I kept my name because, you know, it's my name.

Our kids have my name. That's the default in hospital, even when you're married, unless you decide otherwise. And we didn't see a reason for that.

DH is free to change his name to match the kids, if he so desires.

Keep your name.
I changed mine two years after marriage. My husband said he did not care but insinuated through "jokes" that he did after our wedding. I changed it. I regret it. I am likely changing it back (we don't plan to divorce).

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those women that did not change their names, what do you end up using for your kids' last name?

My kids have my husband’s last name. Many of my friends didn’t change their names and all the kids from these marriages have taken the husband’s name, which is definitely interesting.

why?

Because why is it a given that the kids will get the father’s last name? Women who keep their last name are clearly bucking tradition so why do very few of these women take it the logical step further and at least have a conversation about what last name the kids should have.

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Anonymous wrote:For those women that did not change their names, what do you end up using for your kids' last name?

My kids have my husband’s last name. Many of my friends didn’t change their names and all the kids from these marriages have taken the husband’s name, which is definitely interesting.

why?

Anonymous wrote:For those women that did not change their names, what do you end up using for your kids' last name?

For us, I kept my last name. Kids have the DH's last name. This seems to be the norm.

We know a family with two kids where each of the kids have a different last name - one the dad's and one the mom's. They are expecting their third. Would be interesting to see whose last name this one gets...

Anonymous wrote:For those women that did not change their names, what do you end up using for your kids' last name?

Kids have dad’s last name and middles names I chose from my family.

Anonymous wrote:For those women that did not change their names, what do you end up using for your kids' last name?

My kids have my husband’s last name. Many of my friends didn’t change their names and all the kids from these marriages have taken the husband’s name, which is definitely interesting.

Not weird at all.

I kept mine.

The vast majority of women don’t seem to have any issues with changing their name. But most people also don’t care if you keep your name. Both are established practices these days. Why are you agonizing? Just do what you want to do.

For those women that did not change their names, what do you end up using for your kids' last name?

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Anonymous wrote:What's weird is that anyone would want to change their name.

Unless they really hated it, which occasionally happens.

This is what I think. Why would I wake up one day and start calling myself a new name? How many men would do that? (Answer: not many.)

the right answer is "None".

Anonymous wrote:What's weird is that anyone would want to change their name.

Unless they really hated it, which occasionally happens.

This is what I think. Why would I wake up one day and start calling myself a new name? How many men would do that? (Answer: not many.)

It's illegal where I live.

Not at all. And no need to defend or justify it.

Anonymous wrote:What's weird is that anyone would want to change their name.

Unless they really hated it, which occasionally happens.

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