Anonymous
Post 01/09/2018 19:11     Subject: Wife wants me to apologize
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The wife wants me to applogize for being an “ungrateful asshole” and “irresponsible father.” On point one, she cannot deal with a tenant and wants me to step in. I don’t want to. It was her decision to invest in real estate. I wNted nothing to do with it. On point 2, she says I need to write college DD’s cover letter for an internship. I respectfully disagreed. Then when she got all backseat driver on me after I picked her up from work, I pulled over and asked her to drive and I walked home. I guess she missed her award for best actress in a drama!


On point one: I would probably do it,she clearly is not equipt or strong enough to handle business. On point 2: She is being an irresponsible mother if anyone being irresponsible. If it were me I would work with dd on it. Getting out and walking wasnt the best idea. Its best to completely ignore them at that point, like a child. She sounds a bit like a petulant child from your post.


He gets out of the car and walks if someone criticizes his driving, but she sounds like a child? Dudes on this website will circle the wagons for even the weakest specimen.



Anonymous
Post 01/09/2018 19:10     Subject: Wife wants me to apologize
Anonymous wrote:The wife wants me to applogize for being an “ungrateful asshole” and “irresponsible father.” On point one, she cannot deal with a tenant and wants me to step in. I don’t want to. It was her decision to invest in real estate. I wNted nothing to do with it. On point 2, she says I need to write college DD’s cover letter for an internship. I respectfully disagreed. Then when she got all backseat driver on me after I picked her up from work, I pulled over and asked her to drive and I walked home. I guess she missed her award for best actress in a drama!



1. I would agree o help with the tenant under the condition that this rental investment would be dissolved.


2. DOes your daughter ant help getting this internship? If she does I think she should still write the cover letter,, but you would be happy to give her feedback after she's written a first draft. The writing center at her college can also help with this.

3. I think this was a reasonable response if you were able to pull over safely.

4. Your wife seems abusive. Your child is in college it might be time to move on.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2018 19:09     Subject: Wife wants me to apologize
Anonymous wrote:The wife wants me to applogize for being an “ungrateful asshole” and “irresponsible father.” On point one, she cannot deal with a tenant and wants me to step in. I don’t want to. It was her decision to invest in real estate. I wNted nothing to do with it. On point 2, she says I need to write college DD’s cover letter for an internship. I respectfully disagreed. Then when she got all backseat driver on me after I picked her up from work, I pulled over and asked her to drive and I walked home. I guess she missed her award for best actress in a drama!



I don't need to read further than "the wife" to know that you're an a hole and should apologize to your wife.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2018 19:04     Subject: Wife wants me to apologize
Anonymous wrote:Never apologize, never explain. It makes you look weak.

If she raises the issues again -- fog her.

http://www.kenrigby.net/07c-Fogging


I see POTUS has weighed in.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2018 18:57     Subject: Wife wants me to apologize
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:On point one, if you're benefiting from the rental income, you should help your wife out even if the investment wasn't your idea.


Disagree. My wife benefits from my work income, but I would never ask her to get involved when I was having a tough time -- particularly if she was opposed to my entering that particular line of work in the first place.


Then you don't have a partnership of any kind.


True, his wife makes major financial commitments and exposes the family to liability then realizes she is too much of a child to play business lady.


OP stop sock puppeting.


Not OP, nice try. I feel sorry for your husband if that's the partnership you have.


You feel sorry for my husband because we help each other when called upon? Because we don't hold grudges or enact dramatic scenes on the side of the road? Because we don't hold each other in contempt and call each other names? Okay, I'll let him know he has your pity for the fact that he's a grownup in a happy relationship.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2018 18:56     Subject: Wife wants me to apologize
Anonymous wrote:One 1, I agree with you. My wife keeps nagging me about RI investment. I'd rather do stocks. Much less work and headache. Thankfully she stops with talk. I knnow I'll be left holding the bag in terms of managing the investment.

Point 2 - You should write the cover letter. If that helps DD getting a good internship, why not?


No, no, no. OP is totally right on the cover letter. He's mostly right on the tenant, but he could be nice and do it. On the driving home thing, better that he steps out than have a fight in the car. Sometimes you just need a cool off.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2018 18:53     Subject: Wife wants me to apologize
Never apologize, never explain. It makes you look weak.

If she raises the issues again -- fog her.

http://www.kenrigby.net/07c-Fogging
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2018 18:49     Subject: Wife wants me to apologize
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:On point one, if you're benefiting from the rental income, you should help your wife out even if the investment wasn't your idea.


Disagree. My wife benefits from my work income, but I would never ask her to get involved when I was having a tough time -- particularly if she was opposed to my entering that particular line of work in the first place.


Wow. You’ve never asked her to change her schedule bc you had to work late or had something come up? You’ve never asked for her input on anything at work?


That might be relevant if she had told him not to take the job, and committed to a mortgage to get the job and accepted liability for things that happen at work. Working late are you serious?
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2018 18:47     Subject: Wife wants me to apologize
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:On point one, if you're benefiting from the rental income, you should help your wife out even if the investment wasn't your idea.


Disagree. My wife benefits from my work income, but I would never ask her to get involved when I was having a tough time -- particularly if she was opposed to my entering that particular line of work in the first place.


Then you don't have a partnership of any kind.


True, his wife makes major financial commitments and exposes the family to liability then realizes she is too much of a child to play business lady.


OP stop sock puppeting.


Not OP, nice try. I feel sorry for your husband if that's the partnership you have.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2018 18:47     Subject: Wife wants me to apologize
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:On point one, if you're benefiting from the rental income, you should help your wife out even if the investment wasn't your idea.


Disagree. My wife benefits from my work income, but I would never ask her to get involved when I was having a tough time -- particularly if she was opposed to my entering that particular line of work in the first place.


Wow. You’ve never asked her to change her schedule bc you had to work late or had something come up? You’ve never asked for her input on anything at work?
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2018 18:45     Subject: Wife wants me to apologize
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The wife wants me to applogize for being an “ungrateful asshole” and “irresponsible father.” On point one, she cannot deal with a tenant and wants me to step in. I don’t want to. It was her decision to invest in real estate. I wNted nothing to do with it. On point 2, she says I need to write college DD’s cover letter for an internship. I respectfully disagreed. Then when she got all backseat driver on me after I picked her up from work, I pulled over and asked her to drive and I walked home. I guess she missed her award for best actress in a drama!


On point one: I would probably do it,she clearly is not equipt or strong enough to handle business. On point 2: She is being an irresponsible mother if anyone being irresponsible. If it were me I would work with dd on it. Getting out and walking wasnt the best idea. Its best to completely ignore them at that point, like a child. She sounds a bit like a petulant child from your post.


He gets out of the car and walks if someone criticizes his driving, but she sounds like a child? Dudes on this website will circle the wagons for even the weakest specimen.


Yes overlook the petulant child that wants to play a business lady and makes large financial commitments and exposes her family to liability only to realize she is not strong enough to handle it. Yes, she is a gem. He should have ignored her like the child is.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2018 18:45     Subject: Wife wants me to apologize
Your wife is too bossy and unkind to you.

She is wrong on the daughter issue.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2018 18:43     Subject: Wife wants me to apologize
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:On point one, if you're benefiting from the rental income, you should help your wife out even if the investment wasn't your idea.


Disagree. My wife benefits from my work income, but I would never ask her to get involved when I was having a tough time -- particularly if she was opposed to my entering that particular line of work in the first place.


Then you don't have a partnership of any kind.


True, his wife makes major financial commitments and exposes the family to liability then realizes she is too much of a child to play business lady.


OP stop sock puppeting.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2018 18:42     Subject: Wife wants me to apologize
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:On point one, if you're benefiting from the rental income, you should help your wife out even if the investment wasn't your idea.


Disagree. My wife benefits from my work income, but I would never ask her to get involved when I was having a tough time -- particularly if she was opposed to my entering that particular line of work in the first place.


Then you don't have a partnership of any kind.


True, his wife makes major financial commitments and exposes the family to liability then realizes she is too much of a child to play business lady.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2018 18:40     Subject: Wife wants me to apologize
Anonymous wrote:Point 1- she is asking you for help. When you got married I'm sure she thought you would be there if she needed you. So why aren't you?

Point 2- you got out of the car and walked home and she's the drama queen?

wth?


1.When they got married I am sure he thought she would not make large financial commitments against his wishes then ask him to handle it because she isnt grown up enough. So why call him names instead of saying you were right and I need help?

2. Agree, ignore he like child she is