So you don’t think he’ll run without her? Why can’t he run alone? I get that it’s motivating for him but he should still be able to continue to run without her - or find another running partner.

If not for the texts, I'd probably say "don't worry about it." I can see her being happy to have a running buddy for safety purposes. It's hard to find a good running buddy who's at your same pace, same distance and lives nearby and has the same schedule.

But I think it's possible she's making a play for him.

I've caught my husband in several of these toe the line scenarios.... ugh! Can they just have a real affair already so we can all move on?? I play mental gymnastics with myself because I don't feel justified leaving over "bad behavior ". It sucks!!!

Let's just say, whenever my DH and I run/work out/do physical activities together, we feel so much more bonded and attracted to each other.

Anonymous wrote:I see no problem with the fact that he said she's attractive. Op knows she's attractive, if he said no, she would know he was lying.

The texts could be inappropriate , but I do have a female friend who talks like that to everyone, male or female.

You also can't say "I trust you but stop running with her". You don't trust him or you wouldn't have a problem with it.

Now, obviously the only way you will be ok isnif you tell him to stop. So it's up to you to decide which option you can deal with.

Option 1, you don't tell him and you're insecure and distrusting

Option 2, you are happy but your DH is resentful. Hopefully he continues running solo though. Maybe he's mad at the fact that he feel like you don't trust him.

Disagree. I trust my husband 100%, but in our busy world if he were spending an hour each morning with another person for extracurricular reasons (man, woman, whatever) I would be jealous and consider asking him to reexamine things.

Anonymous wrote:My guess is that she is a woman who really likes male attention. Nothing good can come from this.

My guess is he’s a man who wants to bang a fit woman ten years younger than him (and probably also younger than OP).

How old are your kids? If they're old enough to be left alone, try joining them for at least the first few miles. Or make an effort to get to know her and her husband more. I think you owe it to your husband to make an effort to make yourself not feel insecure before you ask him to stop running with her. I would be upset if my husband asked me to do that.

If you’re questioning his intentions, and reading his texts, something is wrong in your marriage. How’s the sex?

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Anonymous wrote:The running wouldn't necessarily bother me- I could see myself working out with a guy friend- but the fact that he mentioned he finds her attractive and their texts are a big red flag. The only time I've ever heard men say "hey gorgeous" to a woman is when they are interested, and women find that creepy unless they are also interested.

He may have good intentions at this point but this is one of those things that can slip into an affair while everyone is in denial.

OP here again. Just to clarify. Those texts messages I mentioned were from her to him. He doesn't seem to send anything to her like that at all. Mostly generic stuff about the run, the miles, weather, etc.

She is making a move on him. And he either likes it or is dumb. Shut it down!

It's not good. It's setting him/her up for major trouble. It's a bad idea to spend so much time alone with someone of the opposite sex. They are bonding, having fun and that can lead to bad decisions.

Yup, she wants him, either for bed or just emotionally. Either way, it's not good for your marriage and needs to end.

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Anonymous wrote:The running wouldn't necessarily bother me- I could see myself working out with a guy friend- but the fact that he mentioned he finds her attractive and their texts are a big red flag. The only time I've ever heard men say "hey gorgeous" to a woman is when they are interested, and women find that creepy unless they are also interested.

He may have good intentions at this point but this is one of those things that can slip into an affair while everyone is in denial.

OP here again. Just to clarify. Those texts messages I mentioned were from her to him. He doesn't seem to send anything to her like that at all. Mostly generic stuff about the run, the miles, weather, etc.

She is making a move on him. And he either likes it or is dumb. Shut it down!

It's not good. It's setting him/her up for major trouble. It's a bad idea to spend so much time alone with someone of the opposite sex. They are bonding, having fun and that can lead to bad decisions.

My guess is that she is a woman who really likes male attention. Nothing good can come from this.

I see no problem with the fact that he said she's attractive. Op knows she's attractive, if he said no, she would know he was lying.

The texts could be inappropriate , but I do have a female friend who talks like that to everyone, male or female.

You also can't say "I trust you but stop running with her". You don't trust him or you wouldn't have a problem with it.

Now, obviously the only way you will be ok isnif you tell him to stop. So it's up to you to decide which option you can deal with.

Option 1, you don't tell him and you're insecure and distrusting

Option 2, you are happy but your DH is resentful. Hopefully he continues running solo though. Maybe he's mad at the fact that he feel like you don't trust him.

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Anonymous wrote:The running wouldn't necessarily bother me- I could see myself working out with a guy friend- but the fact that he mentioned he finds her attractive and their texts are a big red flag. The only time I've ever heard men say "hey gorgeous" to a woman is when they are interested, and women find that creepy unless they are also interested.

He may have good intentions at this point but this is one of those things that can slip into an affair while everyone is in denial.

OP here again. Just to clarify. Those texts messages I mentioned were from her to him. He doesn't seem to send anything to her like that at all. Mostly generic stuff about the run, the miles, weather, etc.

She is making a move on him. And he either likes it or is dumb. Shut it down!

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Anonymous wrote:The running wouldn't necessarily bother me- I could see myself working out with a guy friend- but the fact that he mentioned he finds her attractive and their texts are a big red flag. The only time I've ever heard men say "hey gorgeous" to a woman is when they are interested, and women find that creepy unless they are also interested.

He may have good intentions at this point but this is one of those things that can slip into an affair while everyone is in denial.

OP here again. Just to clarify. Those texts messages I mentioned were from her to him. He doesn't seem to send anything to her like that at all. Mostly generic stuff about the run, the miles, weather, etc.

She is making a move on him. And he either likes it or is dumb. Shut it down!

It's not good. It's setting him/her up for major trouble. It's a bad idea to spend so much time alone with someone of the opposite sex. They are bonding, having fun and that can lead to bad decisions.

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Anonymous wrote:The running wouldn't necessarily bother me- I could see myself working out with a guy friend- but the fact that he mentioned he finds her attractive and their texts are a big red flag. The only time I've ever heard men say "hey gorgeous" to a woman is when they are interested, and women find that creepy unless they are also interested.

He may have good intentions at this point but this is one of those things that can slip into an affair while everyone is in denial.

OP here again. Just to clarify. Those texts messages I mentioned were from her to him. He doesn't seem to send anything to her like that at all. Mostly generic stuff about the run, the miles, weather, etc.

She is making a move on him. And he either likes it or is dumb. Shut it down!