Anonymous
Post 11/29/2017 17:11     Subject: Can I snark for a moment? Gender reveal party $ grabbing, wtf??
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote: Also it’s not actually gender reveal party because gender is your chosen identity or where you more relate it’s actually sex reveal party which will reveal if you have a child with a penis or a vagina. I agree with the others and I think that’s narc is completely appropriate hear it does seem silly

Ha, snark not narc... dictation


OP here - totally agree. Dislike "gender" reveals for so many reasons, but this is the most fundamentally important one. However, I understand not everyone has the same understanding of sex and gender as I do, so fine, whatever. But this straight up asking for cash from guests who are already buying a gift for your gender reveal AND baby shower AND possibly making you a meal after, just seems SO. BEYOND. TACTLESS. A game is giving out tickets and having a prize. Holding a fundraiser for YOURSELF during the party YOU are throwing is so far past the line you can't even see the line. The line is a dot to you, you know?
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2017 16:56     Subject: Can I snark for a moment? Gender reveal party $ grabbing, wtf??
Anonymous wrote: Also it’s not actually gender reveal party because gender is your chosen identity or where you more relate it’s actually sex reveal party which will reveal if you have a child with a penis or a vagina. I agree with the others and I think that’s narc is completely appropriate hear it does seem silly

Ha, snark not narc... dictation
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2017 16:55     Subject: Can I snark for a moment? Gender reveal party $ grabbing, wtf??
Also it’s not actually gender reveal party because gender is your chosen identity or where you more relate it’s actually sex reveal party which will reveal if you have a child with a penis or a vagina. I agree with the others and I think that’s narc is completely appropriate hear it does seem silly
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2017 15:08     Subject: Can I snark for a moment? Gender reveal party $ grabbing, wtf??
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Omg then just don’t go. Jesus Christ. Why do you care what some else does? There are tons of things that people do differently especially if they are from different cultures. For some people the norm is to have 15 people at a baby or bridal while others might have 50-100. Some cultures have a shower for every baby while others only think it’s acceptable to have a shower for the first baby. Get over it.


Money grabbing is tacky in any culture and gender reveal parties are not part of ANYONE'S culture because they're a made up trend that have popped up in the last few years. I would care if I felt obligated to go, expecting to buy a gift and pretend to be excited, then ALSO had to pull out my wallet once I got there. Tacky, tacky, tacky.


Although you sound worldly and well traveled and all , in OTHER countries this is acceptable. Sometimes, people from OTHER countries emigrate to the U.S. and bring their cultures with them and continue to celebrate as they do in their own countries. My sister in law is from a country where the brides do a "dollar dance" at their wedding and then the bride walks around during the reception and people pin money to her wedding dress! My brother in law is from a country where there is a shower for EVERY child/pregnancy and guests are expected to bring gifts and (gasp!) money, too! I would wager they are far more educated than you (SIL is a doctor from an ivy league school) and BIL is a very highly paid cyber security engineer. So whether these people bring their traditions to the U.S. or some random Americans decide to incorporate some or all of these practices, what difference does it make to you in your little insular, backwoods, monolithic, dimly lit universe?? Let it go.


Wow, this is really quite a reply. Are you OP's Facebook friend? I am an ivy educated attorney, Polish American, and from an area of the country that does dollar dances at weddings. Also have traveled to Europe, Asia, Africa, and South America. "Gender reveal parties" are a recent, narcissistic fad. They are also hosted by the parents, unlike a wedding or baby shower. If the parents want to do a raffle game, then give the entire pot to the winning ticket. If you can't see the difference between a 50/50 raffle at a gender reveal party and a baby shower or dollar dance, then I guess there's just no arguing with stupid.

Admit it, you solicited cash from your guests at your gender reveal party, didn't you?
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2017 23:30     Subject: Can I snark for a moment? Gender reveal party $ grabbing, wtf??
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Omg then just don’t go. Jesus Christ. Why do you care what some else does? There are tons of things that people do differently especially if they are from different cultures. For some people the norm is to have 15 people at a baby or bridal while others might have 50-100. Some cultures have a shower for every baby while others only think it’s acceptable to have a shower for the first baby. Get over it.


Money grabbing is tacky in any culture and gender reveal parties are not part of ANYONE'S culture because they're a made up trend that have popped up in the last few years. I would care if I felt obligated to go, expecting to buy a gift and pretend to be excited, then ALSO had to pull out my wallet once I got there. Tacky, tacky, tacky.


Although you sound worldly and well traveled and all , in OTHER countries this is acceptable. Sometimes, people from OTHER countries emigrate to the U.S. and bring their cultures with them and continue to celebrate as they do in their own countries. My sister in law is from a country where the brides do a "dollar dance" at their wedding and then the bride walks around during the reception and people pin money to her wedding dress! My brother in law is from a country where there is a shower for EVERY child/pregnancy and guests are expected to bring gifts and (gasp!) money, too! I would wager they are far more educated than you (SIL is a doctor from an ivy league school) and BIL is a very highly paid cyber security engineer. So whether these people bring their traditions to the U.S. or some random Americans decide to incorporate some or all of these practices, what difference does it make to you in your little insular, backwoods, monolithic, dimly lit universe?? Let it go.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2017 23:15     Subject: Can I snark for a moment? Gender reveal party $ grabbing, wtf??
Anonymous wrote:Omg then just don’t go. Jesus Christ. Why do you care what some else does? There are tons of things that people do differently especially if they are from different cultures. For some people the norm is to have 15 people at a baby or bridal while others might have 50-100. Some cultures have a shower for every baby while others only think it’s acceptable to have a shower for the first baby. Get over it.


Money grabbing is tacky in any culture and gender reveal parties are not part of ANYONE'S culture because they're a made up trend that have popped up in the last few years. I would care if I felt obligated to go, expecting to buy a gift and pretend to be excited, then ALSO had to pull out my wallet once I got there. Tacky, tacky, tacky.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2017 19:42     Subject: Can I snark for a moment? Gender reveal party $ grabbing, wtf??
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Gender reveal parties are gross gift grabs on a good day. This is just an extension of the overall gross theme.
Do people usually do gender reveals instead of a shower or in addition?


I think it is in addition.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2017 19:40     Subject: Can I snark for a moment? Gender reveal party $ grabbing, wtf??
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like the office lottery pool - winner takes the bowl, right?


If you'd read it, it says that winner takes half and the other half goes to the baby. Tacky.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2017 19:07     Subject: Can I snark for a moment? Gender reveal party $ grabbing, wtf??
Anonymous wrote:Gender reveal parties are gross gift grabs on a good day. This is just an extension of the overall gross theme.
Do people usually do gender reveals instead of a shower or in addition?
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2017 18:59     Subject: Can I snark for a moment? Gender reveal party $ grabbing, wtf??
Anonymous wrote:I just saw someone post this on Facebook:

When we did our party we wanted to buy pink and blue tickets, each costing say... 5$ and just like a 50/50 everyone could buy tickets from the gender they thought baby would be. Both tickets go into separate bowls and once the gender is reveals that bowl (pink or blue) has a ticket randomly selected and you have your winner of half the pot, and baby receiving the other half!



Going to your gender reveal is bad enough, but having to PAY to be at your gender reveal?? What. The. Actual. F**k is wrong with people??


greedy, entitled, clueless, crass, ... how long do you have?
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2017 18:49     Subject: Can I snark for a moment? Gender reveal party $ grabbing, wtf??
Tacky AS F. Holy shit people are so bootleg
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2017 18:31     Subject: Can I snark for a moment? Gender reveal party $ grabbing, wtf??
Omg then just don’t go. Jesus Christ. Why do you care what some else does? There are tons of things that people do differently especially if they are from different cultures. For some people the norm is to have 15 people at a baby or bridal while others might have 50-100. Some cultures have a shower for every baby while others only think it’s acceptable to have a shower for the first baby. Get over it.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2017 15:43     Subject: Can I snark for a moment? Gender reveal party $ grabbing, wtf??
Anonymous wrote:I hate gender reveal parties because I don't like knowing the sex ahead of time. These parties celebrate a stereotypical view of what a girl or a boy baby is. Just not a fan.

Amongst our family members (siblings, grandparents and parents), we did have a baby pool that everyone threw $5 in. It was our siblings idea and the winner that was closest to the birth date and sex won it all. We didn't set it up or benefit at all from it.


I don't like knowing the sex ahead of time

These parties celebrate a stereotypical view of what a girl or a boy baby is

I don't get how these are connected, at all.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2017 15:32     Subject: Re:Can I snark for a moment? Gender reveal party $ grabbing, wtf??
Dear God, NO!!!

First, gender reveal parties are pathetic because no one really cares. But turning it into a moneymaker is simply vile!!
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2017 12:53     Subject: Re:Can I snark for a moment? Gender reveal party $ grabbing, wtf??
Anonymous wrote:My dad said they did a 50/50 contest to guess when I would be born at his construction company workplace in 1991, and they did it when any guy had a kid. So I guess as a concept I don't find it that offensive. But at a gender reveal it's pretty weird. But gender reveals in general are dumb.


Folks, the issue isn't that there is a 50-50 bet. IT'S THAT IT IS BEING PROMOTED BY THE PARENTS!!!!

In the scenario above, I will bet my paycheck that the poster's co-workers set this up. The poster's father did not walk into his construction company office with a bowl and invite everyone to put in $5 so that he could take half home. No way, no how that happened. One of his co-workers did that for him.