I went through this, OP, so I totally get where you are coming from. I went to a fancy design school in NYC but grew up lower middle class in upstate NY. While in school, my friends were all ambitious about their careers. A few years after graduation they almost all married lawyers and hedge fund guys. Conversations switched from what cool internships they got to where they summered, which 3 carat yellow diamond ring they wanted. My boyfriend (now husband) was successful but is an architect. Soon I had a hard time relating and let those friends go. It’s sad but that’s life.

Anonymous wrote:I know no women like this.

Truthfully, this was probably always the plan and they were just hedging their bets by saying how career oriented they are in case it never happened.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:Never met or knew any woman like your friends. I suggest you find better quality women for friends. That being said, you're obviously jealous as all get out because you used the stepford wives label. Every woman that doesn't live that life always utters that when they try to make fun of those that do live it.

Not nice. I dare you to tell your friends what you posted.

Op here. I didn’t say I’m not jealous. Who wouldn’t want entry into a life of privilege after signing a piece of paper?

You have a sad definition of privilege. I consider privilege to be able to pay bills but also to be surrounded by love and people who make me happy and I know I can count on. I do not consider privilege getting to sit home and do nothing with my intellect and education but breed.

Only losers go to brunch--who has time for it? Weekends are either for working or getting up early and climbing mountains.

Anonymous wrote:Never met or knew any woman like your friends. I suggest you find better quality women for friends. That being said, you're obviously jealous as all get out because you used the stepford wives label. Every woman that doesn't live that life always utters that when they try to make fun of those that do live it.

Not nice. I dare you to tell your friends what you posted.

Op here. I didn’t say I’m not jealous. Who wouldn’t want entry into a life of privilege after signing a piece of paper?

Stop having brunch with white women. But yeah, it’s one of life’s sad truisms that gold diggers persist.

Never met or knew any woman like your friends. I suggest you find better quality women for friends. That being said, you're obviously jealous as all get out because you used the stepford wives label. Every woman that doesn't live that life always utters that when they try to make fun of those that do live it.

Not nice. I dare you to tell your friends what you posted.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I was focused on finding a guy who could e my best friend and would treat me well.

Maybe they were as well.

Anonymous wrote:It is a privilege and a luxury for an educated, qualified person to choose not to work. There are pros and cons to each choice, but surely you can see the advantage to being a stay at home parent.

Your friends sound privileged and honest. With the exception of the "mama didn't raise no fool" one, this is just the life they landed, and I don't begrudge them their choice to leave the workforce. It wouldn't be my preference, but it's their right.

Op here. Sure! But is it normal to feel so smug about it? Especially in front of a friend who did not luck out in the rich husband category?

I’ve been around their self congratulatory selves for a while and they’re obvious smugness is grating. I’m jealous sure but I would be less so if they would let me forget about their good fortunes for a sec.

I have another friend who is also dating a tech millionaire but she is so grounded and normal. It doesn’t even occur to her that she can be a glitzy SAHM and is continuing to focus on her skill set in data analysis and is still her old self. We’re still close.

Anonymous wrote:It is a privilege and a luxury for an educated, qualified person to choose not to work. There are pros and cons to each choice, but surely you can see the advantage to being a stay at home parent.

Your friends sound privileged and honest. With the exception of the "mama didn't raise no fool" one, this is just the life they landed, and I don't begrudge them their choice to leave the workforce. It wouldn't be my preference, but it's their right.

+1

Don't be a woman hater, OP. It looks like you hate yourself.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you keep posting threads on this same topic. Either you're a troll, you're incredibly insecure, or you have nothing better to do with your time.

Your friends sound like losers. I know almost no women like this, and no one envies the few women who actually are like this. Talk to them in 10 years when they're bored and unhappy SAHMs whose lives revolve around PTA and yoga.

+1

OP, I know some single women like this, but I maybe see them once a year - maybe. That type of woman thinks everyone else "has it easy", and have no problems - just her! The same type that only wants to marry rich, but doesn't realize what other people go through, at all (it might be her family money, he might be an abuser - I know one family like this personally). Desperation reeks on some people, and you really should be aiming higher with your friends, than this shallow, vapid type. Surround yourself with people who have an actual purpose in life than to "marry rich". Besides, men aren't stupid, they would rather be with someone who will stick by them.....not some fake, materialistic hussy who sniffs out money.....

It is a privilege and a luxury for an educated, qualified person to choose not to work. There are pros and cons to each choice, but surely you can see the advantage to being a stay at home parent.

Your friends sound privileged and honest. With the exception of the "mama didn't raise no fool" one, this is just the life they landed, and I don't begrudge them their choice to leave the workforce. It wouldn't be my preference, but it's their right.

She was talking about how big she wants her e gagemebt ring to be and whether she should sign a prenup considering she wants to take advantage of his wealth if it doesn’t work out.


Mmmm Hmmmmm. I don't buy it. Either way, you hang out with crappy people and you are jealous of them and you want to be told how great you are?

OP, you keep posting threads on this same topic. Either you're a troll, you're incredibly insecure, or you have nothing better to do with your time.

Your friends sound like losers. I know almost no women like this, and no one envies the few women who actually are like this. Talk to them in 10 years when they're bored and unhappy SAHMs whose lives revolve around PTA and yoga.

I wouldn’t be friends with people like that in the first place. Money isn’t a big deal for me. My DH and I don’t make a whole lot, but we can pay the bills and have a little extra for a vacation and some fun activities. He’s a wonderful man who’s incredibly sexy and treats me like a queen, and we have fun doing anything. We don’t need to be surrounded by expensive THINGS that are meaningless in the grand scheme of life. I couldn’t be happier with my life. I suggest you keep your head right where it is, and ditch the superficial losers.