I think your problem, OP, is that you aren't just a non-drinker -- you're anti-drinking.

I had a friend give up alcohol and while she claimed she was fine with other people drinking, everytime we did she would start talking at length about how great she felt since she quit drinking. On and on and on.

I don't smoke pot or like NASCAR or eat beets, but I don't talk about it, don't judge people who do, don't even give it a second thought. Try that.

Alcoholism runs deep in my family. I married a man that was one year into sobriety when we met. We're 15 years in and he's still 100% sober.

Some things I will never have to experience include:

My husband will never claim he was drunk and foolishly cheated on me.
My husband will never get a DWI/DUI.
My husband will never act like a damn fool because he drank too much.

The best part?

Our kids have a good upbringing without beer cans being in most birthday or holiday pictures (like mine).
Our kids won't have to hear on the news at night that there was a drunk driving crash that nearly killed their parent (nothing like seeing your parent so bruised in the face that they are almost unrecognizable and with many broken bones)
Our kids also won't experience the next car accident involving yet another DUI from a different family member that resulted in a brain injury (no one else was hurt, thankfully).

I prefer non-drinkers, OP!

I barely drink - maybe a 1/2 glass of wine. It's just me and my DH has never had a problem with it. I sometimes ask him if he'd prefer to be married to a party girl and he simply answers that he likes to be married to his own designated driver.

It may contradict with their religious belief to offer a drink?

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely! I drink, but I honestly hate it when events are centered around alcohol. I don't need to drink to relax or enjoy another person's company, it's weird to me that some people do.

OP here. I feel it is always centered around alcohol as well. I feel strange inviting my neighbors because i can't offer them a drink! If I tell them I don't drink, I always get a strange look.

Why can’t you offer them a drink? I’m not in to day drinking but if I have neighbors Over forbrunch I pick up champagne to make mimosas.

This is my question. I never drink at home but I have a stocked bar for friends who come by. Its not like it goes sour either if it sits there, so you don't have to 'reinvest' once you buy the basics.

I go out with my friends. Sometimes I drink, sometimes I don't. You can still have fun.

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely! I drink, but I honestly hate it when events are centered around alcohol. I don't need to drink to relax or enjoy another person's company, it's weird to me that some people do.

OP here. I feel it is always centered around alcohol as well. I feel strange inviting my neighbors because i can't offer them a drink! If I tell them I don't drink, I always get a strange look.

Why can’t you offer them a drink? I’m not in to day drinking but if I have neighbors Over forbrunch I pick up champagne to make mimosas.

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely! I drink, but I honestly hate it when events are centered around alcohol. I don't need to drink to relax or enjoy another person's company, it's weird to me that some people do.

OP here. I feel it is always centered around alcohol as well. I feel strange inviting my neighbors because i can't offer them a drink! If I tell them I don't drink, I always get a strange look.

You won't serve alcohol to your guests? I have a very good friend who doesn't drink, but when she entertains she provides alcohol for her guests.

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely! I drink, but I honestly hate it when events are centered around alcohol. I don't need to drink to relax or enjoy another person's company, it's weird to me that some people do.

OP here. I feel it is always centered around alcohol as well. I feel strange inviting my neighbors because i can't offer them a drink! If I tell them I don't drink, I always get a strange look.

Sure. I have a bunch of non drinking fiends. They’re chill abt it. I didn’t drink for a while since I was on some serious medication. As long as your email interesting, engaging and non judgy about my glass of wine then we will get along just fine and you’d be invited to our place for dinner and patties etc. also depends on age. Now at in mid thirties we do more dinner parties and brunch and stuff with kids and the alcohol and partying and the twenty something stupid is not the center of the event.

Anonymous wrote:I’d never date a non-drinker.

+1
I'm a woman who would've never married a non-drinker. Unless he's in recovery, I just don't trust men who completely refuse to drink for any occasion.

As long as you have absolutely nothing negative to say about the fact that i'm drinking

Sure as long as you're not holier than thou about it.

As long as you don’t act too pious if I order a glass of wine with dinner.

Anonymous wrote:I’d never date a non-drinker.

Lucky them.