I would get her. Sometimes you just need to put School second and be there for your daughter. She’s overwhelmed with handling this today- so have her her books etc. and get ice cream or something and cuddle up and watch something funny. She can take a nice bath or shower and do her homework and get organized for dealing with this st school tomorrow.

I had horrendous periods before the went on the pill. I passed out every month, would throw up and had unbelievable cramps not too dissimilar to my non medicated labor with one of my children.

Compassion is always where i try to go first when thinking about situations. Yes she will have to learn to deal but this is all new to her.

Yes- I’d pick her up and go out and do something she enjoys to celebrate a big day in her life.

Anonymous wrote:My mother would have said, "Suck it up, buttercup." She sure as hell would not have left work and taken me for Panera.

This is my mother, too which is why I'd definitely go pick her up!

Yes

Absolutely

My mother would have said, "Suck it up, buttercup." She sure as hell would not have left work and taken me for Panera.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't pick her up.
Do donate a Costco size thing of tampons to the school nurse.

The nurse at my middle school thought tampons were only for women of ill repute so wouldn't stock any or give any out to the students. Only the depends size pads. Fun times...

NP here. OP (and others), consider donating a mix of mini-pads, tampons (they do come in different sizes so get different sizes) and those THIN maxi-pads that aren't "Depends size." I know just what the PP means by that. Yikes.

Tell the nurse they're for anyone, not just your own DD. It would be a service to all the girls at the school.

Not all girls this age, or any age, use tampons. Some girls and women never use them at all. My DD only uses them when she has to swim or dance. Don't donate just tampons, please.

Also, OP, the day is nearly done now but I'd pick up my DD especially if this were the first time she'd made a call like this. I'm glad your sister is using it for some lunch and bonding time. The world will not end if she misses part of a day of school at this age. By the time she's in high school, it really does create problems to miss even a single class sometimes, so until then -- don't overthink pulling her out if she really needs it and there is no test or project being affected.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My sister lives close to the school and went and got her. They are getting panera and bonding a bit. School is important and so is learning to deal with your period but today I just wanted to give her a little relief.

Yay!

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My sister lives close to the school and went and got her. They are getting panera and bonding a bit. School is important and so is learning to deal with your period but today I just wanted to give her a little relief.

Good. I'm glad. I bet your daughter is too. A little TLC means a lot.

Anonymous wrote:Don't pick her up.
Do donate a Costco size thing of tampons to the school nurse.

The nurse at my middle school thought tampons were only for women of ill repute so wouldn't stock any or give any out to the students. Only the depends size pads. Fun times...

Anonymous wrote:DD got her period for the first time since summer. (first year of periods are very spaced out in my family…not sure if its common over all but my mom and sisters and myself all had just a few periods a year as early teens). Anyway, she forgot her gym back today and thats where her supplies are. The nurse gave her a pad but "its huge and you can hear it when I walk!" and she just wants to come home. I offered to run up her supplies but she is embarrassed because "everyone" knows her mom would be dropping off period supplies and she just wants to come home and rest. She needs to stay the day right? I just felt bad for her and her voice sounded nervous and she's not a nervous or anxious kid.

I'd get her. Especially if there's nothing important like a test. Does she have pain? Did she get a pain reliever from the nurse too?

OP here. My sister lives close to the school and went and got her. They are getting panera and bonding a bit. School is important and so is learning to deal with your period but today I just wanted to give her a little relief.

You people can't read. She dod NOT say she was in elentary. She did NOT say she was 12.

In any event, please go pick up you DD for this WHATEVER her age. Even if she's 40 and you're 70.

Keeee-rist.

I would. I think life is short, and there's no need to make a child suffer emotional "consequences" in a harsh way. She's upset and wants to come home, and it's a one-time thing. Not everything has to be make into an object lesson.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I wouldn't but I understand the sentiment to do so.

If you don't think she'll get behind (I find it sometimes takes a week for my 7th grader to make up work after missing a class so I really hesitate to do so), I would make it clear to her that this is a special circumstance. She'll have her period for the rest of her life. The faster it becomes taken-for-granted that she will continue with everything as normal, the better.

Wait, what?! Please teach your daughter about the full cycle of women's bodies. That way she understands when her fertile years end, and that waiting until she's 40 to try for a first kid might be a bad idea. Women do not have periods for the rest of our lives.