Another liberated and not lonely person here. I kept all my pre-divorce friends, and made many more friends along my way.

I didn't really do the promiscuous thing, but I did like to go out at night before settling down with an amazing guy.

Getting divorced made me a more complex, brave, and interesting person, and I'm grateful for it. Mostly, it also taught me not to judge other people's journeys, which might not be the same as mine. It made me happy and grateful too, which also leaves me uninterested in trashing other people.

Maybe some of the PPs should try it. They might be less miserable!

I too felt liberated and in no way lonely as I still had some single friends and I made a lot of new friends. I did hop into a few beds for casual sex but that quickly ended once I thought about it. I definitely have not been a party animal but I love to go to a good party and meet new people. I have a good career which is a real priority so weekday nights I'm in early. It's been two years since my divorce and I'd like to get into a LTR as the idea of a husband and children still has a great deal of appeal for me. I know I'm wiser but I will be wary.

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Anonymous wrote:This is one way people deal with divorce. I can imagine that it's lonely to go from having a friend/roommate/lover to not having one, so they fill the gaps. Plus they might have missed out on some stuff while married - travel, time with friends, etc.

I feel like it's probably slightly healthier than wallowing on the couch, crying every night into a pint of Ben & Jerry's.

For most people, it's a short-term phase and then they settle down into a normal routine again.

I didn't feel lonely. I felt liberated.

+1 to liberated. Sadly, I have not felt lonely after the split, only free. Shows how bad things were. I flirted with the idea of sleeping around because for the first time in a very long time, I was around people who liked me, people I could talk with without being insulted or interrupted. As it is, I decided that no way would I risk catching an std and passing it to my good fwb.

In any case, I get them.

Anonymous wrote:This is one way people deal with divorce. I can imagine that it's lonely to go from having a friend/roommate/lover to not having one, so they fill the gaps. Plus they might have missed out on some stuff while married - travel, time with friends, etc.

I feel like it's probably slightly healthier than wallowing on the couch, crying every night into a pint of Ben & Jerry's.

For most people, it's a short-term phase and then they settle down into a normal routine again.

I didn't feel lonely. I felt liberated.

I have a very good friend who got divorced about a year ago after a long loveless marriage and he has been girl binging ever since - all ages from 30-50, he's 55. He's having a grand old time but just last week he said that "I really envy you and the marriage you have". Being a party animal is much more fun than being in a lousy marriage but being in a good marriage is much better than being a party animal.

*the world

I'm single and 42, never married and no kids. I travel all over Theo word and enjoy my life. I'm still friends with people who have kids, but they're mostly tired and miserable so I prefer fun loving friends.

Anonymous wrote: posting “you go girl” and “new year new me” type posts on social media

Yuck.

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Anonymous wrote:My ex wife. Apparently she’s calming down after about a two year run of rhis. She aged tremendously. Still dresses all sexy like still and it’s embarrassimg to see.

What the hell do you care?

You’re an idiot. Move along, your time here is done.

Anonymous wrote:Op you failed to mention your real point which is these wild middle aged women often become crazy promiscuous. This behavior is why they find themselves single. In a weird reverse sexism these ladies believe their entire value as a woman consists of what's between their legs.

They're probably right.

What does that even mean? Are you saying women can not be sexist?

I am having a BALL! I was married for 19 years. I got married at 28, so not particularly young. I'm not partying til all hours of the night and dressing super sexy, but I did get a boob job and am having an incredible time.

YES. This is definitely a thing. One of my friends even left her husband because he "drank too much" and now she lives at home with her parents so they can watch her kid while she parties like a sorority girl. She's over 40. Fake boobs, botox, and tube tops.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex wife. Apparently she’s calming down after about a two year run of rhis. She aged tremendously. Still dresses all sexy like still and it’s embarrassimg to see.

What the hell do you care?

Because she’s the mother of my children and I cared about her enough to marry her. Why wouldn’t I care that she keeps her shit together? What is wrong with you?

Finally, a reasonable person here!

Anonymous wrote:This is one way people deal with divorce. I can imagine that it's lonely to go from having a friend/roommate/lover to not having one, so they fill the gaps. Plus they might have missed out on some stuff while married - travel, time with friends, etc.

I feel like it's probably slightly healthier than wallowing on the couch, crying every night into a pint of Ben & Jerry's.

For most people, it's a short-term phase and then they settle down into a normal routine again.

This. It's just an easy way to avoid the loneliness of an empty house. There are always people, open late at night (when work/other distractions are over), etc. And it's also the "greener grass" of freedom that some divorcees were looking for. It seems pretty obvious why and not surprising to me.

Anonymous wrote:Op you failed to mention your real point which is these wild middle aged women often become crazy promiscuous. This behavior is why they find themselves single. In a weird reverse sexism these ladies believe their entire value as a woman consists of what's between their legs.

They're probably right.

I guess the same can be said of men. That is, if it is still working at 50. Many are just able to sniff it at that age.