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Anonymous wrote:There's never a perfect time to start a family, OP. It may not feel that way, but it's true.

If you aren't starting school for another year, why not start trying now? If nothing happens after a few months of trying, you can always reevaluate. If it happens right away, you'd have an almost-1 year old by the time the program started and an almost 3- year old by the time you graduate. That's much different than having a newborn. You won't have any spare time, but it's certainly doable.

I'm if Op got pregnant now, she will have a newborn when starting school. I don't understand how you got a 1 year old. Is she has school in a year ( let's say next fall), and gets pregnant now, she will deliver in August or September. That's having a newborn while stating school, like she said.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am fine with having 1 or 2 and adopting if needed. Like I previously stated, I am well aware of the risks, but they are greatly overblown. Women of any age can have complications. Yes, 35 and had increased risks, but it's not as bad as some of you are making seem. I'm in very good health, and I have worked with many women who have had children as late as their 40's. I've also had 3 sets of couple friend who started at 32-35, and had 2-3 in the span of 1.5 - 5 years. My closest friend had her children at 34 and got pregnant with her second at 8 months old. It can happen.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am fine with having 1 or 2 and adopting if needed. Like I previously stated, I am well aware of the risks, but they are greatly overblown. Women of any age can have complications. Yes, 35 and had increased risks, but it's not as bad as some of you are making seem. I'm in very good health, and I have worked with many women who have had children as late as their 40's. I've also had 3 sets of couple friend who started at 32-35, and had 2-3 in the span of 1.5 - 5 years. My closest friend had her children at 34 and got pregnant with her second at 8 months old. It can happen.

Adoption is a lot more complicated and time consuming than you seem to think. It's not like you can just go to Walmart and pick up a baby while you're getting paper towels or whatever at age 38.

This forum skews toward older women who statistically have a harder time getting pregnant. I had my first at 28 after being off birth control for 3 whole weeks. Started TTC #2 when #1 was 18 months old and spent the next year and a half having miscarriage after unexplained miscarriage (3 total).

The word for your stories above is "anecdata." It sounds scientific but it's not. It's just stories of people you know and their experiences.

Perhaps you could compromise at waiting a year and change and then TTC. It'll still take almost a year between when you decide to do that and when the baby arrives.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people won't have trouble having kids at 35-39. Problem is you don't know if you're most people.

I'd do some testing with my OB. They can tell you a decent amount through some simple bloodwork in terms of whether or not you're looking like an early fertility decliner. No guarantees though in any case.

Agree with this.

Also, if he's anxious to start sooner rather than later, is he willing to be the default parent while you're still in school? Will you be able to afford lots of help? Do you have family around who could help? My sister is having her third right now while getting her MBA and working at a (more than) full time, very demanding job and her DH is out of town for work quite a bit. She makes it work but depends incredibly heavily on my parents and her MIL to help her. If she and her husband didn't have that help, she couldn't manage the MBA program or the job.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am fine with having 1 or 2 and adopting if needed. Like I previously stated, I am well aware of the risks, but they are greatly overblown. Women of any age can have complications. Yes, 35 and had increased risks, but it's not as bad as some of you are making seem. I'm in very good health, and I have worked with many women who have had children as late as their 40's. I've also had 3 sets of couple friend who started at 32-35, and had 2-3 in the span of 1.5 - 5 years. My closest friend had her children at 34 and got pregnant with her second at 8 months old. It can happen.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am fine with having 1 or 2 and adopting if needed. Like I previously stated, I am well aware of the risks, but they are greatly overblown. Women of any age can have complications. Yes, 35 and had increased risks, but it's not as bad as some of you are making seem. I'm in very good health, and I have worked with many women who have had children as late as their 40's. I've also had 3 sets of couple friend who started at 32-35, and had 2-3 in the span of 1.5 - 5 years. My closest friend had her children at 34 and got pregnant with her second at 8 months old. It can happen.

That's not in question. Of course it can happen. You can also get pregnant when you have a newborn -- that doesn't mean it's safe or smart.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am fine with having 1 or 2 and adopting if needed. Like I previously stated, I am well aware of the risks, but they are greatly overblown. Women of any age can have complications. Yes, 35 and had increased risks, but it's not as bad as some of you are making seem. I'm in very good health, and I have worked with many women who have had children as late as their 40's. I've also had 3 sets of couple friend who started at 32-35, and had 2-3 in the span of 1.5 - 5 years. My closest friend had her children at 34 and got pregnant with her second at 8 months old. It can happen.

Anonymous wrote:There's never a perfect time to start a family, OP. It may not feel that way, but it's true.

If you aren't starting school for another year, why not start trying now? If nothing happens after a few months of trying, you can always reevaluate. If it happens right away, you'd have an almost-1 year old by the time the program started and an almost 3- year old by the time you graduate. That's much different than having a newborn. You won't have any spare time, but it's certainly doable.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am fine with having 1 or 2 and adopting if needed. Like I previously stated, I am well aware of the risks, but they are greatly overblown. Women of any age can have complications. Yes, 35 and had increased risks, but it's not as bad as some of you are making seem. I'm in very good health, and I have worked with many women who have had children as late as their 40's. I've also had 3 sets of couple friend who started at 32-35, and had 2-3 in the span of 1.5 - 5 years. My closest friend had her children at 34 and got pregnant with her second at 8 months old. It can happen.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am fine with having 1 or 2 and adopting if needed. Like I previously stated, I am well aware of the risks, but they are greatly overblown. Women of any age can have complications. Yes, 35 and had increased risks, but it's not as bad as some of you are making seem. I'm in very good health, and I have worked with many women who have had children as late as their 40's. I've also had 3 sets of couple friend who started at 32-35, and had 2-3 in the span of 1.5 - 5 years. My closest friend had her children at 34 and got pregnant with her second at 8 months old. It can happen.

Ok then why did you ask us?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am fine with having 1 or 2 and adopting if needed. Like I previously stated, I am well aware of the risks, but they are greatly overblown. Women of any age can have complications. Yes, 35 and had increased risks, but it's not as bad as some of you are making seem. I'm in very good health, and I have worked with many women who have had children as late as their 40's. I've also had 3 sets of couple friend who started at 32-35, and had 2-3 in the span of 1.5 - 5 years. My closest friend had her children at 34 and got pregnant with her second at 8 months old. It can happen.

Ok then why did you ask us?

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am fine with having 1 or 2 and adopting if needed. Like I previously stated, I am well aware of the risks, but they are greatly overblown. Women of any age can have complications. Yes, 35 and had increased risks, but it's not as bad as some of you are making seem. I'm in very good health, and I have worked with many women who have had children as late as their 40's. I've also had 3 sets of couple friend who started at 32-35, and had 2-3 in the span of 1.5 - 5 years. My closest friend had her children at 34 and got pregnant with her second at 8 months old. It can happen.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am fine with having 1 or 2 and adopting if needed. Like I previously stated, I am well aware of the risks, but they are greatly overblown. Women of any age can have complications. Yes, 35 and had increased risks, but it's not as bad as some of you are making seem. I'm in very good health, and I have worked with many women who have had children as late as their 40's. I've also had 3 sets of couple friend who started at 32-35, and had 2-3 in the span of 1.5 - 5 years. My closest friend had her children at 34 and got pregnant with her second at 8 months old. It can happen.