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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I believe her when she said it was just one guy. She was in a tough spot with paying off loans to get more loans for her advanced degree. She stopped after 6 months as soon as she got the money she needed. He called it casual sex with a fienddship. Not that it matter but he wasn’t some old rich guy. He was a trust fund guy who was 35. He had little time and she had little time and needed the money. I believe her that it’s only one guy because we met through a mutual friend. The friend is close to her and knows a lot about her. My girlfriend has only slept with 5 guys ( that’s including me). I think the initial shock was because she doesn’t seem like someone who would ever do something like that. It’s tough to decide what to do but I have some hope that she was honest enough to tell me about it.

Um. If you were short on rent, would you really suck some guy off?

Not the same. She probably would have had sex with this guy otherwise. He was 35 not 55. He was probably upfront about willing to help her financially too.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I believe her when she said it was just one guy. She was in a tough spot with paying off loans to get more loans for her advanced degree. She stopped after 6 months as soon as she got the money she needed. He called it casual sex with a fienddship. Not that it matter but he wasn’t some old rich guy. He was a trust fund guy who was 35. He had little time and she had little time and needed the money. I believe her that it’s only one guy because we met through a mutual friend. The friend is close to her and knows a lot about her. My girlfriend has only slept with 5 guys ( that’s including me). I think the initial shock was because she doesn’t seem like someone who would ever do something like that. It’s tough to decide what to do but I have some hope that she was honest enough to tell me about it.

Um. If you were short on rent, would you really suck some guy off?

Is this a repeat thread? This story sounds super familiar.

You seem to very desperately to think this was just a FWB situation. But FWB don't pay to play.

Op here. I believe her when she said it was just one guy. She was in a tough spot with paying off loans to get more loans for her advanced degree. She stopped after 6 months as soon as she got the money she needed. He called it casual sex with a fienddship. Not that it matter but he wasn’t some old rich guy. He was a trust fund guy who was 35. He had little time and she had little time and needed the money. I believe her that it’s only one guy because we met through a mutual friend. The friend is close to her and knows a lot about her. My girlfriend has only slept with 5 guys ( that’s including me). I think the initial shock was because she doesn’t seem like someone who would ever do something like that. It’s tough to decide what to do but I have some hope that she was honest enough to tell me about it.

I hate that women can cash in on sex in a way that's impossible for heterosexual men and then pretend to be oppressed by the patriarchy. Young women have way more power than young men.

That said, hate the game, not the player. This woman took advantage of the options available to her. She'll probably be more realistic and wise about the realities of money and sex because of it. She might be a keeper.

OP - sugar baby is sugar-coating it. She was a prostitute. Got paid to have sex with some guy who maybe was older that your dad.

You either can deal with it or not.

Sounds like she was better off not telling you.

Anonymous wrote:Op you have already posted about this before. My dh knows I used to do this. Just be happy you don't have to pay her school loans. You would probably do it too if you were female.

Men would totally sleep with someone for money if they could.

She had a generous fwb, it's not a huge deal. If it's a huge deal to you then you are well within your rights to leave her, but don't try to excuse it by making her out to be a whore. Just leave.

It's fine to move on. It's not fine to stay and judge.

Anonymous wrote:She was a prostitute. Period.

Took the words right out of my mouth.

Anonymous wrote:You realize she's trickle-truthing you. If she says it was one guy, then it was LOTS of guys. If she says it was 6 months, then she spent years being an escort.

But mainly, even if it was exactly as she says, if you're not comfortable with her behavior, you have every right to break up with her and find someone who meets your standards.

I have to agree. Especially that it only lasted 6 months but he helped her pay off $40k in loans in that time?

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Anonymous wrote:What's your story, OP? Single, never been married, no kids? Or do you have baggage that doesn't make you exactly a top prize?

OP here. I’m 32, never married, no kids, and work in finance. I’m not perfect but I don’t have much baggage. I’m not exactly a model but been told I’m attractive.

Obviously her morals are quite different than yours. The vast majority of women did not or would not become a "sugar baby" prostitute . So what happens if she meets a man who makes more than you? (See ya, gotta go where the bucks are?) Obviously her prostitution skills are top notch, otherwise you wouldn't be so torn. Enjoy the ride, but be very careful (or you'll end up like the dude that got played a few weeks ago) [url]

Op you have already posted about this before. My dh knows I used to do this. Just be happy you don't have to pay her school loans. You would probably do it too if you were female.