Op here. My girlfriend was a little overweight ( maybe 40lbs) but not hairy. The endocrinologist said she no longer has pcos after reversing it. She also told her that diet has little to do with pcos because it’s a hormone imbalance onset by puberty. The combination of once being overweight and the family issues
( heart disease, diabetes, and fertility issues) are what is making her eat healthy. I encourage healthy eating but he lecturing is annoying. I would not care if she gained a little. My ex gained 20lbs in our relationship and still didn’t matter to me. We broke up for other reasons.

FFS. I have a serious illness that restricts my diet. At almost any/every place there is something to eat.

Your GF is showing of her illness because she wants people to notice. After many years of eating this way the glamour wears off. However, she’s drama and bitchy. Move on.

is she on birth control pills? they can do a lot to help PCOS.

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Anonymous wrote:Wtf?!?! She has a serious metabolic illness that increases her chances of diabetes, infertility, heart disease, and dementia. Eating a low carb diet is absolutely essential to her health. That means no pizza, no beer, no CANDY, you jerk.

This is not about her weight. It is about her whole LIFE. Do you know how serious PCOS is??? It's a disease of insulin resistance. Any kind of sugar or starch or carb is literally like poison to her in the long term. It sounds like she is coming to terms with this but you are seriously sabotaging her and endangering her health.

I hope she dumps you, you asshole.

Pcos is a hormone imbalance, it’s not an insulin resistant disease. You can become influential resistant, but it’s not automatic.

Hormonal symptoms of PCOS are caused by hyperinsulinemia. Chronically high insulin. It is metabolic disease, not a hormonal
One.

Wrong. My cousin has pcos and so does my friend. Both have normal blood sugar. They don’t have diabetes or insulin resistance.

You know what, I REALLY wish I knew the answer to this. And I am someone who is thin but has PCOS...even doctors have different opinions on this, it's frustrating

Anonymous wrote:Then problem is not what she eats. I also have PCOS and had to develop an eating disorder in order to stay thin. You know all these foods create disproportionate problems (for this kind of disorder it's not calories in/calories out, it's highly dependent on the kinds of foods) and become obsessive about everything and it's not fun. You think about it all the time because the foods that are good for you are not as easily available, especially in a social setting. But she was probably very fat and hairy at some point and wants to actually be in a relationship and in America there really is nothing worse than being a fat woman. You mentioned that she now is fit and thin, and I'm betting if you met her as she was then, you wouldn't have given her the time of day. She knows that. I was not asked out for a decade until I became obsessive and got thin and "hot" even though I was always the same person inside.

Her problem, though, is that she comments and lectures on what YOU eat. Not cool. Why are you worried that she only drinks a glass of wine at a bar? But also maybe try to do activities that don't focus on food. It's not fun for her.

Exactly, exactly this. PCOS sucks and I'm sure she knows the hard way what would happen to her physically if she let herself slide, so she's being super cigilant. Something tells me you ALSO wouldn't be too thrilled if she gained a bunch of weight / had facial hair issues, right? It really sucks, trust me...but with pcos your body does not work like a normal body

But it's annoying that she lectures about it. UNLESS she is doing that because you keep pushing her to indulge WITH you, or doing things like buying her candy and being annoyed that she won't eat it. If you're forcing the issue, then it's not surprising she's feeling defensive and feeling the need to stand up for her viewpoint. But if you're not commenting on HER eating, she shouldn't comment on yours.

Then problem is not what she eats. I also have PCOS and had to develop an eating disorder in order to stay thin. You know all these foods create disproportionate problems (for this kind of disorder it's not calories in/calories out, it's highly dependent on the kinds of foods) and become obsessive about everything and it's not fun. You think about it all the time because the foods that are good for you are not as easily available, especially in a social setting. But she was probably very fat and hairy at some point and wants to actually be in a relationship and in America there really is nothing worse than being a fat woman. You mentioned that she now is fit and thin, and I'm betting if you met her as she was then, you wouldn't have given her the time of day. She knows that. I was not asked out for a decade until I became obsessive and got thin and "hot" even though I was always the same person inside.

Her problem, though, is that she comments and lectures on what YOU eat. Not cool. Why are you worried that she only drinks a glass of wine at a bar? But also maybe try to do activities that don't focus on food. It's not fun for her.

Anonymous wrote:This is just a vent. My girlfriend is very strict with her eating habits. She used to suffer from pcos and weight issues a couple do years before we met. She reversed it and lossy the weight by eating very healthy and exercise. I’m a fit guy who loves being healthy and active, but she takes it to the extreme, and it’s really hard keeping up with her standards. Every eeekdn it’s a batttle do where to eat because she can’t eat this or that. I am happy that she is taking care of herself, but I don’t know how long I can deal with this. She does have a gluten allergy but doesn’t eat dairy ( or very little), anything processed, and no meat besides chicken. I bought her candy for Halloween and she refused to eat because of the unhealthy fats, sugar, and chemicals. I suggest pizza, but no because too much diary and tomatoes are very inflammatory to the body. I suggest going out the bar with friends, and we go, but I know she won’t have a good time because she rarely drinks ( maybe a glass of red wine once a month). I wonder if anyone else can relate.

Dear OP - This may be a true case of "it's not you, it's me." I don't think either of your are "wrong" but if you can't accept this about her, you aren't right for her. Science is close to proving - or has proven - that our gut health determines MANY illnesses and disease states that were never considered in the past ... including many those that lead to clinical depression, cancers, metabolic disorders, etic. They are real conditions and when there is an imbalance, your brain struggles to maintain balance.

She is trying to create balance. And I GET IT. It can be SUPER annoying. I have a friend who is gluten-free and sometimes I want to shut her in a closet because she finds away to steer conversations towards her gluten-free life style, even if we're discussing something completely unrelated, HA! So with this is mind, perhaps you could meet your GF halfway. If she's like my friend and talks about it too much than tell her... it doesn't mean you can't accommodate her needs but maybe it's having to hear about it all the time. If I'm correct, you need to make it clear that you're not trying to sabotage her efforts or discounting her health - that you're more than willing to support her if it isn't the center of conversation all the time.

Anonymous wrote:Seriously, it will just get more annoying and you will get more resentful the longer you keep seeing her.

People can eat whatever they want but making their eating quirks an issue for others gets really old really fast.

Find another girlfriend. Yes, there are fit, thin women out there without food issues.

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Agree. I’m a woman and I couldn’t deal with this crap.

Anonymous wrote:Dump her now and avoid a life of misery.

+1 HER crazy & HER control will NOT get better with age. BTDT . Flipping out over a piece of candy is NOT normal. Save yourself dude

Eat to live don't live to eat. It will catch up with you, OP, when your metabolism slows as you age.

NP here.

Talk to her. Tell her that you support her in managing her diet in the way that she sees fit, but what you ask in return is that she give you the same respect and not lecture you about your food choices.

Identify some restaurants you can go to. Figure out a virgin drink she can drink at bars (maybe club soda with lemon or something).

And define boundaries: She isn't allowed to lecture you about sugar. You aren't allowed to try to get her to eat pizza. You respect each other's choices and mind your own business about food.

Be honest with her that you don't want to be lectured. But understand that in return you need to respect that she doesn't eat certain things, so stop buying candy or trying to get her to have a drink.

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Anonymous wrote:I try to eat healthy food and I don't drink much alcohol. DH accepts me as I am and I love him for that. Plus, since I can drive, he's able to indulge at the bar when he wishes.

I do think it's a boundary issue for her to criticize you for eating candy. But if I were you, I'd just choose to eat my candy when she's not around. Keep it on the DL like porn or whatever private hobbies you have. Good luck, buddy.

Op here. Funny this is she love porn and we watch it together.

Now it's all starting to make sense......

Anonymous wrote:I try to eat healthy food and I don't drink much alcohol. DH accepts me as I am and I love him for that. Plus, since I can drive, he's able to indulge at the bar when he wishes.

I do think it's a boundary issue for her to criticize you for eating candy. But if I were you, I'd just choose to eat my candy when she's not around. Keep it on the DL like porn or whatever private hobbies you have. Good luck, buddy.

Op here. Funny this is she love porn and we watch it together.

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Anonymous wrote:Wtf?!?! She has a serious metabolic illness that increases her chances of diabetes, infertility, heart disease, and dementia. Eating a low carb diet is absolutely essential to her health. That means no pizza, no beer, no CANDY, you jerk.

This is not about her weight. It is about her whole LIFE. Do you know how serious PCOS is??? It's a disease of insulin resistance. Any kind of sugar or starch or carb is literally like poison to her in the long term. It sounds like she is coming to terms with this but you are seriously sabotaging her and endangering her health.

I hope she dumps you, you asshole.

Pcos is a hormone imbalance, it’s not an insulin resistant disease. You can become influential resistant, but it’s not automatic.

Hormonal symptoms of PCOS are caused by hyperinsulinemia. Chronically high insulin. It is metabolic disease, not a hormonal
One.

Wrong. My cousin has pcos and so does my friend. Both have normal blood sugar. They don’t have diabetes or insulin resistance.

Dump her now and avoid a life of misery.