistically, it made things very easy because it took 5 minutes to get between his place and mine. Socially, it was mostly fine, though there were a few times when we ended up at the same brunch place or ran into each other at the grocery store or whatever. It was a little bit awkward, but like the PP said, we are adults and dealt with it like adults.

Anonymous wrote:DON'T MOVE OUT. SHE SHOULD MOVE OUT.

Also, closer the better for the kids.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When we separated, I (wife) moved into an apartment that was 4 blocks from the marital home. Logistically, it made things very easy because it took 5 minutes to get between his place and mine. Socially, it was mostly fine, though there were a few times when we ended up at the same brunch place or ran into each other at the grocery store or whatever. It was a little bit awkward, but like the PP said, we are adults and dealt with it like adults.

I don't understand why it would be weird seeing an ex at the grocery store if you have kids. Presumably you see them sometimes when you exchange the kids or you both attend certain events for your kids so why would seeing someone at the store be any different? I suppose it might be a little weird seeing them with a new person they are dating but you're divorced and people do date.

Anonymous wrote:When we separated, I (wife) moved into an apartment that was 4 blocks from the marital home. Logistically, it made things very easy because it took 5 minutes to get between his place and mine. Socially, it was mostly fine, though there were a few times when we ended up at the same brunch place or ran into each other at the grocery store or whatever. It was a little bit awkward, but like the PP said, we are adults and dealt with it like adults.