Anonymous
Post 10/28/2017 15:53     Subject: How Much To Spend on Engagement Ring?
When my sister got engaged, they went and tried on bunch of styles and confirmed her
ring size. She picked out 3 styles and had her now husband pick one when he was ready to purchase, so they both felt like they had some say in the situation.

I just dropped hints about my Pinterest board and my husband nailed the style.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2017 15:44     Subject: How Much To Spend on Engagement Ring?
OP, please listen to the PP who said you should pick it out together, or at a minimum ask her sister/friend for advice. This has nothing to do with whether or not you are “qualified” to pick out the ring and everything to do with the fact that you want her to LOVE it - everyday for the rest of her life.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2017 15:41     Subject: How Much To Spend on Engagement Ring?
OP is clearly a girlfriend.
Anyway, whatever the two of you are comfortable with.
I know people that didn't spend a dime and I know people that spent well over $20,000.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2017 15:32     Subject: How Much To Spend on Engagement Ring?
Anonymous wrote:I find the whole thing to be a strange sexist tradition.

Everytime I see a Facebook post with a flashy ring and all the comments - about don't let him get away and you found yourself a good one and so lucky to have gotten a guy who spoils you... It is all so sexist.

Op. I hope your ring is expensive enough for your girlfriend to decide you have bought your way in and so she says yes.

A marriage based on proving your love with material things so that she thinks you are worth having in her life. Too bad she can't just love you and want to say yes and marry you for you...without you needing to hold out a very expensive diamond in front of you in the hopes that will add to your wroth enough to get a yes.


Well good thing OP isn't giving you a ring and asking you to be his wife then.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2017 15:31     Subject: Re:How Much To Spend on Engagement Ring?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am in a good financial position. I am 34 and make 150k with no debt. I am a big saver and can easily pay in cash. She is not materialistic but I know would love a nice ring. She's petite at 5'1. I found a 2 carat asscher cut diamond ring with a petite pace 1/4ct band. She has always loved the asscher cut ring.


* pave.

My girlfriend is not materialistic and never asks for things. That's why I want to spend a good amount on a ring for her.


This sounds nice. My only suggestion is that you ask and then you two choose a ring together. Just set a budget and then she can choose something she likes and wants to wear every day for the rest of her life.


Op here. I want it to be a surprise. I feel that weird to make her pick one out. Like I'm too incompetent to do it myself.


Not incompetent, but personally if I am going to wear something every day for the rest of my life I would like to have some say in what that is and looks like. My husband would have gotten me a huge round stone on a plain band if left to his own devices. I would have worn it because he gave it to me with all of his heart but it's not what I would choose for myself. Instead he asked me to marry him and we chose the ring together -- cushion cut bezel set with milgrain. I love it. He loves that I love it.

But you do what you feel is best.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2017 15:22     Subject: How Much To Spend on Engagement Ring?
I find the whole thing to be a strange sexist tradition.

Everytime I see a Facebook post with a flashy ring and all the comments - about don't let him get away and you found yourself a good one and so lucky to have gotten a guy who spoils you... It is all so sexist.

Op. I hope your ring is expensive enough for your girlfriend to decide you have bought your way in and so she says yes.

A marriage based on proving your love with material things so that she thinks you are worth having in her life. Too bad she can't just love you and want to say yes and marry you for you...without you needing to hold out a very expensive diamond in front of you in the hopes that will add to your wroth enough to get a yes.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2017 15:02     Subject: Re:How Much To Spend on Engagement Ring?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am in a good financial position. I am 34 and make 150k with no debt. I am a big saver and can easily pay in cash. She is not materialistic but I know would love a nice ring. She's petite at 5'1. I found a 2 carat asscher cut diamond ring with a petite pace 1/4ct band. She has always loved the asscher cut ring.


* pave.

My girlfriend is not materialistic and never asks for things. That's why I want to spend a good amount on a ring for her.


This sounds nice. My only suggestion is that you ask and then you two choose a ring together. Just set a budget and then she can choose something she likes and wants to wear every day for the rest of her life.


Op here. I want it to be a surprise. I feel that weird to make her pick one out. Like I'm too incompetent to do it myself.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2017 15:00     Subject: How Much To Spend on Engagement Ring?
Anonymous wrote:Buy her a cheap cubic zerconium. She will just deny sex after a her of marriage. No use for spending that money on to have blue balls for the rest of hour life.


Please, thread hijsckers, stop bringing your issues to this thread. It’s not about you.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2017 14:54     Subject: Re:How Much To Spend on Engagement Ring?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am in a good financial position. I am 34 and make 150k with no debt. I am a big saver and can easily pay in cash. She is not materialistic but I know would love a nice ring. She's petite at 5'1. I found a 2 carat asscher cut diamond ring with a petite pace 1/4ct band. She has always loved the asscher cut ring.


* pave.

My girlfriend is not materialistic and never asks for things. That's why I want to spend a good amount on a ring for her.


This sounds nice. My only suggestion is that you ask and then you two choose a ring together. Just set a budget and then she can choose something she likes and wants to wear every day for the rest of her life.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2017 14:53     Subject: How Much To Spend on Engagement Ring?
Buy her a cheap cubic zerconium. She will just deny sex after a her of marriage. No use for spending that money on to have blue balls for the rest of hour life.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2017 14:52     Subject: How Much To Spend on Engagement Ring?
Anonymous wrote:None.

You shouldn't have to buy her love, or prove your ability to provide, or put on a show of material goods to earn your right to marry her.

The right amount could be no ring, a sentimental ring of low value, a very cheap ring that was creative and unique and had meaning.

Spending thousands on one piece of jewelry to me is madness and the sign that advertising campaigns work.

Key words here are "to you." If this man wants to buy a ring and she wants to receive it, then that's between the two of them. The question wasn't whether or not you liked it or not.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2017 14:52     Subject: How Much To Spend on Engagement Ring?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't worry about the cost so much. I would try my hardest to find as ethical a diamond as I can. I know there have been some problems with the blood diamond registry, but there are ways to make Almost sure that you are not getting a Blood Diamond.

If she is not materialistic, I am sure she would appreciate getting something that doesn't exist purely because of the blood and labor of children and other slave labor that finances terrorism



Omg. Be quiet with your bs.[/quote

Do you care to explain how my comment is BS? I have plenty of jewelry and a few diamonds. All of them are at least reported to be ethically mined Etc. Why would that bother you?]

I'm guessing a pretty flashy Diamond you can brag about is more important to you than where it came from. It's the only reason I can imagine that you would have a problem with trying to ethically-sourced a jewel
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2017 14:49     Subject: How Much To Spend on Engagement Ring?
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't worry about the cost so much. I would try my hardest to find as ethical a diamond as I can. I know there have been some problems with the blood diamond registry, but there are ways to make Almost sure that you are not getting a Blood Diamond.

If she is not materialistic, I am sure she would appreciate getting something that doesn't exist purely because of the blood and labor of children and other slave labor that finances terrorism



Omg. Be quiet with your bs.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2017 14:45     Subject: How Much To Spend on Engagement Ring?
I wouldn't worry about the cost so much. I would try my hardest to find as ethical a diamond as I can. I know there have been some problems with the blood diamond registry, but there are ways to make Almost sure that you are not getting a Blood Diamond.

If she is not materialistic, I am sure she would appreciate getting something that doesn't exist purely because of the blood and labor of children and other slave labor that finances terrorism
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2017 14:31     Subject: Re:How Much To Spend on Engagement Ring?
Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am in a good financial position. I am 34 and make 150k with no debt. I am a big saver and can easily pay in cash. She is not materialistic but I know would love a nice ring. She's petite at 5'1. I found a 2 carat asscher cut diamond ring with a petite pace 1/4ct band. She has always loved the asscher cut ring.


* pave.

My girlfriend is not materialistic and never asks for things. That's why I want to spend a good amount on a ring for her.