Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 09:54     Subject: Letting people into daycare
My daycare uses all one code. I'm very likely to hold the door in the morning, when everyone's hands are full with 1. a kid and 2. a standard bag we all carry. I don't hold the door for adults alone in the afternoon/evening though.

I assume if there were concern about someone accessing the daycare, we would know because they would need to send a new code out.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 09:51     Subject: Letting people into daycare
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not letting anyone shadow into the building is a standard safety precaution and the parents should follow the rules.


I'd rather someone didn't let me in behind them - even if they just saw me let myself in yesterday. What if something changed in a day and you don't/couldn't/shouldn't know about it? This is why daycares and schools and office and apartment buildings spend so much money to set up systems - they can't work if they're not used properly.


Sure, but practically speaking, unless the door code changed between today and yesterday, if the person you saw coded themselves in yesterday, they are gonna know the code today as well. My daycare has a code for parents that changes periodically, but it's also a small daycare, and now that we've been there for 6 months and what with people mostly having the same schedule day to day, I pretty much recognize all the parents that pick up the same time I do. Since there's only one code for parents, and I'd know if it had changed, my letting someone I recognize in or not is probably not the security threat the hypothetical situation makes it out to be. I wouldn't be mad if someone didn't hold the door for me either though.


pp you're responding to -

I guess if the daycare just uses one code for everyone that would/could be the case. All of the daycares I have used have personalized codes by family/parent OR like our current daycare it requires my fingerprint to be scanned to open the door for me. So I use my fingerprint to open the door, I'm not really that inclined to let Madeline's mom who I see every morning in behind me, because what if her fingerprint was deactivated yesterday for some reason I can't know?
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 09:31     Subject: Letting people into daycare
Glad I'm at an inhome daycare. I can't imagine losing sleep over the thought of someone stealing my child. The thought really never crossed my mind. It seems really anxious to worry about this.
Anonymous
Post 11/08/2017 09:26     Subject: Re:Letting people into daycare
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I never let anyone in behind me. I just smile and say, "policy. You have to put in your own code". Screw them if they get bugged. I am not letting some crazy person into my kid's daycare.


This is fine. Letting the door slam into the face of someone you see once a week/day/etc is rude, even if it is the rule.


No it's not, because they know the rule. Code= entry




Letting the door close without saying ANYTHING to someone you see every day IS rude. Sorry, super rule follower. Just smile and say what the PP said. Give an apologetic shrug. SOMETHING. Jeez.


Exactly! Shrug and say the email they sent out last week reminded us to not let anyone else in behind us. So sorry ! Following the rules isn't being rude being rude is just slamming the door in someone's face .
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2017 17:35     Subject: Letting people into daycare
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I think this is where courtesy trumps safety, although parents should of course LOOK at the person they're holding the door for. A gunman will be easy to recognize. A crazy parent who wants to kidnap his own child will not be. Different risks, different dangers.


I disagree. I don't want to have to judge people, and I don't want them judging me. A gunman or kidnapper are not the only people who I don't want milling around. Strollers are easy theft targets, etc. I'm by no means a paranoid citizen and prefer to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, but I'd also just rather have a no offense policy for my kid's daycare.


Yes you are a paranoid citizen.

Kidnappings are so rare that you should waste no time worrying about them but do you really think there are people milling about around daycares hoping to get in to steal strollers?!?

You are a paranoid citizen.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2017 17:28     Subject: Re:Letting people into daycare
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I never let anyone in behind me. I just smile and say, "policy. You have to put in your own code". Screw them if they get bugged. I am not letting some crazy person into my kid's daycare.


This is fine. Letting the door slam into the face of someone you see once a week/day/etc is rude, even if it is the rule.


No it's not, because they know the rule. Code= entry




Letting the door close without saying ANYTHING to someone you see every day IS rude. Sorry, super rule follower. Just smile and say what the PP said. Give an apologetic shrug. SOMETHING. Jeez.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2017 15:20     Subject: Re:Letting people into daycare
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I never let anyone in behind me. I just smile and say, "policy. You have to put in your own code". Screw them if they get bugged. I am not letting some crazy person into my kid's daycare.


This is fine. Letting the door slam into the face of someone you see once a week/day/etc is rude, even if it is the rule.


No it's not, because they know the rule. Code= entry
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2017 15:18     Subject: Re:Letting people into daycare
Anonymous wrote:I never let anyone in behind me. I just smile and say, "policy. You have to put in your own code". Screw them if they get bugged. I am not letting some crazy person into my kid's daycare.


This is fine. Letting the door slam into the face of someone you see once a week/day/etc is rude, even if it is the rule.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2017 14:56     Subject: Re:Letting people into daycare
I never let anyone in behind me. I just smile and say, "policy. You have to put in your own code". Screw them if they get bugged. I am not letting some crazy person into my kid's daycare.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2017 12:53     Subject: Re:Letting people into daycare
Our preschool is on a federal facility so badges required to get in. Non-badged parents who have carpool badges to the facility but not into the building, have to ring the doorbell for the office to open the door.

My policy is that I hold the door for parents I know/see regularly or parents with their child. Single adults who I don't know, I will not hold the door for.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2017 12:46     Subject: Letting people into daycare
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not letting anyone shadow into the building is a standard safety precaution and the parents should follow the rules.


This. However, OP, are you new to the daycare? I will hold the door open for people I recognize and they will do the same for me, but if you observed us you wouldn't necessarily know that. I will not let people follow me who I don't recognize and I don't get mad at anyone who doesn't hold door open for me.


+1. I know most of the fellow parents at my daycare. However, mine is inside the security of a federal agency, and the parents are all employees here, so the risk level is lower. Anyone approaching the daycare door already got through the building security.