OP here - Roar, those are interesting suggestions. I will give them a try. Thanks.

Did you get fat

Is he fat and lazy? Lots of those screaming soccer dads are - that can mess with your sex drive.

Maybe he's like that poster in that other thread, and regrets marrying you. Perhaps he just settled, and is finding being married to you a big chore.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Well, I'm not sure what the issue is then. I guess my personality can be a little boring - I'm sort of overly focused on my work and DS's school - but I'm not ugly, or mean, or overly nagging.

You sure do set the bar high.

OP: Boredom over a decade absolutely happens, especially if monotony exists. Couple of points. You said he obsesses about DS travel soccer. This tells me he loves winning and perhaps more happy when it's in dominant fashion. Perhaps tying the two together will make a spark. During the game, text him that he looks hot and make an inside joke between the two of you that if your son gets a goal or assist, you've got something "special" waiting for him at home.

Since you're both working day jobs, send him a PM or text between 10 before and 10 after the hour when you know he can look at the message, but can't do anything about it as he's entering a meeting or conference call.

PP's mentioned porn. Don't automatically look at it as bad or as a replacement. Instead, it gives you insight to what he really might want, but is afraid to ask or you might not like doing, or don't do well currently.

If he's watching porn, check the history on browser to see what type of porn he prefers. It will tell you what he'd like to do, but might be afraid to ask...or you might not be good at doing.

Finally, I must state this. Partners need frequently to push and pull each other so that their value increases in the others eyes. I'm not saying sleep with anyone else, but spend more time talking to the other dads at DS's games. Ask them what English Premier league team you should start cheering for and why? You consider yourself in shape and not ugly. If you see yourself as hot, others will too. If they do, he will as well. We always rate external perceived value higher than we do in our own minds, especially after 15 years. Change up your wardrobe a bit on the weekends and take an interests in others with a bit of bold, daring and even slightly flirt a bit. He'll notice, and will respond. Let us know how it goes. Oh, and one more thing. You need to learn a new "skill," if all he wants is one position in bed.

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Anonymous wrote:He's 42. Sex is mediocre but not bad.

What would he say about the sex with you? Women are really bad in bed...maybe he is just tired of bad sex?

I guess you'll have to start having sex with men, then.

I hear the BJs are better.

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Anonymous wrote:He's 42. Sex is mediocre but not bad.

What would he say about the sex with you? Women are really bad in bed...maybe he is just tired of bad sex?

I guess you'll have to start having sex with men, then.

Anonymous wrote:I expect he's masturbating to porn. That's OK, but he's overdoing it and needs to save more for you.

+1 that is my guess. The porn becomes such an easy release that it can be a bit of a chore with a long term partner.

What happens when he turns you down? Do you initiate again in 2 or 3 days? Or you wait another week?