Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 11:58     Subject: If you have set your Facebook profile to not allow others to add you as a friend, why?
This is what teachers do
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 11:43     Subject: If you have set your Facebook profile to not allow others to add you as a friend, why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So random "friends" can't Facebook stalk me.


For the fifth time in this thread: That is not how this works!

No one becomes your friend on Facebook without your explicit approval. You have to request someone as a friend, then they confirm "yes, we are friends" - only then is their profile accessible to you.

But there's an additional setting where you can prevent people from even making that friend request at all. OP is asking why you would use that.

The Jeopardy example is a compelling one.

The answer to your question, OP, appears to be that most people using it do not understand how it works.


Yes I think this is the answer. The people using this feature do not understand it and don't understand that unless you actually confirm someone as a friend they cannot see your profile.

I wasn't using this feature because I didn't know it exists. I will change the setting now as I don't use FB for social media purposes. I use FB messenger (you don't need to be FB friends to message).


Except if you are not friends they have to go to a special folder to see the messsge-doesn't automatically show up. I have messages I found months after they were sent to me.

I don't see a problem with that. I saw some messages months later and those were messages I would ignore anyway. If your preference is FB messenger then I will use it and I wouldknow the check the folder, and, once the conversation started, I can see it in messenger.
Do you prefer I add you as a friend but hide you from my feed and hide all my feed from you?
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 10:08     Subject: If you have set your Facebook profile to not allow others to add you as a friend, why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So random "friends" can't Facebook stalk me.


For the fifth time in this thread: That is not how this works!

No one becomes your friend on Facebook without your explicit approval. You have to request someone as a friend, then they confirm "yes, we are friends" - only then is their profile accessible to you.

But there's an additional setting where you can prevent people from even making that friend request at all. OP is asking why you would use that.

The Jeopardy example is a compelling one.

The answer to your question, OP, appears to be that most people using it do not understand how it works.


Yes I think this is the answer. The people using this feature do not understand it and don't understand that unless you actually confirm someone as a friend they cannot see your profile.

I wasn't using this feature because I didn't know it exists. I will change the setting now as I don't use FB for social media purposes. I use FB messenger (you don't need to be FB friends to message).


Except if you are not friends they have to go to a special folder to see the messsge-doesn't automatically show up. I have messages I found months after they were sent to me.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 10:01     Subject: If you have set your Facebook profile to not allow others to add you as a friend, why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So random "friends" can't Facebook stalk me.


For the fifth time in this thread: That is not how this works!

No one becomes your friend on Facebook without your explicit approval. You have to request someone as a friend, then they confirm "yes, we are friends" - only then is their profile accessible to you.

But there's an additional setting where you can prevent people from even making that friend request at all. OP is asking why you would use that.

The Jeopardy example is a compelling one.

The answer to your question, OP, appears to be that most people using it do not understand how it works.


Yes I think this is the answer. The people using this feature do not understand it and don't understand that unless you actually confirm someone as a friend they cannot see your profile.

I wasn't using this feature because I didn't know it exists. I will change the setting now as I don't use FB for social media purposes. I use FB messenger (you don't need to be FB friends to message).
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 09:59     Subject: If you have set your Facebook profile to not allow others to add you as a friend, why?
Some people just use Facebook to be able to log into other sites. I have a few family members who do not have pictures, posts, or accept friend requests for this reason.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 09:56     Subject: If you have set your Facebook profile to not allow others to add you as a friend, why?
Anonymous wrote:I don't do the facebook thing.


Then I think this thread is not for you. Why post? Do you think your abstention is inherently virtuous or something?
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 09:55     Subject: If you have set your Facebook profile to not allow others to add you as a friend, why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Because I don’t want strangers looking at my Facebook. I thought this was obvious?


Np. You're misunderstanding the question.

OP, I know one person who said "there was some drama," so she set her profile to not allow friend requests. I don't know the details of this drama. She pared down her friend list to just a handful of people.


I have a friend like this and it was because she was cheating on her husband. The guy she was cheating with did not know she was married; found out from a random mutual friend that neither realized they shared. He started commenting on her FB very passive aggressively and she locked it down. She has it set now so that no one can even comment on her posts or post to her wall.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 09:38     Subject: If you have set your Facebook profile to not allow others to add you as a friend, why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't do the facebook thing.

Same


And yet, you both chose to read and post on this thread?! SMH.

And yet you're so concerned about adding friends on Facebook. Get a life you white bitch
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 09:34     Subject: If you have set your Facebook profile to not allow others to add you as a friend, why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So random "friends" can't Facebook stalk me.


For the fifth time in this thread: That is not how this works!

No one becomes your friend on Facebook without your explicit approval. You have to request someone as a friend, then they confirm "yes, we are friends" - only then is their profile accessible to you.

But there's an additional setting where you can prevent people from even making that friend request at all. OP is asking why you would use that.

The Jeopardy example is a compelling one.

The answer to your question, OP, appears to be that most people using it do not understand how it works.


Yes I think this is the answer. The people using this feature do not understand it and don't understand that unless you actually confirm someone as a friend they cannot see your profile.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 09:26     Subject: If you have set your Facebook profile to not allow others to add you as a friend, why?
Anonymous wrote:So random "friends" can't Facebook stalk me.


For the fifth time in this thread: That is not how this works!

No one becomes your friend on Facebook without your explicit approval. You have to request someone as a friend, then they confirm "yes, we are friends" - only then is their profile accessible to you.

But there's an additional setting where you can prevent people from even making that friend request at all. OP is asking why you would use that.

The Jeopardy example is a compelling one.

The answer to your question, OP, appears to be that most people using it do not understand how it works.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 09:20     Subject: If you have set your Facebook profile to not allow others to add you as a friend, why?
I had a couple patients seek me out on FB. They only know my first name and where I work/what I look like. Last names are never made known to patients.

Now, unless we are friends or I friend you, it seems like I'm not on FB
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 08:57     Subject: If you have set your Facebook profile to not allow others to add you as a friend, why?
Anonymous wrote:A couple reasons:

1. Got so sick of all the political posts this past election season. Deleted everyone who wasn't family or an extremely close friend.

2. I use Facebook primarily to follow musicians/artists/products I like, and to share pictures of my kids with family who live far away. If you don't fall into either catagory, I don't need you as a Facebook friend.


But with this logic. If someone was new on Facebook in your family they wouldn't even be able to add you.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 08:51     Subject: If you have set your Facebook profile to not allow others to add you as a friend, why?
I like to add my kid's friends' parents because then it's really easy to text them on FBM and we don't have to exchange phone numbers etc. to set up play dates.

So it's kind of annoying when people won't take new friend requests. I don't really want to be your new BFF. I just want to text you to invite your kid over to play with mine.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 08:40     Subject: If you have set your Facebook profile to not allow others to add you as a friend, why?
So random "friends" can't Facebook stalk me.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 08:39     Subject: If you have set your Facebook profile to not allow others to add you as a friend, why?
One of my friends doesn't let people friend her because she was a Jeopardy champ for a few days and is slightly attractive. It's been a few years and weirdos STILL come out of the woodwork to find her.

Other friends are teachers or doctors, or similar... and they just don't want to deal with people inappropriately friending them (students, patients, etc) where they'd have to decline.