The Bargain Hunters board is the only one worth visiting on Babycenter. Make sure you create a new thread introducing yourself and ask where the bargains are. That's how you make friends over there.

Anonymous wrote:I joined and left a moms group on Facebook on the same day because it was all “hey y’all! I’m Kynzee, I’m 21, engaged to a great guy, and I have an 11 month old and another one on the way! I’m a stay at home mom and my awesome fiancé is in the Army! We live with my parents and I love essential oils!” Nope. Not gonna happen.

This is so hilariously accurate.

Babycenter does tend to skew younger and less affluent. Lots of posts about drama associated with living in multigenerational households with the boyfriend/baby's father, fighting for control over finances and decision making with parents or parents-in-law. The problems you see expressed there aren't the problems of the average DCUM mom - they aren't even the problems of an average middle class married woman.

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, pretty much every baby forum and the due date groups on FB are like that. It’s horrible if you want real support and actually factual information, and not “vaccines cause autisms watch VAXXED!!!! Buy my essential oils instead #oilymom”

Agree. I gave up on using Babycenter pretty early on in my pregnancy due to the nuttiness. I checked back in with my "birth board" or whatever they called it when I was on maternity leave and it was still some of the most ignorant sh*t I'd ever seen in my life, only the antivax stuff had kicked in by that point as well to take it to a whole new level of stupid.

And DCUM is b*tchery doesn't have anything on the meangirl crap from BC. DCUM may be snarky but at least it's funny, BC is just ignorant middle school drama between women who should maybe be focusing on the children they're having.

Why all the hate on DCUM for essential oils? Geez.

I felt the same way about forums I browsed when wedding planning, especially Wedding Wire and Wedding Bee

Babycenter is awful. It makes me sad that so many babies are born to uneducated moms like those. SO much baby daddy drama and unneeded stress they have in their lives. Feel bad for those babies.

I joined and left a moms group on Facebook on the same day because it was all “hey y’all! I’m Kynzee, I’m 21, engaged to a great guy, and I have an 11 month old and another one on the way! I’m a stay at home mom and my awesome fiancé is in the Army! We live with my parents and I love essential oils!” Nope. Not gonna happen.

Anonymous wrote:I’ve lurked there a while in the forum with the same birth month, and I feel like an asshole for saying this, but they all seem so young and immature. It’s kind of interesting to see the difference between DC and the rest of the country this way (eg we’re asking about night nurses and private rooms and they’re splitting up from boyfriends and being laid off factory jobs). Makes me feel fortunate in many ways but kind of sad for some of the kids who are on that forum and face a tough road ahead.

God, I thank you that I am not like other men.

My kid is a preschooler now but when she was pregnant I found the subject-specific forums on babycenter to be very useful, in particular the gestational diabetes one.

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Anonymous wrote:I checked out baby center when I was first pregnant, but I just couldn't deal with how uneducated everyone seemed. If OP is judgy, so am I.

+1. I'd rather be around mean, smart people than sweet, dumb people. I know enough of the latter in real life

(Plus, DCUM people can also be really kind and generous; I definitely got a lot of support when I posted about my miscarriage.)

I don’t think Expectant Moms is a bad forum at all. General Parenting can get a little rude but even there, the rudest people are called out. I feel like only the real estate forum, jobs, and Off Topic can get really snarky.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t judge. People in DC produce nothing about hot air.

^ but

Don’t judge. People in DC produce nothing about hot air.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve lurked there a while in the forum with the same birth month, and I feel like an asshole for saying this, but they all seem so young and immature. It’s kind of interesting to see the difference between DC and the rest of the country this way (eg we’re asking about night nurses and private rooms and they’re splitting up from boyfriends and being laid off factory jobs). Makes me feel fortunate in many ways but kind of sad for some of the kids who are on that forum and face a tough road ahead.

Right, yes. DCUM is representative of DC, and Babycenter is representative of everyone else in the rest of the country. You sound like an idiot

In poor areas of the country, sadly, I think it's pretty spot on.

Well, sure, maybe. But believe it or not there are many (many, many) other areas of the country aside from "DC" and "poor areas of the country"

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, pretty much every baby forum and the due date groups on FB are like that. It’s horrible if you want real support and actually factual information, and not “vaccines cause autisms watch VAXXED!!!! Buy my essential oils instead #oilymom”

LOL so true. Include a belly shot of someone clad in LulaRoe and it covers 90% of those forums.

Haha we scoff at LulaRoe so much on this board (for good reason, MLM sucks) but I am a PP who found baby center too dumb and will admit to having a lularoe dress and a few pairs of leggings that were a god send during the first and second trimesters. I originally bought the dress from someone just to be nice (and had it altered to fit better) and it ended up being one of my favorite early pregnancy dresses that I got complimented on whenever I wore it. I will probably never buy any more lularoe though...