TwistdMike
11/03/2017 01:02
Subject: Re:DH got a tattoo
Anonymous wrote:Did you force him to get the tattoo or something? Is he like this with other things? He sounds unhinged and unable to deal with things. Please don't have kids with this man.
The DW keeps trying to push me into getting a tat, but I refuse to get "Mimi's Bitch" on my ass !
Anonymous
11/02/2017 21:13
Subject: Re:DH got a tattoo
I am sorry you are having to deal with this. I think you are being very supportive, not sure what more you can say or do expect to pray for him. I think the ball is in his court to continue with the tattoo until it is complete and/or go through the tattoo removal process. Take Care and God Bless!!
Anonymous
11/02/2017 20:10
Subject: Re:DH got a tattoo
I have "shorty" tattooed on my penis. But when I'm excited it reads "Shorty Johnson's Rotisserie and Delicatessen, Chattanooga Tennessee"
Anonymous
11/02/2017 13:14
Subject: Re:DH got a tattoo
Anonymous wrote:A good plastic surgeon will remove it for $2,000 but your husband sounds like an idiot so....I wouldn't spend my money on such foolishness
Easier to get it fixed than removed. I know someone going through the process of having a 3" high tat removed. It's MANY painful laser treatments over a long period of time. No one can say what it costs because they can't tell you for sure how many treatments it will take but she has spent over $2000 so far and still has a way to go.
Anonymous
11/02/2017 13:13
Subject: Re:DH got a tattoo
OP, are you married to Mike Tyson by chance?
Anonymous
11/01/2017 21:03
Subject: Re:DH got a tattoo
But seriously, have him Google "Tom Sandoval tattoo" to feel better.
If this is the extent of your DH's midlife crisis, consider yourself lucky.
Anonymous
11/01/2017 20:58
Subject: DH got a tattoo
Anonymous wrote:Carve it out of his skin with a box cutter.
This.
Anonymous
11/01/2017 20:49
Subject: Re:DH got a tattoo
A good plastic surgeon will remove it for $2,000 but your husband sounds like an idiot so....I wouldn't spend my money on such foolishness
Anonymous
11/01/2017 15:11
Subject: DH got a tattoo
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks! DH has actually calmed down quite a bit, he spent a lot of time this morning reading about tattoo regret is pretty normal and eventually goes away. He's going to talk with his tattooist and other ones in town to see if it can be fixed.
For those wondering- no, I didn't push him to get the tattoo. He had been thinking about it for awhile and decided to go for it. I didn't care either way.
In that case, when he returns to normal, you need to calmly talk to him about this and he needs to figure out why he was blaming you. If he can't enunciate it or if it makes no sense, he needs to get help. Hopefully, that calm conversation while help him see the light.
Because he was upset and anxious. No different then most women act (and I’m a woman by the way) when they feel the same strong, stressful feelings. It’s not right but nor does it need to be a long drawn out issue requiring follow ups. Haven’t we all overreacted at some point?
Anonymous
11/01/2017 14:01
Subject: DH got a tattoo
Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks! DH has actually calmed down quite a bit, he spent a lot of time this morning reading about tattoo regret is pretty normal and eventually goes away. He's going to talk with his tattooist and other ones in town to see if it can be fixed.
For those wondering- no, I didn't push him to get the tattoo. He had been thinking about it for awhile and decided to go for it. I didn't care either way.
In that case, when he returns to normal, you need to calmly talk to him about this and he needs to figure out why he was blaming you. If he can't enunciate it or if it makes no sense, he needs to get help. Hopefully, that calm conversation while help him see the light.
Anonymous
11/01/2017 13:55
Subject: DH got a tattoo
Anonymous wrote:Have him find the best tattoo artist within a 4 hour drive and get it fixed.
Good idea, I think we will do this. Thanks!
Anonymous
11/01/2017 13:30
Subject: DH got a tattoo
Anonymous wrote:Hubby and I don't have tattoos. We're secure in our own skin. LOL
LOL indeed. I can only assume you also don't have pierced ears, hair dye, any sort of cosmetic anything and you also don't wear makeup.
I don't have tattoos and I generally think they are a mistake, but you sound like a stupid person.
Anonymous
11/01/2017 13:29
Subject: DH got a tattoo
Have him find the best tattoo artist within a 4 hour drive and get it fixed.
Anonymous
11/01/2017 13:22
Subject: DH got a tattoo
Hubby and I don't have tattoos. We're secure in our own skin. LOL
Anonymous
11/01/2017 11:02
Subject: DH got a tattoo
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Divorce. What kind of an adult gets a tattoo? Ridiculous.
Plenty of them that don’t have enormous sticks up their asses.
OP, it’s probably sinking in his permanent a tattoo can be and I suspect that might be what’s driving this anxiety. I don’t agree that he should take it out on you and I don’t have any advice as to what you can possibly do differently because you do seem supportive and open to solutions with him which is the most he can ask. I tend to agree with you that he should have it finished before he makes a final decision because a lot of tattoos look incredibly different after they’re completely done. And a great tattoo artist can often cover up or alter almost anything!
He’s acting silly, but if it’s only been a few days, cut him a little slack. “Divorce” or “don’t have kids with this man!!” are a bit over dramatic. Imagine how you would feel if you got a really awful haircut or you colored your hair and it came out bright orange by accident. You’d probably freak for a few days too, imagining things like the only way to fix it was to shave your head and things like that. This seems like the same to me (and I’ve been down that hair color road before). Let him vent, indulge him a few days and be a good listener. Keep doing what you’re doing and I bet after the shock finally wears off things will be normal again.
This is one incident.
"Acting silly" isn't waking someone up in the middle of the night to blame them for something they didn't do. That's insanity.