Anonymous
Post 12/04/2017 09:00     Subject: Husband tried to commit suicide
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like he needs to be in a hospital. 5150


If he tires anything again I’ll call 911. I’m staying off of work to get him some help. Not sure where this came from.



Do not wait because he might be successful. Get him in under psychiatric care immediately. Call family and friends to give you the help and you need. God be with you and your family.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2017 08:45     Subject: Husband tried to commit suicide
Anonymous wrote:Please take him to the ER. My SIL attempted to commit suicide last month, her husband caught her and stayed home from work to watch her, he thought the best thing for her was to stay home and be calm. Then two nights later she tried to kill him (choke him) because he wouldn’t let her kill herself. Only then did he call 911 and take her to the ER. PLEASE, if your husband is in crisis he needs professional help and to become stable.


This. You can’t do this alone, OP. It’s just impossible. You need to take him to the ER.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2017 08:30     Subject: Husband tried to commit suicide
Please take him to the ER. My SIL attempted to commit suicide last month, her husband caught her and stayed home from work to watch her, he thought the best thing for her was to stay home and be calm. Then two nights later she tried to kill him (choke him) because he wouldn’t let her kill herself. Only then did he call 911 and take her to the ER. PLEASE, if your husband is in crisis he needs professional help and to become stable.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2017 08:17     Subject: Re:Husband tried to commit suicide
Anonymous wrote:I hope you help him get help. He needs it. I have a friend whose husband tried multiple times. He was even revived from a suicide. The Doc told him next time he might be successful and he was. He may need meds and he may need to stay on them long term, which can be hard for people to do. I am thinking of you and hope that he gets help.


What makes it hard for people to stay on meds (besides side effects)?
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2017 08:10     Subject: Re:Husband tried to commit suicide
I hope you help him get help. He needs it. I have a friend whose husband tried multiple times. He was even revived from a suicide. The Doc told him next time he might be successful and he was. He may need meds and he may need to stay on them long term, which can be hard for people to do. I am thinking of you and hope that he gets help.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2017 07:52     Subject: Husband tried to commit suicide
Anonymous wrote:I am baffled by the fact that you caught your spouse in the act of "about to commit suicide" but now are basically just waiting it out. If you are serious, you need to call professional help. Getting a good night's sleep is not going to magically cure suicidal thoughts.


Agreed. The way you are handling this is reckless.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2017 07:26     Subject: Husband tried to commit suicide
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So why isn't he in the psyche ward under observation?
Anonymous wrote:Got luck and stopped him at the last moment. I did’t think anything was wrong, he’s acted about the same. I’m devastated he would do that to us. I’ve been essentially on suicide watch for a couple of days and can’t sleep, I’m worried if I do he’ll harm himself. I’ve removed the guns from the house, but he’s locked himself in the bathroom yesterday and I’m afraid he’ll down a bunch of pills.


Having him locked up in a mental hospital like an insane person won’t help him. He’ll go insane locked up like that.


That is not true. If he is in this mindset, he needs to be evaluated. Especially if he is actively suicidal, which it certainly sounds like he is. Safety is key and they can do a better job ensuring his safety so that he is not able to take his life or harm himself. OP, please call the hotline immediately as a PP suggested. Good luck and do not let him out of your sight until you can get him to mental health professionals who can help him.


I think she’s doing that...that’s what she said.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2017 07:24     Subject: Husband tried to commit suicide
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So why isn't he in the psyche ward under observation?
Anonymous wrote:Got luck and stopped him at the last moment. I did’t think anything was wrong, he’s acted about the same. I’m devastated he would do that to us. I’ve been essentially on suicide watch for a couple of days and can’t sleep, I’m worried if I do he’ll harm himself. I’ve removed the guns from the house, but he’s locked himself in the bathroom yesterday and I’m afraid he’ll down a bunch of pills.


Having him locked up in a mental hospital like an insane person won’t help him. He’ll go insane locked up like that.


PSA: One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest" was not a documentary about present day inpatient psychiatric care.


PSA: If you have ever been in a psych ward in a place like INOVA, you'd know One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest is a serious step up.


This...I was there
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2017 07:24     Subject: Husband tried to commit suicide
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am baffled by the fact that you caught your spouse in the act of "about to commit suicide" but now are basically just waiting it out. If you are serious, you need to call professional help. Getting a good night's sleep is not going to magically cure suicidal thoughts.


This is exactly what I think. You should have called for help from the very start. Pretending this isn't serious is only to cause things to get worse. Think of your kids if nothing else.


Not true, I was caught and my wife talked me out of it and I wasn’t committed right away. I ended up doing an out-patient program were I left at night. Being with people who cares for me worked best. Being around a bunch of strangers didn’t.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2017 06:20     Subject: Husband tried to commit suicide
We went through this with my XH twice. Get him into whatever inpatient unit that you can. Everyone (you, too) needs to be in therapy after this. I did it for my kid, but I wish I’d gone myself.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2017 06:18     Subject: Re:Husband tried to commit suicide
Please take him to the emergency department to be evaluated by their mental health professionals. In the ED where I work, a patient like this may or may not be admitted, but they would be able to assess. You are not able to assess or treat at home.

You will not be able to keep him safe from another suicide attempt at home. That's wishful thinking.

I'd be concerned about mania if he has not slept for so long.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2017 06:14     Subject: Re:Husband tried to commit suicide
Get off the Internet and drive him to an ER where there is a psych unit: Arlington, Suburban, last resort Fairfax. No shit Fairfax inova is bad, but it's there.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2017 04:57     Subject: Husband tried to commit suicide
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So why isn't he in the psyche ward under observation?
Anonymous wrote:Got luck and stopped him at the last moment. I did’t think anything was wrong, he’s acted about the same. I’m devastated he would do that to us. I’ve been essentially on suicide watch for a couple of days and can’t sleep, I’m worried if I do he’ll harm himself. I’ve removed the guns from the house, but he’s locked himself in the bathroom yesterday and I’m afraid he’ll down a bunch of pills.


Having him locked up in a mental hospital like an insane person won’t help him. He’ll go insane locked up like that.


PSA: One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest" was not a documentary about present day inpatient psychiatric care.


PSA: If you have ever been in a psych ward in a place like INOVA, you'd know One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest is a serious step up.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2017 04:55     Subject: Husband tried to commit suicide
Hugs OP. Hang in there
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2017 03:30     Subject: Re:Husband tried to commit suicide
Does he know why he wants to commit suicide>?