When she threw the gift back at you, why did you not just turn around and walk away with it? I'm sure you could have found an appreciative recipient somewhere.

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Anonymous wrote:You're home from college. Go hang out with friends. Watch Tv. Reconsider your writing major.

$20 says OP isn’t in college

I’d bet $1000 you’re correct PP.

Anonymous wrote:You're home from college. Go hang out with friends. Watch Tv. Reconsider your writing major.

$20 says OP isn’t in college

Why are two adults (who hate each other) still living at home with their parents. That's the real question. Seriously, OP, I had lived completely on my own for THREE years when I was your age.

You engage with crazy at your peril, OP.

Stop suffocating her.

If my sister did this I’d punch her. Spitting on someone is vile.

I would compltely diengage. She is disturbed and looking for ways to poke you. Ignore as much as possible (given that you live in the same house) Accept that you will likely always ahve a strained relationship. And sometime when she is not around, I would also explain to my parents that you plan to distance yourself because sister is disrespectful and antagonizing. Ask that they please respect this and not force you together. Explain that you hope to someday repair the relatipnship which is why it's imprtant now that it not become so bad that you turn your back on her forever. Ask that they please resppect that you are trying to be mature and give your sister time to mature as well. Hopefully they will respect that!

Anonymous wrote:Next time, slap her. Sometimes when faced with a bully you need to fight back.

No, dear, you've got it all wrong. OP is the bully. Her sister is the one being bullied.

Your sister is a wasp nest. When you come across a wasp nest do you poke it with a stick or proceed in the opposite direction? That’s how you should treat your sister.

Couldn't be me. re: spitting in the face

But you are poking her with a stick, too. You gave her the gift, she threw it back so you could A) put it under the tree or whatever and let her open it when she's ready or B) take it and give it to someone else.

Same with the museum thing. You asked, she didn't answer and THAT was your answer. No need to open the door and all that.

If it's your house, you tell her to leave. If not, slap her.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My sister lives with me and my parents. Recently I and my friends received a museum voucher from the library we volunteer at and I can bring one other person. I said "______, I received a museum voucher from the library I volunteer at. Would you like to come". She doesn't answer and I say her name again. She doesn't answer so I open the door to her room and she screams "NEXT TIME KNOCK". I decided not to take her to the museum.

Why did you open her door without knocking? You have no grounds to do so. I'm finding it hard to believe you're 21. You sound like a teenager trying to control a sibling. I'm not excusing her spitting in your face (which, again, is what an angry teen would do) but you need to stop engaging and recognize the only person you control is yourself.

Have to agree with the others. Just stop. I'm not saying it's your fault, but I would exit stage left with this sister of yours.

Next time, slap her. Sometimes when faced with a bully you need to fight back.

Not sure why you keep pushing her - with the gift or the museum. Just stay away from her as best you can. Stop engaging and *definitely* stop pushing.